Coworker nurse trying to ruin my reputation... - page 4

I've been a nurse for 5 years, and at my present facility for 2. I've come to find out in the last 2 weeks, that another nurse (same position as me - floor nurse) has been spreading lies about me... Read More

  1. by   Spidey's mom
    Quote from zenman
    Having been in management and having to deal with a lot of HR problems, I like this solution the best.
    Me too.

    Leave the emotion out of it, be logical and calm.
  2. by   merrywhiterose
    Go to the DON!
  3. by   achot chavi
    How do you know the rumors you are hearing are even true? How do you know she went to the DON? If multiple sources are telling you this, and there is strong evidence of " where there is smoke, there might be fire". I would approach the DON with proof that this nurse is spreading rumors that might be construed as defamation of character and certainly unprofessional. Tell the DON that these rumors are a distraction and they are ruining the productive work environment on the units, other nurses are also afraid that this nurse will start rumors on them as well. If you are afraid that you cant do this in person, write it as a letter to the DON stating that you are aware that some nurse(s) have been spreading unsubstantiated rumors which might be construed as defamation of character and certainly unprofessional and you want a positive, rumor-free work environment. If you can, have others sign on it as well. Obviously follow all the previous good advice on good documentation for every PRN pill you give. Never skip this step no matter how busy you are. I dont think I would run to another job,
  4. by   jhanes
    You could get an attorney and sue her for slander, but any damages would be dependent on your showing a court that her remarks hurt your reputation. You will also need to have witnesses lined up. Since this is a small case for an attorney, they will likely not take the case on contingency so you risk your own funds if you lose in court. If you are fired as a result of her accusations, then you have real damages: loss of income, of professional reputation, etc. A letter from an attorney reminding her that she may be placing herself at legal/financial risk might stop the nonsense.

    I noticed one comment that called what you are experiencing as "lateral violence." The redefinition of gossip and slander as "Violence" takes away from the real thing.

    One last point: I host several Nurse Support Groups for the Intervention Project for Nurses in Florida. Hospitals often monitor nurses' PRN medication administration, looking for unusual patterns. If yours does that, they would have picked up on PRN administration outside of (in excess of) what is considered normal. You may administer PRNs more frequently than Nurse Rached, but not much more than other nurses at your facility, meaning by comparison that her patients suffer needlessly because of her stinginess on PRNs. Perhaps she has an unreasonable fear of addiction or diverting attention form herself.

    If by chance, you have been abusing drugs or alcohol, please seek help at once. Drug use is an occupational hazard for nurses and diversion the likely eventual outcome in the pattern of addiction. That goes for everyone reading this. Good luck!
  5. by   apatt2
    The exact same thing is happening to me. I had to go to ED and they were on me like whiite on rhye. But the God I serve has me protected by His Grace! My manager believes the older nurse because she has been there the longest. A CNA that use to work on our floor was accused falsely, she stated. She went to jail, paid a fine, and then later on she committed suicide. She kept claiming her innocence. These nurses get so jealous of a good nurse that gives excellent care to their patients until they are apt to ruin them. I have begun to find another job because it has gotten so stressful for me and I just cannot function at 100%.
  6. by   jhanes
    I used to be an E.R. nurse and gets a little competitive down there. If you find yourself in a toxic workplace, get out as soon as possible and don't look back. Lif is just too short to put up with personal attacks, petty jealousy, etc. BTW, upon reflection, the E.R. nurse were the heaviest partiers: ETOH and drugs that I have ever worked with, and I am aware that two nurses that were at my last E.R. job committed suicide after having relapses. Denial is common, even when faced with positive drug screens, being reported to the Board of Nursing or arrest. Many continue denying that they took drugs until the very end; death or recovery. The last choice is the better one. I recommend it!
  7. by   apatt2
    Thanks for your advice. I just don't know what other fields in nursing I want to do. Any suggestions?
  8. by   jhanes
  9. by   julielive
    I am a seasoned nurse, just now returning for my FNP, and I have worked almost EVERY AREA LOLOL. Some of them a great experience, but even the bad experiences answered the question of whether or not I would like that particular field.

