Our local women's health NP gives teens this questionnaire to fill out when they come in for birth control.
Ask Yourself These Questions
Here are some questions to think about. They will help you decide whether teen sex has a place in your life and your goals.
1. How would I feel about having to choose between abortion, adoption or raising a child?
2. Am I ready to give up my freedom to parent a child?
3. Can I afford to raise and support a child?
4. What if I had to pay hundreds of dollars every month in child support until I am middle-aged?
5. If my partner and I were faced with an unplanned pregnancy, how would our relationship be affected? How would our families be affected?
6. How would my education and chance at a good career be affected by a pregnancy?
7. If I got a sexually transmitted disease, what would happen to my health? How would I feel about myself?
8. If I began having sex with my partner, and they walked out on the relationship, how would I be affected? What if this happened several times - as it does to most sexually active teens?
9. Deep in my heart and mind, do I think having sex as a teenager is right, wrong, moral or immoral?
10. Is there something special about my virginity?
11. Do I "live for the moment" without thinking of how my behavior might hurt me or another person later on or do I carefully consider the consequences of my actions?
12. Do I believe that sex should take place only with a serious, long-term commitment from both partners?
13. Do I assume that a sexual relationship will create a long-term commitment?
14. How can I live my life now in order to give myself the best possible chance for a successful future?