Hi Everyone! I've enjoyed reading these forums and now I have a question
Due to the usual nursing stressors, I find I'm having more frequent little " meltdowns" at work. I try to go off and be alone but, invariably, some nosy Parker shows up and sees me " like that".
I know I need a break, preferably a year but A) cannot afford it $, and B) hubby not supportive to say the least
I work at a VERY NONSENSICAL place. At least 33% if the nurses have apps in elsewhere
Myself, I have put in an app at the VA , but only 2 weeks ago and I know that we are talking sometime later this Year, if they hired me at all, that I would be able to leave my current job.
A work friend says I am so stressed and fragile that , were it her, she'd take a temporary position elsewhere while " waiting for the VA to come through" ( if it does)
Should I do this? For my mental health? I've been at my place for 12 years , almost vested ( in 2 months, they didn't count my first 5.5 years bc I was PRN), but 4 years ago a new Regime came in and it's been Hades ever since. I thought I could wait out the " new " DON's retirement which is early 2017, but I fear a stroke before then.
I'd like to think that you aren't working FT for your teens to have Sbux, best phones..
Raising 5 kids were be hard to do on a PT income and hopefully your husband does all of his share, but I sure wouldn't bust my ass for unessentials, it would make me very resentful but at the same time something I created.
Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
We working moms often tend to overcompensate with things instead of time,I did it,too.A teacher and a friend had to lovingly clue me in to the facts of life years ago.I grew up pretty poor.I started baby sitting at 12 and bought my first car ( a $500.00 pinto-don't judge!)I was very proud.My son paid for his first car and cell phone as well.However I was still cutting his meat for him years after I should have been.Took me years to find that balance
We working moms often tend to overcompensate with things instead of time,I did it,too.A teacher and a friend had to lovingly clue me in to the facts of life years ago.I grew up pretty poor.I started baby sitting at 12 and bought my first car ( a $500.00 pinto-don't judge!)I was very proud.My son paid for his first car and cell phone as well.However I was still cutting his meat for him years after I should have been.Took me years to find that balance
I hear you. I was a SAHM for years and had guilt goimg back to work. My SO has compensated many times and I've had to persuade him to do otherwise which went against his instincts which were clouded with guilt.
it was menopause. Nope; 53 and as regular as ever. ( to my utter displeasure).
As for the antidepressants, I was put on Duloxetine some time ago but it is for PMDD
to be fair, the timing if the latest meltdown, last week, coincided exactly with arrival of the curse
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My family all pressures me to keep working FT not PT as I did for so long. . They say if I go back PT we will " be broke" again. Of course what they are really concerned about is : loss of expensive smart phones, ATT service, Starbucks $, and sll sort of goodies teenagers love. Oh yes,
I have 5 at home; 4 teens and one girl 12, but soon to turn 13. Another reason I am !
I'm sorry to hear about your situation What type of goodies do you get when you are vested? I think the VA would be a good place to work at. They also have jobs on base that you can work at. Have you checked out usajobs.org? I'm on there quite a bit. I would love to use my veteran time towards a VA job.
One last thing, we are working the Dave Ramsay plan and our plan is to be debt free in two years. $120,000 paid off. I want to have freedom so if I or my wife want to go part time we wont be shackled to debt and junk. Plus, it'd be awesome to tell my manager to um...well, you know.
You know what you need to do-every one of your children can earn their own spending money. This is a great teachable moment for your family, take advantage of it.Kids are egocentric-they have to be taught to consider other's feelings. And look up some recipes for coffee drinks-you can make your won for a fraction of that price.
THIS. You need to make it clear that you are willing to do whatever you have to do to keep them fed, clothed, and in a home/apartment. You are NOT willing to sacrifice your mental and physical health for luxuries, however. They are not entitled to tech devices or frou-frou coffee. And part of growing up is learning to accept that the world does not revolve around them.
What type of goodies do you get when you are vested? I think the VA would be a good place to work at. They also have jobs on base that you can work at. Have you checked out usajobs.org? I'm on there quite a bit. I would love to use my veteran time towards a VA job.
Libby1987
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I'd like to think that you aren't working FT for your teens to have Sbux, best phones..
Raising 5 kids were be hard to do on a PT income and hopefully your husband does all of his share, but I sure wouldn't bust my ass for unessentials, it would make me very resentful but at the same time something I created.