On Being Blunt....or Nice....

[fyrephish, ADN, RN]

I'm doing very well in my chemistry class. I have a grade of 99 so far. Yay me. Anyways, I have become increasingly frustrated with other classmates in my lab (not my lab partner) coming over to me to ask for explanations of the lab work or what answer I got.

I've been too nice so far, and trying to help, but frankly last lab I got very frustrated because I was trying to grasp the material myself and with the constant interruptions I wasn't able to finish my lab work during the time allotted. This was not truly a big deal because all the experimental work had been done we were just analyzing the data.

Who here has run into that kind of situation? What was your approach? I'm feeling like being blunt, but I'm very non-confrontational and need to grow a pair I think. Seems like it would be a useful nursing skill to be able to speak my mind when I have objections. The professor seems to be okay with us helping each other or at the very least unaware.

[chevygirl1987]

I have had similar experience, i eventually said I'm figuring it out myself right now and directed them to the lab instructor.

You should not have to spend extra time, which could be spent studying for other things, teaching classmates. If you have time and inclination to help others, have at it, but you are not obligated.

[cracklingkraken, ASN, RN]

I agree with PP. I'm very non-confrontational as well. I like to say, "I need to finish my work, but I'm sure the instructor could answer your questions." Very neutral response.

[KThurmond]

I'd be honest. Say I don't mind helping you some other time but right now your interrupting me learning the material myself

[Dd04321]

I have experienced the same problem you are. Just be honest with them since it's bothering you. Tell them that the instructor is their best resource. Your education is important, and don't let anyone interfere with your ability to learn. You're in no way required to assist them. You're taking initiative in your education and they should do the same with theirs.

[goddess9]

I have the same issues. I come on strong and definitely present as knowledgeable, but I don't want to get stuck in a cycle where I'm helping them more than I help myself. I'm hoping honesty is the best policy.

[Mavrick, BSN, RN]

I don't remember people doing this so much in grade school, but by high school and beyond you learn when you're being taken advantage of by leeches. They arrive late, get involved in social chat so you get ahead of them. Then they sidle on over to your work station and hitch a ride. They just want the answers, don't want to know how you got there then flip on out the door leaving you to clean up, offering nothing in exchange to you.

Yep, grow your pair. You can certainly be nice but straight in telling them the instructor will be happy to help. You have to acknowledge to yourself it's a blow to your ego not to be their little savior. That's how they work their little hooks into you.

As said before, you are responsible for your education, not theirs.

Best to you.