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  1. KenH

    Resigning after 3 months

    Do not give up, If Your manager and co-workers believe in and like you that is 75% of the battle. Two jobs in two years you may not have transitioned from being a student to professional Nurse, it takes time. Give yourself a break you can do it. Try to search out a mentor, some one you can talk to, share a good inappropriate laugh, heartbreak,and the joy of success.
  2. KenH

    Would you report possible diversion?

    I don't think I have ever personally heard or heard of second hand that any nurse was glad, happy, relieved at being caught and didn't mind the personal, professional and financial cost at the time and after they were caught. As you say you forced to take responsibility for your actions and as you say looking back how much better your life is now. The process you were forced to go through probably has made you a better nurse. What percentage of nurses do you think that come out of the process that don't relapse, lose their license, marriage, relationships. The drug use is just a symptom of an underlying unaddressed issue/problem. But I have heard personally and second hand how their life was in the toilet and it wasn't fair with everything that they were forced to do, and felt persecuted for their actions. As for the narcotics diversion and torturing patients, it's true that it is not the case in every situation, but it happens in more cases than not. How many time have you noticed that the patient documentation showed a noticeable need for pain meds in the previous shift compared to your care of the patient.
  3. KenH

    Would you report possible diversion?

    Most if not all of these nurses that are diverting narcotics see themselves as VICTIMS when they get caught and have to face the consequences of their actions. These Nurses are TORTURING their patients, If you don't report them, you are complicit in their actions.
  4. KenH

    The film: Vaxxed.

    Even in the modern world some of us live in, Medicine is still practiced, YES Practiced, people want guarantees, perfection, every drug, every procedure, every vaccine, every day there are negative side effects to life. I remember in one of my pharmacology classes the professor pointed out that if aspirin had to go through the approval process today it would have a black box warning, and be strictly prescription, not OTC. Look at the controversy around the new Hep C vaccines, big $$$$ companies are charging people that are going to be cured, Just wait for the HIV vaccine, people will complain that it will promote promiscuity, just look at birth control. Look at the lung cancer vaccine it will encourage people to smoke. When the next pandemic comes around, and it will, then let's see people's attitudes about vaccines then, here's your choice, millions of people are dying and we have a cure that's 90% effective, your choice, do you want it or not? People want perfection, every disease process has a VERY large genetic component, we are all different and that difference means outcomes are different. When we get to personal tailored medicine, matched to our personal DNA then the outcomes will be matched to each and everyone of us, Then people will complain about playing DOG. Because tailored medicine has all the medical ethics that come with that knowledge. The practice of medicine is about patient care and revenue generation, greed and big business, it is not perfect, but it's better than the alternative When these arguments/ discussions come up, the movie Gattaca comes to mind. Genetics = job security, Heart disease, Diabetes, COPD, peoples personal choices, people not vaccinating their kids, = Job security
  5. Agreed, feelings are neither factual or truthful. I am responcable for my own feeling, choices and actions.
  6. I keep re-reading this article, and the cause and effect analogies are overly simplistic and insulting. A typical nurse can execute tens of thousands of positive, selfless accomplishments during a career that has spanned the course of many years. Nonetheless, all it takes is one grave mistake or sentinel event. A seasoned nurse who ignores assessment findings of increased edema and wet, gurgling lung sounds will be remembered the most for that mistake if the patient ends up coding and dying before the end of the shift. Thus, a nurse could have helped save the lives of thousands of other patients, but the single negative incidence of failure to rescue is what will stand out in the minds of his peers. The key word is ignores, they recognized a life threatening event but chooses to ignore it. Yes, a Nurse who ignores gross changes in patient status deserves professional and personal condemnation. Why should any patient be worthy of basic nursing care. There has also been a recent increase in the number of inquiries about the possibility of appealing dismissals from nursing programs for failing a couple of courses, or submitting an appeal after badly failing a final exam, or even challenging professors because of the perception that the test was 'horrible.' The excuses that these inquirers make for the substandard performance possess some notable variances: "I was working a job with long hours that consumed all my time while going to school," or "My sibling died," or "That professor does not know how to teach a class." I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault The harsh, brutal reality is that people are expected to perform without excuses. Nobody, other than perhaps our family members and closest friends, really gives a rat's butt about what we are feeling when it is time to perform. Society is a coldly efficient bureaucracy filled with members who do not care all that much about our personal lives or what we might be feeling inside at any given moment. When it is time to render services in this society in which we live, no one really cares that the cardiothoracic surgeon's husband died while serving in Afghanistan three months ago if a heart transplantation procedure needs to be performed now. When it is time to serve meals in the hospital or nursing home, people couldn't care less that the depressed dietary aide became homeless last year and has been temporarily living in a shelter with his wife and three children. Yes Nurses/Doctor/ whomever are not responsible for their actions, I am so sorry I let your family die because my feelings distracted me. I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault. A person's value to society as a whole is partially established by his or her usefulness to others. Hence, people who have been determined to be too cumbersome (read: not stepping up to the place to be terribly useful) are tossed aside and disposed of like garbage. If a person fails to perform, or performs in a substandard manner, negativity bias will plague the person, and people will most certainly move onto whomever can fulfill their needs and provide services. Yes, YOU should be able to provide sub-standard care and do harm to your patients because. I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault. As difficult as this sounds, we are all very much replaceable in bureaucratic entities such as schools and businesses. A student whose performance is not up to par can and will be replaced. A healthcare professional whose performance is not up to par can also be replaced. The nursing professors and administrative personnel at schools of nursing truly will not care about the student's 1,000+ good grades on previous assignments and tests; rather, their focus is on the couple of failed courses. The state board of nursing does not care about the nurse's 2,500+ successful shifts in the cardiovascular intensive care unit if one patient died due to omission of care. People focus on the here and now. Everyone gets a free pass because omission of care kills someone. Everyone gets a nursing License because they FEEL they deserve it. Negative bias = I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault, I am a VICTIM, it's not my fault.
  7. You know you are Old when.... Feelings, nothing more than feelings Feelings, who-o-o feelings, Wo-o-o, feelings again. lifes not fair...... If you live your life through feelings you will never be happy with anything
  8. KenH

