Nurse/Patient Relationships

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Hey All!

I have no experience with this, but I have heard several stories of people meeting their future spouses in hospitals when one is the nurse and one is the patient. How common is this really and is it allowed for nurses to give patients their numbers or not? I am merely curious.

Thanks!

My husband and his Cardiac Rehab. nurse had an affair. He left our home, moved in with her and is now married to her. The nursing board nor the hospital seemed to think anything of it. He was still a patient when they started having sex. I had pics of them together and my husbands phone bill showing her number calling his up until 2 AM sometimes.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Home Health.

At the agency I work for, an LNA started a relationship with her young male client. The higher-ups suspected something, and asked her about it, but she always denied it. When the client decided to dump her, he called the office and said they'd had a sexual relationship for 6 months. The LNA had to be fired and reported to the BON (which issue a fine and put stips on her license) and Adult Protective Services.

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Specializes in Intermediate care.

i don't believe there are actually any laws on it, not that i am aware of. But it is very frowned upon.

I had a patient in with MVA once who kept asking me out for dinner when he gets out of the hospital. I just had to shrug it off and remind him that i was his nurse. I personally would never date a patient, just don't agree with that.

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Specializes in Intermediate care.
My husband and his Cardiac Rehab. nurse had an affair. He left our home, moved in with her and is now married to her. The nursing board nor the hospital seemed to think anything of it. He was still a patient when they started having sex. I had pics of them together and my husbands phone bill showing her number calling his up until 2 AM sometimes.

wow...

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years ago i had a patient in the icu who i was very attracted to-- and he to me. he had some sort of spinal vascular thing, can't remember the details anymore, but a very nice guy. i never said anything to him, remained friendly and professional but nothing else, but he said something as we were getting him ready to transfer out. i just smiled, said something like, "just not meant to be," gave him a light kiss on the forehead, and sent him out the door. never saw him again, don't even remember the name.

oddly, my adored dh, whom i met years later and to whom i have been very happily married for decades, somewhat resembled him. guess that was just my type-- tall, dark, handsome, kind eyes. hope it all worked out for him.

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This thread begs two questions and one observation:

Is there a gender bias in the area of reports being filed and/or acted upon by local management or BON?

Is there an ethically acceptable cooling down period after the patient leaves care before a relationship is outside the purview of the profession?

Some of these stories would make excellent sub plots to a classic film noir :grn:

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