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I had no preconceived notion of WHAT Nursing was when I went back to school at age 30. Twelve years later, this is what I've learned about Nursing:

Nursing is NOT a Fairy Tale...there very often is no "happily ever after." Yes, there are many times of great joy and accomplishment... but you're never given a guarantee.

Nursing is HARD... as Nurses we face countless situations and crises each and everyday. Many of these have no solutions, no happy endings, no logical explainations. We deal with people who are not at their finest hour; they're scared, angry, confused, disillusioned and looking for something/someone to lash out at for their misery.

Nursing requires FLEXIBILITY... we have to think fast, act even faster, be all things to all people all at the same time, react to changes in patient status quickly and expected to make the right decision.

Nursing demands that we think OUTSIDE the box...that means looking at our Profession as more than just assisting a delivering mother, suctioning a trach patient, titrating a drip in ICU, to include educating family/friends/physicians/each other. To expect that the "typical" patient very likely will become "Atypical"... and at the worst possible time... and to accept that this happens, because it is entirely out of our control.

Nursing is not about CONTROL...see above. You can't MAKE the COPD or PVD patient stop smoking, you can't MAKE the diabetic adhere to their diet, you can't MAKE the at risk mother-to-be follow doctors orders that can help ensure a safe, successful delivery, you can't MAKE the substance abuser abstain and you can't MAKE a new nurse not do all those things that new nurses do that make us all roll our eyes.

Nursing is NOT 9-5, Monday thru Friday, Holidays Off...it is on occasion not spending your days safely cloistered in your specialty "niche"... because sometimes...even though you don't know everything about other areas of Nursing... you CAN provide a certain amount of care... care that would otherwise be unavailable at possibly a crucial moment on that Unit you've been asked to go to.

Nursing requires COMPASSION; for our patient's (compliant or not), physicians, New Grads, families, ancillary personel, administrators, TPTB AND each other.

Nursing requires TEAMWORK...even when you don't want to be a part of the team.

Nursing is FRUSTRATING...and the best any of us can do sometimes, is to simply remember why we're where we are... and know in our hearts that today we did the best we could do for THAT particular day...and do this even when we don't feel like it, even when we sense something is unfair.

Nursing offers OPPORTUNITIES... to make change in a patient's status, to comfort a grieving family, to realize changes in policy/protocol/procedures because we believe in what we do and we know that our actions can lead to an improvement in our Profession. Nursing offers countless opportunities for ourselves....

Nursing is REWARDING... when miracles do occur...we're here to witness them in all their Glory.

Nursing requires an Open Mind and an Open Heart...

We need to support one another...regardless of what circumstances or situations brought us into the Profession called Nursing. We all come to this place with our own gifts and talents...and we need to ENCOURAGE each other so those gifts and talents may shine. We need to ACT in a Professional manner in dress and in conduct so that others around us will know and SEE the Professionals that we are.

I'm not suggesting ANYONE just lie down and take what they're handed at work without question... We need to promote what needs promoting and work hard to rid our workplace of what needs to be removed. But there are those times in our Profession, as in Life, when we need to say "OK... today isn't the day to challenge this or that...today is a day to be the best Nurse I can be and face the other challenges at a more appropriate time."

Choose your battles...time and place. Make those times of battle count and don't make EVERYDAY a battle. No one wants to work with someone like that. If you're argumentative on a regular basis, you're wearing out your co-workers... and your goal, however admirable and just, won't be heard.

I appreciate and respect the opportunity this site provides for everyone to voice their opinon... TO VENT THEIR FRUSTRATIONS and to share their joys and victories... their fears and sorrows. I hope those of you who read this post will respect and appreciate my taking this opportunity to share my own views, and to read between the lines of my message. And if I've ever offended anyone on this site, my apologies... sometimes I feel the need to vent too.

I love nursing... I admire and respect Nurses... and each and everyone of us deserves more recognition than any of us will ever get.

Be kind....

Peace:)

I used to be a weekend supervisor and did shift staffing for PMs and noc shift. We did not have agencies either, just our own staff. I know that it is just easier to count on the nurses staying over than it is to get on the phone and really DIG. It is easy to take advantage of kind-hearted nurses. They love one another. I never did this. Sometimes I would get sores on my chin from the phone from calling and calling. I never did not get enough help. I even cried once on the phone trying to staff ICU. That worked, but only because nurses are wonderful.:) It is a nightmare sometimes. You should have seen my face when I discovered that they could bring trauma patients in on the 'copter in pairs!