    My Burnout Story

    We all need a healthy way of coping, or a unhealthy one will find you. Sounds like you never developed a professional persona, no one can handle daily personal death and suffering without it breaking you. somethings have to be kept at arms length. You will have to let go or you will drown from everything you are trying to carry. good luck
  9. I think you should start a new thread, please copy and paste our conversation ,all of it and let's see how that turns out for you. Would you feel I was harassing you if I did.I think it would be better if you did.
  10. I would disagree with your statement, there are many people who choose to risk life and health for other people Nurses, EMT,Paramedics, Police,Fire fighters ect ect Some times There are penalties for our actions, some times we feel it's not fair, ok I get it who will take care of the patients when no one shows up or when someone works to many hours. in the end the patients are the ones who suffer. To each their own
  11. KenH

    Separate being Family vs Nurse

    Mommy_RN1211 There are many different levels of frustration you are and will continue to go through. As a family went through this recently with a family member, It got to the point that it was all consuming and effected relationships within the family, It will turn family members agaist each other. You need to try to figure out how you will survive this experience and be able to continue your nursing Job, personal coping skills, growth as a person and a professional. As you continue your transition from student into working nurse your personal experience will have a negative effect on your transition and personal expectations, it can't cause you to fail your professional transition. As you will learn to see when dealing with patients and family members, it turns into it is all about the family not patient care. There are no easy answers to the issues you are going through let alone what your father is going through. You need to find a healthy way to cope or an unhealthy one will find you
  12. ActualNurse ,The more you post, you are turning into a specific Nursing Caricature. I can only see you by the words you post; it is hard to gauge people on what they write because we all tend to read our own interpretations into other people's words. If the things you have posted are a true representation and there is no lampoon involved. Specific Nursing Caricature. Where most nurses hate to identify themselves as nurses when they are on the other side of the curtain, you would play I am a nurse card every chance you got, it would be your badge of honor. You would be the patient that the staff and unit would have to be rotated through, limiting each Nurses exposure and risk, every time someone entered into your presences there would have to be a witness. You would get the sugar sweet, strictly professional patient care and exactly what the doctor ordered and nothing more and nothing less. If what you say about your treatment of your fellow nurses is true, you have failed them. I think it is about time you started your teaching career.
  13. KenH

    Separate being Family vs Nurse

    Sorry to say this, but there is no way you can be objective about the care of your father. As a new nurse you know too much and don't know what you don't know. The only way your father will get the care you think he needs is to take him home and care for him yourself, and in the end you won't be able to care for him the way you feel he should be care for. good luck in your journey , i hate auto correct
  14. Yes we all know that the smartest Nurses are the ones who had the highest GPA in collage and are the creme de la creme of the nursing universe , as far as taking someone's license,that's right up there with making someone non rehirable, hmm Respect. I think the next time there is a chance of some bad weather, I'm am going to go spend the night at a Holiday inn express and watch some prime time TV.
  15. :)This has totally gone off the rails.:) I believe that Nurses are held to a higher standard and being a Nurse is a privilege, and with that privilege comes personal responsibility. When YOU accept employment ,you are entering into a personal contract to provide a service for compensation, If you don't want to play by the rules that YOU agreed to, it is ONLY your own fault when things do not turn out the way you FEEL they should. If you don't want to come in when it is inconvenient for you, then don't. But YOU have to accept the consequences for your actions. Most of the time when the weather turns bad or when there is another special need, WE already know who is going to show and who won't. I believe in the nursing process, universal precautions, and infection control and we don't live in a perfect world, where everything is just the way we FEEL it should be. I am not paid to be NICE; I am paid to provide the best patient care I can. Do I have to color between the lines ,yes I do, and some days I am better at it than other days, and sometimes I FEEL like I should have stayed home, but I still try to do my best, and I have help from other Nurses that feel the same way. Fortunately or unfortunately it does affect your reputation as a nurse. Just as you're SKILLS and your patient care does and yes we all look and JUDGE each other on those things and many other things that have nothing to do about being NICE to each other. Foe the record, I want a team of Nurses with the best skills and the smartest Nurses, where they balance each other out. Because they are the ones taking care of me and mine, not the Doctors. I don't care how nice they are. Because I work in healthcare, I know that NICE, has nothing to do with patient outcomes. :)
  16. I was just thinking that communicable illness” is very ambiguous at best, How many nurses would be left to work if all the nurses stayed home with a cold sore, common cold, MRSA, C-Dif ,thrush, let alone the chronic Illness's Hep's a-z, through HIV. We have all worked sick, I really don't see any difference between someone who has tested positive for the flu and someone who the same symptoms but didn't get tested. I couldn't count the times at the beginning of my shift that I have wiped down a shared work area fallowing a sick co-worker. We all have had issues from weather, sickness, or feeling penalized unfairly, it is all part of working as a Nurse.