Nursing is detroying my home life!

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To all those thinking of nursing:

My wife and I have been married for 12 years, 7 years ago she decided to become a nurse, and my life has been in a downward spiral ever since.

She has abandoned our son, I am the soul parent, I care for him, do the laundry, do the PTA, cook the meals, pay the bills, and try to run my business at the same time!

This 'wonderful', 'caring' profession does nothing but suck the life out of everyone it touches!

My wife for example has given up on having friends, being intimate, or staying healthy.I workout 5 days a week trying to stay fit and attractive for her. Meanwhile, she has gained 40lbs (which does really bother me other than my concern for her family hx of typeII diabetes), she now smokes, has high BP, and frankly has turned into a hateful, belligerent person!

She berates all of our friends because 'they don't understand', blah, blah, blah! Well, I know what stress is like I was a paramedic and worked in Law Enforcement for 10 years!

This career is horrific! It is ruining my life.

I hope Flo Nightingale is rotting in HELL!

Oh yeah, and she developed a gambling addiction as well! :banghead:

One last thought, all you single, 50 something baby boomers quit whining! You are part of the problem. My wife works weekends because you won't.

"Oh we deserve it!"

Do you have a BSN, MSN, CCRN? Do stay current or do constantly nag about all them youngin's?

"I'm not giving up my cushy spot! I don't work weekends!"

Forget you! You are crashing medicare and taking space! I weep for son's future because you stole it!

Go smoke pot and play with your cats!

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You've got problems that extend beyond the behavior of your wife. We can't help you here. You've indicated that yourself.

Yeah, I got problems. 10 years in EMS, another 7 of dealing with the crap my wife takes, and by and large it starts with baby boomers and nurses.

Out dated feminism and the 'me' generation.

I ain't the only 30something sick of boomers!

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Yeah, I got problems. 10 years in EMS, another 7 of dealing with the crap my wife takes, and by and large it starts with baby boomers and nurses.

Out dated feminism and the 'me' generation.

I ain't the only 30something sick of boomers!

If you speak to your wife the way you have addressed the above posters who have tried to offer you some valid sound advice-- which you sought out by posting here!!!--- I don't blame her for her behavior!

P.S.

Go TROLL on another website!

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You posted this in "Nursing Career Advice" so if you don't want advice and just a place to vent, then I guess we will let you vent.

As a side note - you sound an awful lot like Tom Cruise's cousin. :D

steph

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Specializes in Pediatrics Only.

Can we please close this thread....

Its going nowhere good...

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Not even person goes through radical changes when they become a nurse. So it would be logical to suggest that it's probably not the career, but the personality and tendencies of the person doing the job.

Of course, all we know about your wife is the brief blurb in the form of a rant that you've posted here, so there's no way to know which one is the culprit: your wife as a person or the career.

Were you just looking to rant, or actually want a question answered? This thread seems to have become a general blanket rant against nurses groups in general, not necessarily just your wife anymore. I know your situation must be frusterating, but there's no reason to go off on the people here. And if you have a rant about baby boomer nurses, maybe that's a topic for another thread so as not to confuse a person who came into this thread that started about your wife.

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Specializes in Vents, Telemetry, Home Care, Home infusion.

please have a frank discussion with your wife, physician, clergy, or best friend over the issues above that are distressing you.

from your writings, looks like the problems you describe are beyond the abilities of our bb.

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the 5 best careers for a work/life balance include teaching and nursing

stress management and nursing burnout prevention

i've found that when staff are working lots of overtime, often due to escape issues at home. it takes two to make a marriage and life together.

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