The Patient I Failed - page 2

She knew what she wanted. She'd watched her husband of 52 years die on a vent, and followed his wishes to remain a full code. But she knew that was not what she wanted for herself. So, she... Read More

  1. by   labvampire
    Thank-you for this beautifully written piece. You didn't fail this patient. I know it feels like it. Unfortunately, after that tube is placed, DNR is over with. You handled it professionally and the best to your ability. You would have found me in a closet crying after this was over. You allowed dignity to show through in this patient's last breaths. Don't ever feel guilty about having feelings. When you stop having them is when you need to get out of nursing. You are a beautiful person.
  2. by   kitchenluvr
    thanks for taking the time to so eloquently describe some of the emotions and nights that my colleagues and I work through in the ICU.
  3. by   WindyRedoRN
    I'm touched. And as others have said before me, please try to reassure yourself that you didn't fail her, it was her family and "the system." We do everything we can within the limits we're given - we're not the Angels that we're portrayed to be - as much as we hate to admit it. You do an amazing thing every day, you go to work and you CARE.
    You told your story, and her story, so beautifully. Both have touched so many more people than they otherwise would have. I'm certain that you have changed more lives than you could possibly know. Well done.
  4. by   danissa

    Both stories of human suffering on this thread are just so poignant..........
    Heartfelt cuddles to those dealing with the outcomes, whether family members or nurses, you are in my thoughts.
  5. by   SuesquatchRN
    This is one of the few things I've read that made me weep.

    Thank you.
  6. by   ElvishDNP
    Thank you for being there.
  7. by   luv'nlife068
    Thanks for telling this so beautifully. Selfishness of her daughter failed her, not the care and compassion you were forced to show her. Rest assured God sees these things.
  8. by   NewRN12109
    OMG what a sad story. I do not think that you failed this woman at all. Like said previously Her Dr and her daughter failed her. I too have seen this in the hopsital setting. I've seen DNR's overturned and people sadly having things done that they never wanted. It is such a sad sad thing. Thanks so much for a reminder on how to treat our patients with respect. Beautifully written.
  9. by   ysth83
    I could somewhat understand why the daughter did what she did, most of the time it is hard to let go, BUT the saddest part is not respecting your parents wishes.
  10. by   rubinpoulose
    It was excellent. Beautifuly written. It is a situation when we nurses compelled to do unnecessery procedures insted of leading client to a peaceful death.
  11. by   lyceeboo
    So beautifully written...Using quotes from the Living Will as if the dying patient is speaking directly to family and nurse. And she was.

    Thank you for sharing this.
  12. by   Chaya
    Just. Wow.
  13. by   Mermaid in the Sea
    i'am soooooooo sorry that you have to go thru this, it's hard enough that you being a nurse, and know what is going to happen d/t what your mom is going thru, is not enough, that your sister has "all" the power over your moms life, since you can't do anything, please hang in there for your mom sake and make her last days seem worth while . i will be praying for you !!!:icon_hug: