Moving just as training is ending.

dream'n, BSN, RN · May 2, 2019

The professional thing to do is to let them know immediately. That way they can hire another nurse for the position and not pay to train you for a job that you won't be doing.

I do find it a bit disconcerting that your husband suddenly decided that he is retiring and that the two of you are moving without having consulted long and hard with you.

And why would anyone hate you?

RNperdiem, RN · May 2, 2019

Traditionally the man decided to move for the work and the woman followed him. The women were expected to make the sacrifices because the men were the breadwinners. I still see this on this board often enough. A new nurse lands a dream job, and all of a sudden, the husband/fiancee/boyfriend decides to move. Sometimes I wonder if this is some kind of sabotage.

You can push back. You will be the one earning money and he will be the retiree. Tell him that moving is not something to be rushed into, and while he is scouting locations and making plans and dealing with the millions of pieces of details that go with this over the next year or so, you will be gaining valuable work experience and earning some money.

Stand up for your best interest. Fight for your career.

Trauma Columnist · May 2, 2019

Moved to career forum.

I wanted to add that my husband retires in <2 months (yeah!) and yes he would like to move to somewhere warm and sunny. However, our family is here and I have a wonderful job with great benefits so we discussed it throughout the years (retirement is not usually a surprize) and have decided that we are just going to vacation somewhere warm....maybe talk with your husband about holding off on moving?

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · May 2, 2019

Tell him that moving is going to be delayed until you get your 2 yrs experience. He can find a hobby that can occupy his time for the next 2 yrs. He can also plan out where he would like to move to.

llg, PhD, RN · May 2, 2019

I think you have gotten some good responses to your question. If this job is important to you, then tell your husband that you need to delay moving (whether he chooses to retire now or not). If you want to move ... then move.

But what you should NOT do is take the paid training from your current employer and then leave immediately -- without having worked long enough for them to feel you have been worth their investment. If you are going to move, tell them right away, apologize, and stop taking their money and training under false pretenses. I think you know that such a course of action would be morally wrong on your part.