Do you work w/ a bully?

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HM2VikingRN, RN

4,700 Posts

Thanks for all the supportive words! I am trying to ignore her and just do my job but when it affects the care of my pts. (like when she and her "clique" don't help me when I have 2 or more laboring/delivering pts.) then it really angers me! As far as "talking about me in report", she verbally assaulted me in front of the other staff! I was giving morning report on that 1 ICN baby that was going out to the floor that day and she jumped all over me about not removing the gavage tube first. She was hollering and belittling me in front of all my coworkers. They all were looking away, nobody would look me in the eye, and I felt like I was being beat up in front of a crowd. I realize that she will eventually burn most of her bridges but I don't know if I can take this abuse until then. I don't really care what she says to other people but I feel like when I have to work w/ her, I'm so self-conscious and second guess myself, thus making it seem like I'm inept and not as efficient as I'm used to being. I realize it's a big head game and don't want to let her win but, being a 10-yr. breast cancer survivor, I realize life is too short to put up w/ this crap.

Thanks again for all the insights and support!

Vroom

First rule of leadership is praise in public and reprimand in private. I have a particular hate for bullies after undergoing a serial bullying for 3 years.

Personally, I would schedule a meeting with HR. Write up a first person account with names of witnesses. Bring a union rep with to the meeting. This may very well be a grievable incident. I would also write a letter detailing how this may be establishing a hostile work environment.

Best of luck in pushing back.

ohmeowzer RN, RN

2,306 Posts

Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.
Welcome back to the club of hospital nursing! If it were me, I'd look at it this way - "I am an NP. I have a ton of education and knowledge that they do not have. So who cares what they think. If the charge dares to yell at me in public again I will calmly ask her to go elsewhere to speak to me. If she does not I will simply walk away. I am a better person than they are because I treat all people as I wish to be treated. But I will not allow them to make me miserable."

exactly.. you are a NP and you deserve respect ( we all do).. you have more knowledge and expirence than these nurses.. they should be happy to have you. congrats on being a cancer survior. awesome.. i think that is wonderful .. give yourself a hug for me. i agree with you RN 1989.. you are so right...

SmilingBluEyes

20,964 Posts

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Respect is a two way street. Give some, get some. If people are bullying or harassing you, take them aside in private, and discuss why you won't tolerate it.

SmilingBluEyes

20,964 Posts

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

A helpful resource I frequently point out for folks who are dealing with workplace bullying:

http://www.bullyonline.org

nightmare, RN

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Specializes in Nursing Home ,Dementia Care,Neurology..

"my dept. director has placed me on a committee to do annual mandatory urit education and has made me a student preceptor as she believes in my abilities. "

Presumably this nurse is not on the committee and is jealous of a relative newcomer getting on.Typical bully trying to put you down to make herself better. I hate bullies!!!:angryfireI had reason to wipe the floor with one the other day,she hasn't looked me in the eye since.:angryfire

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