I am a pediatric home health nurse and I have a busy and active life outside of work with graduate school and family responsibilities. My company says I am one of the best nurses they have. The parents I work with often complement me on how I work with their children and how I am a good nurse. I understand that parents are stressed with a sick child and are struggling to manage their stress. On a few different occasions with different families, the moms have made a point to imply or out-right comment on my weight. I am 5'9" and I could probably use to lose about 40 lbs. I am active with weight-lifting and swimming on my own time and my weight is "well-distributed" as my best friend told me. Despite needing to lose weight I still have a 4-pack (just can't get the last 2) and I have good muscle tone under the layer of fat from weightlifting. I am in a weight loss program and I am trying to make an effort because I want to be healthy and feel comfortable in my body and be a good example for my family.
I mention all this so you can have an idea of where I am coming from. As a teenager I had an eating disorder and having these moms comment on my weight out of no where makes it hard for me to not turn to old, bad habits of emotional/stress-eating or anorexia. I think it is worse because I don't know how to respond to these insults.
My weight has no bearing on my effectiveness as a nurse and even the moms who make these comments tell my supervisor that I am a really good nurse to their children. I have had these comments come from moms who are really skinny and plump. (I also feel weird when I get compliments as well
I want to be professional but I am uncertain how to respond. What suggestions do you guys have? I don't feel like this is something that I need to tell my supervisor, but I am making notes in a personal record of when things like this are said so I show to my supervisor why I might need to leave working with a particular family.
How do you guys handle room comments in a professional manner? What do you do to avoid feel shame and to stay resilient?