Nasty Coworkers should i stay or should I go?

[enfermeratobe]

Hello everyone I am having this battle right now with whether or not I should stay at an office that I am working at now. I am a fairly new LPN only been working for about a year and a few months. I have been working in a pediatrics office as far as peds I absolutely love it and enjoy the kids a lot and the providers are very supportive as well. The problem I have is the nursing staff and receptionists are very close have been friends for 5+ years some as much as 10. They are very clicky. The nursing staff treat me poorly this has been since day one really. I cleaned a room once and there was a cheerio in a toy box I missed the nurse yelled for me brought the cheerio out and reprimanded me in front of the whole back office how I missed it and she cant believe it and on and on.They make snide remarks to me all the time, one person told me im not allowed to use her computer and to get out of standing near her spot and move further to the right and started grabbing my stuff and flinging it to the other side, I am in RN school as well and work part time so it is hard for me to be there every day they make comments how I cant work more even though I do almost all the Saturdays and close Friday evenings and Thursdays to make up for my absence. They humiliate me in front of the nursing staff and providers in the back if I miss something or forget a paper they will yell it out and keep talking about it and make me feel so small. Recently I was told a nurse would say in my absense that i am a "slow a**, Fat and a fat whale". I had a cousin who passed during the summer early 20 in a horrific car accident and I was working full time and still came to work and try to keep it together. I texted the manager and asked her if I can go home after lunch since I was very upset and grieving and tearful and the response was that only leaves us with two nurses and two aids no sympathy no help I was very upset. The nursing staff always have get togethers and post on fb and I'm never invited they do not greet me when I walk in for a shift and only speak to me really if it regards me covering shifts for them. They never ask how school is going how I'm doing or even how wedding planning is coming along as I just got engaged. When I started school they just became even more mean.I dont know how much more of this I can take the list goes on and on. I feel like I can try and tough it out until I graduate RN school or maybe count my losses and cut some negativity out of my life. They can never keep nurses and the turnover is very high except for the original ones I mentioned which know I think I know why. What should I do? I try to be respectful and nice but there is only so much I can do. I always take shifts when possible, come in so they can go to their doctors appointments and always stay late and close im not perfect no one is but I just want some respect and a friend. Ps I have no one to really talk to as we are military and moved far from home and I am still trying to make friends I can trust 😔

[klone, MSN, RN]

This sounds like a culture issue - unfortunately, pretty much the only way a unit culture can be changed is at the top with leadership. And it often necessitates removing several key players. This is a shift that will likely take years, if leadership is even willing to do this. There is nothing you can do. Sorry to be so pessimistic, but I've seen this issue before.

I would recommend that you start looking for a new job, unless you think you can tough this out until you finishing school. I wouldn't be able to. I need to be able to go to a job that I look forward to, not dread.

[enfermeratobe]

Thank you management has been there for almost twenty years so I don't see this changing sadly. I had a feeling that leaving might be what's best for me at this time. I was going to quit anyways for my fourth semester of RN school so I can do well and finish strong so I think I might throw in the towel a few weeks early. Thank you for your help :)

[caliotter3]

Find another job. This is not worth it.

[CalArmy]

I tell my daughter every day that bullies do not go away with age. I'm sorry you are having a rough time. Get out while you still have some sanity.

[Thegrizzlybearzombie]

Unfortunately, there is a reason they can't keep nurses. I'd look elsewhere.

[CrunchRN, ADN, RN]

They Suck. Move on.

[beckysue920]

I am so sorry you are having to deal with such terrible human beings! Before you go, just once, in front of everyone within earshot, tell the person who is dissing you that YOU DO NOT APPRECIATE HER/HIM DENIGRATING YOU FOR ALL TO HEAR. Tell them there are more professional ways to approach people. Be assertive. Stop volunteering to close the clinic and cover for others. They are not going out of their way to help you. Then hand in your resignation.

In the long run, this may help you feel better and know you got your message out there before you quit.

I wish you the best!

[doodlebuttRN]

Wow. Good on you for sticking it out as long as you have in this toxic environment. If I were you, I would definitely be looking for something else. Once I found a new job, I'd kindly give my notice, work till my last day, and never look back. For all the time you've put in at this office, please don't lessen your chances at a decent reference by leaving without finishing your 2 weeks (or whatever) giving them a reason not to give you a good reference.

The reason that these behaviors continue, and that this toxic culture persists, is because management allows it to. You sound like a hard worker, and I'd be willing to bet you can find a better job where you won't be miserable all the time. Especially since you are in school. That alone is more than enough stress, no reason to pile more on working in an environment where you are so distressed. Also, it sounds like this may be your first nursing job, and I want to say (even though I'm sure you probably know this, it can't hurt to say it), that not all nursing jobs are like this! In fact, in my experience, the VAST majority are not. Usually, it takes a while for a new hire to get comfortable, and for your coworkers to get to know and trust you, but it sounds like you are way past that already.

I wish you the best in school, and your upcoming wedding! Hang in there. Allnurses is an amazing resource for nurses, whether about school, scheduling issues, interpersonal/coworker conflicts, and everything else. ((hugs))

[kp2016]

I have had the misfortune to work in several jobs with incredibly nasty co-workers. I can tell you that all it takes is for one or two of the key people to leave, be fired or die (without a lie one died, and as horrible as it sounds I was relieved) and the culture will change overnight. I would say start looking for a new job, if you find it and nothing has changed take it, but don't lose hope, things really can change.