SoulShine75 Nov 14, 2004 Lack of planned babysitting on her part doesn't make it an emergency for you. :) I know you're right and I really don't know why I'm feeling guilty about it or stressing myself about it anyway. I guess because I already said NO, but more politely ofcourse. I just feel that people don't take me seriously or that they take advantage of me and I guess that makes me more mad at myself than anything. 0 Likes
IMustBeCrazy Nov 14, 2004 Soul,Start practicing "no" now and mean it, or you will be a lamb for the slaughter at the hospital when they try to call you in on your planned days off and you feel too guilty to say no. 0 Likes
NurseFirst Nov 14, 2004 soul,start practicing "no" now and mean it, or you will be a lamb for the slaughter at the hospital when they try to call you in on your planned days off and you feel too guilty to say no. when i say no, i feel guilty by manuel smith. it's been out for over 20 years, and is the book on assertiveness training (it's in paperback). assertiveness training is not something ugly or hostile, but simply rather a set of skills that keep you from becoming a doormat to others--especially people like employers and retail stores where you are not receiving satisfaction in your purchase.a variation of the phrase someone mentioned, i used to put up where i worked (in the computer industry):"poor planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on my part."i was willing to help my co-workers out when they did plan poorly, however, i used it as a means to fix it so that they wouldn't do that in the future!!! people need to know when they are imposing on you due to their own issues--otherwise the impositions will continue...nursefirst 0 Likes
