New nurse - Bedside nursing is not for me

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Hi Nurse Beth.

Just quick background - nursing is a 2nd career for me. I have my BS in Business Management but decided to go back to school for nursing after watching a couple family members die from cancer.

I am a new nurse with less than one year of experience (been on my own for 3 months) on a telemetry unit in a hospital. I have learned very quickly that bedside nursing is not for me and now I'm crying over the fact I wasted 2 years of my life going back to school for nursing (I literally cry in tears about the fact how much I dislike bedside nursing and that I really did waste 2 years going back to school for nursing). The reason why I do not like the bedside nursing is because of the high stress that is involved of taking care of very sick patients.

Before I gave up on the whole nursing degree I looked into case management because it looks like an area where I can put both degrees to good use. However, some places require a BSN and 2 years bedside nursing experience .... I can tell right now I do not think I'll be lasting 2 years at the bedside if I feel awful about it now and I don't know if I want to go for my BSN for MBA at this point if I do go back to school. So now I feel like I'm back to where I feel like dropping the whole nursing license, and realize I made one big life mistake and head back to my comfort zone in the business world. And I'm sure someone will ask "How did you not realize this in nursing school?" All the times I shadowed a nurse during clinicals everything seemed so streamlined but it has been total opposite for me. Before I drop nursing all together I was hoping you could offer advice about other type of Nursing Jobs I could look into with (hopefully) 6 months of bedside nursing experience.

I just want to feel comfortable again in a career and just wish I could stop crying because I do that a lot when I think about what a huge mistake I've made. Thank you so much for all your time.


Dear Dislikes Nursing,

I would not recommend making a career change until you have a year under your belt. You will have a hard time finding something else before then. At one year, your options increase considerably. Hopefully, you can tolerate sticking it out for a few more months knowing there's an end in sight and that your marketability is increasing by the minute.

Spend this time talking to other nurses and exploring other options within nursing that don't involve the high intensity/stress you describe. There are many, many non-bedside options out there, both inside and outside of the hospital. You already mentioned Case Management, good choice.

There's also Utilization Review that might be a good fit for someone with your business knowledge. Informatics is a good area for nurses who enjoy computers. There's Employee Health, Pre-Admission Screening, Risk Management, Quality, Infection Prevention, and much more. There's telephonic case management for working remotely, and nurse educator roles for vendors such as Hill Rom, BARD, etc. As a benefit, you get to travel.

Outpatient oncology clinics allow you to have patient contact but without the inpatient stress. They can be very busy, but the environment is more controlled.

I could keep going on and on, but you get the idea. There really is something for everyone. Explore different career paths here on allnurses at Nursing Specialties

You have a Bachelor's degree in Business, which is great, although a Bachelor's in Nursing is preferred and sometimes required.

As far as being certain you made a huge mistake, why not suspend that judgement until you've been out a year. You may see things differently at that point. At least consider the possibility that it's possible :)

There's a time to move past the regret, stop beating yourself up, and move forward. You will feel better when you have a plan and you're back in control making your plan happen. For starters, you did not waste 2 years. Frame it as 2 years of gaining transferable and marketable skills..

Best wishes,

Nurse Beth

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I completely relate to your feelings on bedside nursing, it's not for everyone. First and foremost, be proud of your hard work and dedication that you have made to become an RN, it was not a mistake.

I graduated last year at 51 and gratefully accepted a med-surg position that I was offered. Well, I knew very quickly that bedside nursing was not for me. Like yourself, I cried and got physically sick at the thought of having to return the next day. The thought of gaining experience in a position I did not like was upsetting. I spoke with management, thanked them for the opportunity and resigned.

I worked too hard for this degree to be unhappy. I have since accepted a position in an out-patient substance abuse clinic and am very happy there. As an RN, the choices are vast. It'll take some work, but you will find a position that will be satisfying to you.

You don't have to settle. Good luck!

I can advise the OP. I came from another profession too and was successful there before Nursing.

The first thing I would advice you is to objectively answer the question what in bedside nursing that you do not like? Then think some more, what else in Nursing do you not like? What in it do you like?

Whatever your answers are, try to finish 2 years of practice, so that so can still have Nursing as an extra means of living just in case.

I suggest an approach of combining your two backgrounds - business and nursing. Studying nursing is not a waste just as studying business was not. However, instead of taking up degrees, you now need the actual experience.

If your background is business, Case Management, Utilization Management, Quality...all these will be boring to you eventually just as bedside nursing is at this time.. So I suggest Project Management in a healthcare organization or a clinical software company. You do not need to be technical. You do not need an MS in Informatics in a software company. The Informatics curriculum is not the best prep for software. Try to start as software tester or trainer (not educator) with a clinical software company. Then take a PMP exam. Your BA degree is more closely aligned to running projects. If you do not want to lead a project, try business analysis where you provide the content and where your business approach works well. Don't paper chase too much as it might make you overqualified for the entry level job. These career paths are well paid, well respected and offers creativity.

I am 53 and found that I enjoy long term care/caring for elders. I currently work at an assisted living and really like it. the only drawback is that there is no skilled nursing allowed. Anyone who needs a skill gets a visiting nurse. I care for quite a few hospice patients, as well. I wouldn't give up if I were you. Trying out other areas of nursing might lead to a better fit for you!

Specializes in Emergency Care.

The best thing about nursing is the amount of different areas to choose. Look into forensic nursing it may challenge your knowledge and give you what your looking for.

Specializes in ER/Tele, Med-Surg, Faculty, Urgent Care.

One of my former students, a BSN grad was hired for tumor registry straight out of school. She is still in that role, has never worked on the floors.

I worked at a methadone clinic in the past. We hired a new grad, an ADN. She was detail oriented plus was receptive to suggestions. She now works in the OR at local hospital. Has never worked on the floors.

Also telemetry is a specialty, it is not med-surg, you've got all the cardiac stuff to learn, EKG rhythms, cardiac drips at the same time you are learning time management, so that is probably why you are having a rough time.

Time to think outside the box.

Specializes in ER, Med-Surg/Telemetry.

How about hospice nursing? It's very rewarding and a slower pace. Typically requires only 1 year of experience. Hang in there!

Specializes in Dialysis.

Look at what's available in your area or area you are willing to travel to before you make a decision and see what kind of jobs and job requirements are there. In my area, most of the non-floor nursing is given to those with many years experience first, but everywhere is different. You may need to broaden your horizons and change locations to get what you want; I agree with PPs who asked what you like and dislike about nursing, what are your expectations, etc. Don't toss nursing out the window, but find what will center you and work towards that goal

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