The Patient I Failed - page 7

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she... Read More

  1. by   nurseatheart66
    Epiphany..............The respect and compassion you gave her while she was in your care is what makes you the great nurse that you are. There is no failure in that.
  2. by   RNontheroad
    A try heart-wrenching story that so many of us have had to witness.

    Thank you for having the voice to say so eloquently what we would have a hard time putting into words. You are truly a gifted writer and a compassionate and caring nurse.
  3. by   RNAnnjeh
    Oh my god....

    So beautifully written I cried.

    I really don't know what to say, except Thank You....for sharing that story.
  4. by   Pattyo
    While she did not have the DNR she wanted, I believe in her dying days she knew that there was a nurse caring for her with love and compassion. You did what you could do, and that was a lot. Thank you for expressing so eloquently a pain that many of us have experienced and carry with us.
  5. by   vd07023
    Thank you so much for sharing. I hope the precious lady is resting in peace. You did your part so please dont be sorry. Hopefully this will be an eye opener for some people in the medical profession who wishes to impose these modern day technologies on people without thinking twice. God bless you.
  6. by   greenergrass
    Of course this was the winning article a touching story, eloquently written! Fabulous!

    A true representation of the humanity & inhumanity in healthcare today.

    Thank you & Congratulations!
  7. by   cancergirl24
    Doesn't a Living Will take presedence over what the "child" wants for her mother? I am nothing less than apalled. What a sad story
  8. by   sanddy
    thanks alot
  9. by   mandykal
    This is a story that belongs into the "chicken soup for the soul."

    I once took report from a nurse who told me when she informed the Doc on the clients age (95), The Doc told her "I stop thinking about age long time ago." I told this nurse that "sometimes it's beyond our control."

    The family (POA) wanted aggressive treatment....
  10. by   vintagestudent
    Thank you, nerdtonurse. Very eloquently said through the written word what many of us will see with our own eyes and quietly suffer through. May God help these dear patients whose wishes are trampled on.
  11. by   celclt
    so welll thought out and straight from your heart- her dying was not in vain now- if we each can help one patient with the same kindness
    I am updating my living will
  12. by   MMARN
    Absolutely broke my heart. Thank you for writing it and being so wonderfully caring. *hugs*
  13. by   jekjek14
    I was so touched by your story!
    You didn't fail her at all, it was the dtr and the dr who refused to follow the pt's wishes. At least you understand what she is going through & she can feel that.
    God Bless your heart! :redpinkhe