A little background on me - I'm a 35 year old new grad, who is part of a New Grad Residency program at a nearby hospital. I had a great career prior to nursing school, and was thrilled to get a spot in this cohort program on a progressive care unit. I oriented for two months on day shift, then a month on night shift and have been on my own on nights for about six weeks now (so about 4.5 months into this job).
When I first started nights, I struggled hard, I cried on my way home, I slept poorly, etc.. Which is not unusual for new grads; between being new and being on nights, I wasn't surprised to face some challenges. And, having another career under my belt, I have dealt with stressful work situations before. After figuring out my sleep schedule things got better for a few weeks, and I thought "Yes! I'm doing it! I'm being a nurse! Woohoo!" However, that only lasted a few weeks, and these last few weeks I've been on a downward trend.
I certainly don't want to come across as complaining - I am incredibly grateful to have found a job on this floor - really supportive coworkers, great charge nurses, and as part of a program directed to helping new RNs transition into practice. What I have been experiencing is a big increase in irritability on my days off, and just generally feeling down in the dumps. I wonder if I'm stumbling into a bout of depression (never had any mental health issues before).
I've always been a very athletic person, and working out (which has always been my go to stress relief, and just source of fun and community) isn't fun anymore. Even hanging out with good friends, I don't have fun and feel like I'm just putting on a brave face. I snap at my spouse of three years randomly, and the other day lost it and yelled at the dog for no good reason (I mean, she did eat poop in the yard, but what dog doesn't eat poop? This isn't new behavior for the dog, it's new behavior for me). I've been very low energy, and just haven't felt like myself in several weeks, I'm not enjoying my job and I'm not enjoying my days off. My spouse has commented on it, and at first I didn't want to believe him, but I think he's right. My general emotional lability and down-in-the-dumps attitude are taking a toll on him as well.
And, the last shift I worked, I had a patient try and get out of bed and fall. I was getting report on a new admit; another nurse heard the bed alarm and by the time she ran to the door, the patient was already on his way down. Immediately my coworkers were rushing to the room with me and helping (did I mention I work on an awesome unit?) but my own emotional response was zero, zilch, nothing. That's never happened to me - I've always felt some sympathy/empathy towards my patients. Not to an unhealthy level, I'm pretty good at leaving my patients at work when I go home; but y'know, I've always felt for them being in a hard situation. But not this time - and that scares me.
I've talked with other RNs in my cohort, and none of them are having this experience or questioning their career choice. This feels like when I've gotten burnt out in my prior jobs, and I'm concerned that I'm experiencing burn out so soon into this job. I'm not sure if it's working nights, if it's me, if I'm not cut out to be at the bedside or what. I'm meeting with one of my mentors from nursing school next week, but would love to hear advice from other RNs out there as well before going to my manager or NUS. Have you seen new grads have similar struggles? What did they do?
Currently, my options seem limited, as I'm not exactly hireable with so little experience. I am on the list to go to day shift (and I'm the only one on that list, the other night shift RNs on my floor love nights), but nights are super short staffed right now so it doesn't look like I'll be switching any time soon. And, to be honest, right now I'm just doubting whether I should be an RN in general, so I don't think switching to days will help - it might just stress me out more! I'm thinking of asking to go part time, at least for a while, and also thinking about going to a counselor to see if that helps. My fear is that I'll be told I can't go to part time and that going to a counselor won't help me enough, I'm worried that I'm past the point of no return. I have my yearly check up in a few weeks, so I'll definitely bring it up with my doctor - but I'd love to avoid using antidepressants. Anyway, I'll wrap up this novel of a post, but I sincerely would appreciate hearing from anyone who has had a similar experience, or known someone with similar experiences.
Hi gang -
A little background on me - I'm a 35 year old new grad, who is part of a New Grad Residency program at a nearby hospital. I had a great career prior to nursing school, and was thrilled to get a spot in this cohort program on a progressive care unit. I oriented for two months on day shift, then a month on night shift and have been on my own on nights for about six weeks now (so about 4.5 months into this job).
When I first started nights, I struggled hard, I cried on my way home, I slept poorly, etc.. Which is not unusual for new grads; between being new and being on nights, I wasn't surprised to face some challenges. And, having another career under my belt, I have dealt with stressful work situations before. After figuring out my sleep schedule things got better for a few weeks, and I thought "Yes! I'm doing it! I'm being a nurse! Woohoo!" However, that only lasted a few weeks, and these last few weeks I've been on a downward trend.
I certainly don't want to come across as complaining - I am incredibly grateful to have found a job on this floor - really supportive coworkers, great charge nurses, and as part of a program directed to helping new RNs transition into practice. What I have been experiencing is a big increase in irritability on my days off, and just generally feeling down in the dumps. I wonder if I'm stumbling into a bout of depression (never had any mental health issues before).
I've always been a very athletic person, and working out (which has always been my go to stress relief, and just source of fun and community) isn't fun anymore. Even hanging out with good friends, I don't have fun and feel like I'm just putting on a brave face. I snap at my spouse of three years randomly, and the other day lost it and yelled at the dog for no good reason (I mean, she did eat poop in the yard, but what dog doesn't eat poop? This isn't new behavior for the dog, it's new behavior for me). I've been very low energy, and just haven't felt like myself in several weeks, I'm not enjoying my job and I'm not enjoying my days off. My spouse has commented on it, and at first I didn't want to believe him, but I think he's right. My general emotional lability and down-in-the-dumps attitude are taking a toll on him as well.
And, the last shift I worked, I had a patient try and get out of bed and fall. I was getting report on a new admit; another nurse heard the bed alarm and by the time she ran to the door, the patient was already on his way down. Immediately my coworkers were rushing to the room with me and helping (did I mention I work on an awesome unit?) but my own emotional response was zero, zilch, nothing. That's never happened to me - I've always felt some sympathy/empathy towards my patients. Not to an unhealthy level, I'm pretty good at leaving my patients at work when I go home; but y'know, I've always felt for them being in a hard situation. But not this time - and that scares me.
I've talked with other RNs in my cohort, and none of them are having this experience or questioning their career choice. This feels like when I've gotten burnt out in my prior jobs, and I'm concerned that I'm experiencing burn out so soon into this job. I'm not sure if it's working nights, if it's me, if I'm not cut out to be at the bedside or what. I'm meeting with one of my mentors from nursing school next week, but would love to hear advice from other RNs out there as well before going to my manager or NUS. Have you seen new grads have similar struggles? What did they do?
Currently, my options seem limited, as I'm not exactly hireable with so little experience. I am on the list to go to day shift (and I'm the only one on that list, the other night shift RNs on my floor love nights), but nights are super short staffed right now so it doesn't look like I'll be switching any time soon. And, to be honest, right now I'm just doubting whether I should be an RN in general, so I don't think switching to days will help - it might just stress me out more! I'm thinking of asking to go part time, at least for a while, and also thinking about going to a counselor to see if that helps. My fear is that I'll be told I can't go to part time and that going to a counselor won't help me enough, I'm worried that I'm past the point of no return. I have my yearly check up in a few weeks, so I'll definitely bring it up with my doctor - but I'd love to avoid using antidepressants. Anyway, I'll wrap up this novel of a post, but I sincerely would appreciate hearing from anyone who has had a similar experience, or known someone with similar experiences.
Thanks in advance!