I don't know what the answer is. I would stay over too, just because I did not want the staff to suffer. I loved my sisters and brothers. Yes, it is getting taken for granted and walked on. But as long as we succumb to it, it will happen. A really vicious circle and no easy solution. Alas, at least I can not think of one.:o

Originally posted by mattsmom81

But what do we do when the supe says two nurses have called in and there's nobody to call in, no agency available, no staff that can be pulled? And we've gotta ICU full of unstable patients....

I couldn't sleep nights if I said "I refuse to be used" and walk out on my crying coworkers who will be left dangerously short staffed if I go...

I don't do this for the facility but for my coworkers...and they will reciprocate some night when I'm in similar straits.

We just do the best we can to support one another...I can't punish my sisters and brothers because administration has planned poorly. I realize this may be counterproductive, as the hospital comes to rely on this tactic to staff....but what do we do??

What have ya'll done in this situation? Am I wrong to stay over??:o

Mattsmom, I feel the same way you do. I cannot leave knowing that the unit is short staffed, even if it is a result of poor planning. And I also know that the hospital does rely on these tactics. I am not staying for the hospital, but for my patients and co workers. It does make it easier to stay knowing that our Unit Manager and Clinical Coordinator stay or come in on their days off as frequently as any of the staff

same here mattsmom81, when I try to explain to my boyfriend why I have to wk late he really doesnt understand. Like you I could not leave my co-wkers in a bind. It gets kinda old though when everyone just expects you to stay over come in on my days off ect. most of the time I am off I have to carry a beeper around with me "just in case". I kinda got worried though when my 7 year old was having a play conversation on her little phone and I quote"I cant come in today it is my day off and I have plans,okay I be there when I can but this is the last time!!!" I guess she listens better to my phone calls than I thought. Oh well another day another dollar right

Originally posted by stressedlpn

same here mattsmom81, when I try to explain to my boyfriend why I have to wk late he really doesnt understand. Like you I could not leave my co-wkers in a bind. It gets kinda old though when everyone just expects you to stay over come in on my days off ect. most of the time I am off I have to carry a beeper around with me "just in case". I kinda got worried though when my 7 year old was having a play conversation on her little phone and I quote"I cant come in today it is my day off and I have plans,okay I be there when I can but this is the last time!!!" I guess she listens better to my phone calls than I thought. Oh well another day another dollar right

Sometimes little ones can give you a new perspective. A while ago I had been doing a lot of overtime, and hadn't seen my daughter or her kids for over a month. She made her point by bringing the kids to the hospital to see me. The five year old asked me if I still lived with Grandpa, or did I live at the hospital now. I still work overtime, and I still will not leave my coworkers in a bind, but my family comes first.

Specializes in Community Health Nurse.
originally posted by fgr8out

nite nite renee**** thank you for all that you do and bring to this site.

peace:)

sister nightowl........you know you're going to be up all night hootin' don't you......cause owls don't sleep at night.......so while you're up hootin' and all......say a little hoot for me why don't cha! ;) :lol2: :kiss

oh....btw.....here's a little toddy for ya body to keep your hooter wet. :chuckle

so sorry...on july 28, 2002, i came back and removed my martini glass from this page. hope the drink was good for ya boddy! :kiss

Specializes in Community Health Nurse.
originally posted by mattsmom81

renee, sweetie, you are such a hoot! :)

will you be my adopted big sis? pretty please?:roll

here i am babygirl.....the sos service has arrived in full colors of red to save your day! :chuckle oh....btw.....just how big a sister are ya talkin' bout? :rotfl:

ya know i luvvy wuvvy you, mattsmom81!:kiss

ahem....81!!!maybe you need to be my big sis! as "arnold" could only say: "what choo talkin' 'bout gurl?" :lol2:

originally posted by cheerfuldoer

here i am babygirl.....the sos service has arrived in full colors of red to save your day! :chuckle oh....btw.....just how big a sister are ya talkin' bout? :rotfl:

lol! truth be told, sometimes i'm weary of being the oldest in my family (also the biggest) but who's really watching the scale?? hehe. us fluffy ones give great hugs and my hubby says he don't like hugging a bag of bones anyway, so guess i'm doing ok...lol!

i always said i wanted a big sis of my own since i never had one. ((sniff))....no special requirements....just need a sis type 1 or 2 years older and wiser than me to bounce things off of occasionally, know what i mean?. :)

'course you already do a great job of big sissing around here...:) i do so appreciate your positive words and attitude specially when i'm having a low day! :kiss

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