Nobody Cares About Our Feelings When it's Time to Perform

Negativity bias is a pervasive phenomenon that exists in all facets of society. The purpose of this piece is to elaborate on negativity bias as it relates to nursing, health care settings, and schools. Nurses Announcements Archive Article

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There is a pervasive phenomenon in society that is known as negativity bias. In essence, this means that peoples' minds are more keenly attuned to negative occurrences and have been programmed to remember derogatory events years after they have happened. As an example, people who experienced severe bullying as schoolchildren tend to have photographic memories of the unkind insults and physical altercations decades after the last incidence, but are less inclined to remember the uneventful school days that went well. How does any of this relate to nursing or healthcare? Perhaps further explanation is warranted.

A typical nurse can execute tens of thousands of positive, selfless accomplishments during a career that has spanned the course of many years. Nonetheless, all it takes is one grave mistake or sentinel event. A seasoned nurse who ignores assessment findings of increased edema and wet, gurgling lung sounds will be remembered the most for that mistake if the patient ends up coding and dying before the end of the shift. Thus, a nurse could have helped save the lives of thousands of other patients, but the single negative incidence of failure to rescue is what will stand out in the minds of his peers.

There has also been a recent increase in the number of inquiries about the possibility of appealing dismissals from nursing programs for failing a couple of courses, or submitting an appeal after badly failing a final exam, or even challenging professors because of the perception that the test was 'horrible.' The excuses that these inquirers make for the substandard performance possess some notable variances: "I was working a job with long hours that consumed all my time while going to school," or "My sibling died," or "That professor does not know how to teach a class."

The harsh, brutal reality is that people are expected to perform without excuses. Nobody, other than perhaps our family members and closest friends, really gives a rat's butt about what we are feeling when it is time to perform. Society is a coldly efficient bureaucracy filled with members who do not care all that much about our personal lives or what we might be feeling inside at any given moment. When it is time to render services in this society in which we live, no one really cares that the cardiothoracic surgeon's husband died while serving in Afghanistan three months ago if a heart transplantation prodecure needs to be performed now. When it is time to serve meals in the hospital or nursing home, people couldn't care less that the depressed dietary aide became homeless last year and has been temporarily living in a shelter with his wife and three children.

A person's value to society as a whole is partially established by his or her usefulness to others. Hence, people who have been determined to be too cumbersome (read: not stepping up to the place to be terribly useful) are tossed aside and disposed of like garbage. If a person fails to perform, or performs in a substandard manner, negativity bias will plague the person, and people will most certainly move onto whomever can fulfill their needs and provide services.

As difficult as this sounds, we are all very much replaceable in bureaucratic entities such as schools and businesses. A student whose performance is not up to par can and will be replaced. A healthcare professional whose performance is not up to par can also be replaced. The nursing professors and administrative personnel at schools of nursing truly will not care about the student's 1,000+ good grades on previous assignments and tests; rather, their focus is on the couple of failed courses. The state board of nursing does not care about the nurse's 2,500+ successful shifts in the cardiovascular intensive care unit if one patient died due to omission of care. People focus on the here and now.

We are all extremely disposable and replaceable in the bureaucracies that pervade an increasingly depersonalized society. It is called negativity bias. Therefore, it is time to carefully consider the ramifications of fixating on an event that did not progress as well as you had hoped it would. After all, we can rest assured that society will swiftly move on without you if you do not perform at a minimal standard.

References

Marano, H.E. (2003). Our Brain's Negative Bias. Psychology Today. Retrieved from Our Brain's Negative Bias | Psychology Today

Specializes in Maternal Child Health, GYN.

Another great article! Very thought provoking. I would say that we as individuals should see that the jobs we do can be replaced by another but you or I can never be replaced. There will never be another person like me or you. And so whoever takes our place will perform the same job differently. They may either do better or worse at it. The element that you or I contributed because of our individuality can never be replaced because we are unique. It's what contributes to our value or worth. It's what makes 'you you and me me.'

Thank you for sharing. Certainly sparked my interest.

Specializes in Critical Care and Coronary Care.
heron said:
In other words, there is no whining in nursing.

Nope, there is lots of that but still one can be replaced if they whine too, much.

Specializes in Critical Care and Coronary Care.
MyCall2Nsg said:
... I would say that we as individuals should see that the jobs we do can be replaced by another but you or I can never be replaced. There will never be another person like me or you. And so whoever takes our place will perform the same job differently. They may either do better or worse at it. The element that you or I contributed because of our individuality can never be replaced because we are unique. It's what contributes to our value or worth. It's what makes 'you you and me me.' ...

