The Patient I Failed - page 9

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she... Read More

  1. by   cary-rn
    beautifully written. If only families knew, and would understand.
  2. by   Babs0512
    A tragic but all too true story, it's is told every day, hundred's of times all over the country. I've lived it myself more than once. I couldn't have written it better myself. BRAVO!
  3. by   chloeysmom
    Absolutely fantastically written. I do want to share one thing...HER FAMILY FAILED HER. I am only 32, but have a lot of health problems and have spent this entire week going over what I want/don't want to my 2 MPOAs. I will also show them this. Thank you!
  4. by   glittergal
    Wow, what a story. Its amazing that nothing could have been done to allow her will to stand its grounds. Wow.
  5. by   yveza
    i was touched by your story...being a nurse, i think this is the hardest part of our job..thanks for sharing your story.
  6. by   floxy124
    What a pathetic story .You did not fail your patient Her stuborn daugther who could not respect the last wish of an old woman did however i can understand your situation.This story goes to explain what most of us face when you have uncooperative patient relatives .
  7. by   mandykal
    i just had to read this one more time....
  8. by   chiclatte
    Ethical Dilemas - where do we stand in the gap?
  9. by   chapril
    One has to wonder, Where is Utilization Review when really needed?
  10. by   RyanSofie
    Between the dollar and common sense.
  11. by   nerdtonurse?
    I don't know the answer. Maybe all I can do is just get people talking about a subject most don't want to even acknowledge. It won't bring my patient back, and it won't give her the death she wanted, but maybe it'll make her rest a little easier...
  12. by   iamablonde1970
    oh my goodness......... that was heart wrenching.
  13. by   JoMark06
    This is wonderfully written and such a sad story especially when the situation is that there is no Living Will or POA and siblings disagree on the course of treatment. My question, however, is why wasn't she "eligible for a DNR"? Where I work, as long as you are deemed competent to make decisions about your care, which apparently she was when she sought out the living will, your doctor can write a DNR order at your request, or one can be placed based on the existance of a LW or POA. It matters not if you are 21 or 101, if you don't want anything done, have expressed those wishes either verbally or in the form of a legal document, then the hospital had no right to continue with the "heroic measures" to bring her back. Yes, the EMS workers were correct because obviously they cannot have records on every case/patient they respond to, but the hospital had a copy and should not have continued those measures.