    Some "hot" areas I am seeing right now are Case Management, just as the previous post indicated. Soon, only nurses with a BSN will be able to obtain certification as specialist in this field (this rule may have already changed, not completely sure). Currently, every area is in need of case managers. I worked in this field for 6 years after obtaining my certification. Case Management, atleast in my case, was the art of balancing the monetary cost of each patient's care with the actual needs of the patient. I examined my assignment cases and would ensure each patient was appropriately admitted (inpatient verses observation) as well as services, cost, appropriate care being delivered, etc. The role of the Case Manager is just too vast to list. Remember: Case Management is a totally different game. I recommend any SEASONED nurse to try it, especially those in patient care who feel a break is needed.
  10. by   ionatan
    If management approaches you with these allegations, I would immediately contact an attorney. I don't play games when it comes to this kind of garbage. I'm all about going to work, doing my job, then leaving. I don't need drama, and it sounds like there is a lot of it where you are working. I don't understand why this is being blabbed by everyone. If this person approached me and told me another nurse was stealing or addicted to drugs, I would be livid and tell her those are very serious allegations and I am not the appropriate person to speak to regarding it. It would end there. I would not repeat it to anyone. If this b**ch is stupid enough to go around making these types of allegations, and none of these other nurses are brave enough to tell her to shut her face, I would follow Patti_RNs advice.
  11. by   jadelpn
    I noticed one comment that called what you are experiencing as "lateral violence." The redefinition of gossip and slander as "Violence" takes away from the real thing. [QUOTE]

    I beg to differ, and this is akin to calling verbal/psychological spousal or child abuse "not real". People skilled in this bull**** will use the same type of psychological warfare, and HOPE that someone in the mindset as the above has a narrow view of violence.

    From Advance article wayyyy back in 2007--
    The term "horizontal violence" (sometimes called "lateral violence") is quite new to many individuals but the behavior it describes is not. The term was developed to describe distasteful behavior nurses sometimes portray toward colleagues.

    Horizontal violence takes on many different characteristics. Simply put, it is overt and covert nonphysical hostility, such as criticism, sabotage, undermining, infighting, scape-goating or finger pointing and bickering.
    Horizontal violence is so severely underreported because opinions surrounding horizontal violence are subjective in nature. Each us tolerates the behaviors of others a little bit differently. However, if the behavior is in any way offensive to you, or undermines you and your job in any way, then it probably is horizontal violence......

    Hence the need for education and consequences, and the workplace to not support such behaviors, and take a pro-active stance that this will not be tolerated by the facility.
    Last edit by jadelpn on May 16, '12
  12. by   PetsToPeople
    Quote from DroogieRN
    I think you don't necessarily have to prove a loss with a slander/defamation charge; there is also "defamation per se," which I think basically means the rumors have huge potential to cause you big problems, not that they already have.
    That would probably be something like where a person posts thing on Facebook or otherwise puts info out there against you that you can show the judge in court. You can't just say, "Hey, so and so said she was saying bad things about me at work." It has to be proven, in writing and/or co-workers showing up on your behalf telling what they heard in person. Then you could use that proof, and explain how nursing is such a close group, that this rumor could affect your future employment. Love to watch the court shows! Whether or not I actually learn anything that can be of use someday, who knows What I have learned from basically every show is you have to show evidence, evidence, evidence!
  13. by   Patti_RN
    PetsToPeople, "Love to watch the court shows! .... What I have learned from basically every show is..."

    YMCMB, "whao!
    i remember watching an episode of judge Pirro where these 2 Drug dealers sued each other!
    the buyer didn't like the stuff he bought from the dealer and couldn't get his money back so he went around the area telling me people that the other guy drug is no good making him lose business. The dealer went on judge Pirro and sued the guy for defamation of character and won the case! got rewarded $2000.....i would definitely open up a case and let co-worker know who's boss!"

    TV trained lawyers. I rest my case.