Definitely agree with you that we as people are unique. If someone is coming after me, I like to make it difficult for them to fill my shoes by going above and beyond what the job calls for. I add my personal touch to the job by going the extra mile so to speak.

In these economic times the cold hard truth is we are all replaceable. Especially if you are a seasoned (higher paid) nurse, any variation from excellence becomes a reason to replace you with younger, less experienced, (lower paid) new grads. So it behooves all nurses to constantly be in your toes, double, triple check your work strive to go the extra mile. Make yourself irreplaceable.

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
katdan1026 said:
In these economic times the cold hard truth is we are all replaceable. Especially if you are a seasoned (higher paid) nurse, any variation from excellence becomes a reason to replace you with younger, less experienced, (lower paid) new grads.

Your point is salient. Two nurses were recently fired from my former workplace. Both were long term employees. One was a nurse with 36 years of experience and the other had 27 years of experience, so I imagine the bean counters were looking at the wage grid when deciding to terminate their employment.

I keep re-reading this article, and the cause and effect analogies are overly simplistic and insulting.

A typical nurse can execute tens of thousands of positive, selfless accomplishments during a career that has spanned the course of many years. Nonetheless, all it takes is one grave mistake or sentinel event. A seasoned nurse who ignores assessment findings of increased edema and wet, gurgling lung sounds will be remembered the most for that mistake if the patient ends up coding and dying before the end of the shift. Thus, a nurse could have helped save the lives of thousands of other patients, but the single negative incidence of failure to rescue is what will stand out in the minds of his peers.

The key word is ignores, they recognized a life threatening event but chooses to ignore it. Yes, a Nurse who ignores gross changes in patient status deserves professional and personal condemnation. Why should any patient be worthy of basic nursing care.

There has also been a recent increase in the number of inquiries about the possibility of appealing dismissals from nursing programs for failing a couple of courses, or submitting an appeal after badly failing a final exam, or even challenging professors because of the perception that the test was 'horrible.' The excuses that these inquirers make for the substandard performance possess some notable variances: "I was working a job with long hours that consumed all my time while going to school," or "My sibling died," or "That professor does not know how to teach a class."

I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault

The harsh, brutal reality is that people are expected to perform without excuses. Nobody, other than perhaps our family members and closest friends, really gives a rat's butt about what we are feeling when it is time to perform. Society is a coldly efficient bureaucracy filled with members who do not care all that much about our personal lives or what we might be feeling inside at any given moment. When it is time to render services in this society in which we live, no one really cares that the cardiothoracic surgeon's husband died while serving in Afghanistan three months ago if a heart transplantation procedure needs to be performed now. When it is time to serve meals in the hospital or nursing home, people couldn't care less that the depressed dietary aide became homeless last year and has been temporarily living in a shelter with his wife and three children.

Yes Nurses/Doctor/ whomever are not responsible for their actions, I am so sorry I let your family die because my feelings distracted me. I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault.

A person's value to society as a whole is partially established by his or her usefulness to others. Hence, people who have been determined to be too cumbersome (read: not stepping up to the place to be terribly useful) are tossed aside and disposed of like garbage. If a person fails to perform, or performs in a substandard manner, negativity bias will plague the person, and people will most certainly move onto whomever can fulfill their needs and provide services.

Yes, YOU should be able to provide sub-standard care and do harm to your patients because. I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault.

As difficult as this sounds, we are all very much replaceable in bureaucratic entities such as schools and businesses. A student whose performance is not up to par can and will be replaced. A healthcare professional whose performance is not up to par can also be replaced. The nursing professors and administrative personnel at schools of nursing truly will not care about the student's 1,000+ good grades on previous assignments and tests; rather, their focus is on the couple of failed courses. The state board of nursing does not care about the nurse's 2,500+ successful shifts in the cardiovascular intensive care unit if one patient died due to omission of care. People focus on the here and now.

Everyone gets a free pass because omission of care kills someone. Everyone gets a nursing License because they FEEL they deserve it.

Negative bias = I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault.

Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
KenH said:
I keep re-reading this article, and the cause and effect analogies are overly simplistic and insulting.

This is the author checking back in...

Thanks for continually re-reading the article. Your interpretations/opinions are rather interesting, to say the least. Be cognizant that no one can choose to find something 'insulting' unless he opts to feel insulted. We're responsible for no one else's feelings.

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

Take your "Feelings" to your loved ones, family, friends, confidantes or therapist---- those on whom it's appropriate to unload such stuff. Take your professionalism to the job. Simple as that. No one cares about our feelings when we are there to perform. It's the truth. We are, each of us, entirely replaceable.

TheCommuter said:
We're responsible for no one else's feelings.

Agreed, feelings are neither factual or truthful.

I am responcable for my own feeling, choices and actions.