Mom of RN in rehab lookiing for advice and help

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I am so grateful to have found this website and forum. I have been reading the discussions and appreciate all the info given. My daughter who is an RN for 12 years is in an inpatient drug center now for 2 weeks. She turned herself into BON after she got into trouble for taking meds and went straight to rehab where she will be for 45 days. I want to help find resources that will help her on her journey of recovery. Places where she can talk to other nurses that have been or going through the same thing. I must say that in general people are so judgmental about my daughter being a drug addict and a nurse. It's hard for me to understand how they can't see where how this could happen to someone in the medical field. Someone told me she shouldn't have become a nurse if she was going to become a drug addict! Like my daughter or anyone else here wanted to be a drug addict! I would appreciate any help or advice you can share with me. You are all so brave and kind in reaching out and helping one another.

Hi Anne! I will give her this info and tell her you are sending positive thoughts. Thanks again for all your help.

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Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

Just checking on y'all again - hope your daughter is still doing well at treatment. Please let her know I have been thinking of her and hope all is well.

Hope the legal aspect gets resolved - it sure would be nice if they would just let her be on probation - community service maybe?

Let me know if she has any questions or if I can help in any way! Look forward to her joining us here at AN.

Anne, RNC

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Hi Anne! Saw my daughter today. She will be out of inpatient in two weeks. She is doing well. Yes, hopefully, her legal matters will work out with her being on probation. Truly appreciate your checking on her. She is going to connect on here as soon as she can. Thanks for helping us! God bless

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Awesome!i'm glad things are going well for her. Look forward to getting to meet her here at AN. She has a great mom for trying to do whatever you can for her.

I hated telling my mom - got that disappointing look- I felt horrible about what I had done, but telling her and my dad was worse than calling the BON, worse than getting fired, as bad as sitting at home waiting for a spot at rehab. She learned a lot going to Alanon too, so that helped.

Has the facility said anything about a halfway house post inpatient? Hopefully she can just return home instead. :)

Anne, RNC

Anne

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Hi Anne! I know how important it is to have your family's support during recovery. My daughter kept her addiction a secret for many years. She probably would not have told anyone until she got arrested. I was shocked when she told me. It's scary to hear that your child is a drug addict. Mostly, I was sad that she could not reach out to anyone and had to keep her secret for so long. She knows she did wrong and want to be in recovery. When she asked for help, I got her into rehab and got her an attorney. I am going to support her yet I will not enable her. It is her addiction and her recovery. She knows she has to do the work and it is a forever journey in recovery. Alanon is helping me so much in my journey with my daughter's addiction. My daughter has shared with me how ashamed she is and how much she hates what she has done to herself and her family. I think the hardest part for an addict is to forgive themselves. You live with this everyday. God forgives. I forgive my daughter. I pray everyday that she can forgive herself and take her recovery one day at a time.

Did you go to a halfway house? I don't know yet if she will go to one yet. They did mention it.

Thank you, Anne, for helping us.

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your daughter is very fortunate to have you- it really helps to have someone close to you who will give you support & encouragement. &you definitely are on the right track yourself! best of luck to you both. when she is able to, she will find lots of support here.

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Hello! Glad to hear rom you. In the treatment facility where I had my stay, they did broach the subject of halfway houses. I did not go, I was able to go straight home from inpt to home. This is not always the best of advice.

I have a feeling we were in the same facility - could be wrong. Just a feeling.

Mama did come visit me every Sat or Sun (the visiting day every week). She did bring Popeyes for my little group _ and we did have some quiet time to talk as well as out family therapy sessions

When I was d/ced to home, my counselor told me that she would send me home but if I cme back to that facility, she would "see to it that I was in a halfway house for at least 6 months.

Another RN said that she was at the same facility for inpt, and went to a halfway house - Oct - Nov time, and she was at her house most of the time.

Just checking on u guys - y'all gave been on my mind a lot. Let your daughter know I have been thinking g of y'all and praying for u and your daughter. Please know I am here if I can do anything. Has she found a sponsor yet??

Anne, RNC

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Hi Anne! Had a good visit with my daughter today. She is going to a halfway house for 3 months after her 45 days of inpatient as recommended by her counselors. She will find a sponsor there. I will miss her but will see her when I can. It if further away than her inpatient facility. Then she will come home and do her outpatient. I am so proud of her. She is doing so much better. She is so looking forward to connecting with you and other nurses here. As always, thank you for caring.

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Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

Hey! SO glad she's doing well. I know it helps her being able to visit with you. Hopefully ya'll will still be able to visit while she's in the halfway house.

I'm proud that she's doing what she needs to do - it's not always easy, but we are here for both of u.

Anne, RNC

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