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Hi everyone, I'm a fairly new member. I graduated nursing school in August and with moving to a new state and taking the naked and some computer glitch, my license didn't become active until early November last year. I started looking for work as soon I received notice that my license was active.

I got an interview with a pain management clinic and while I thought I was a shoe in for the job (the NM seemed to really like me) the NM called me a week later and said that position went to an MA... it was pretty frustrating but the NM ended up offering me a part time position as the triage nurse. I took it really thinking, this is probably the best I can do so I should at least try to get my foot in the door and hopefully make my resume look more appealing with an actual nurse job on it.

I was pretty far into my first trimester when I accepted the offer but I didn't say anything cause it was part time. Well, literally 3 days into training for this new job the NM called me into her office and said the MA training me says I seem to miss my son (I have a two year old who's in daycare full time. She asked if I had kids and then she wanted to see pics so I showed her. I had no clue that meant I missed my son so much that I can't get through the day). Anyway, I explained that of course I miss my child but he would go to daycare whether I came here to work or not. I didn't want him to get so used to being home that it becomes an issue with him at daycare when I find a decent job. That didn't stop her from bumping me down from part time to PRN.

I immediately started looking for work and still didn't mention my pregnancy. I was so unhappy there. I asked every day I worked when I'd be able to have the responsibility of an actual LPN. Everyone else thought I was new MA that came to replace one of the others so a few of the other MAs refused to even speak to me. Fast forward to last Monday. I get a call from the NM, she said she'd still like to keep me on PRN but they wouldn't be needing me again until MAYBE March!!

It really hurts that I'm having such a hard time finding work. I kept putting in resumes and I finally got an interview with this place that I've been trying to get into for a while (since I was a CNA) well now I'm 4 months along and obviously showing. It's a fast paced skilled facility, way closer to my home than this PRN position and the pay is higher. The schedule is also exactly the way it would work out best for my family.

I went to this interview anyway (yesterday) and as soon as she asked me about myself, I let the DON know I am pregnant. I mean, if she didn't see my belly when I walked into her office she was blind. But I explained to her that I'm still very active-- having a 2yo doesn't really give me time to just kick back... even on the days he's in daycare I still work out and keep busy. She went on to share with me that she almost delivered both her sons while she was a staff nurse on that same unit. It made me feel a little better that she didn't shoe me away right after I said that.

She took me on a tour of "one of the units I'll be assigned to if I'm hired" and we discussed "what I color scrubs I need to wear if I work there" . We also discussed salary, that's how I found out the pay is higher than what I currently make. She told me she prefers hiring new grads (another plus for me) and I told her that I will definitely work until I deliver, even if I went into labor on my shift- my hospital is super close to this place. She told me her only concern would be if I would be able to keep up, being that I'm pregnant and I may tire out quickly compared to a non pregnant applicant. I understand that concern but I feel that I would be more determined to work and be an efficient nurse not only because I'm a new grad and super anxious to use my hard earned skills but being pregnant with my 2nd child, we definitely need the extra income. I wouldn't do anything to jeopardize my livelihood. I told her all of this.

The interview lasted just over 30 min (maybe 40) and we discussed my skills and what I could bring to the facility as an individual. At the end she gave me her card, let me know there were other interviews and she would be calling me with an answer in the next 2 weeks. Then she corrected herself and said I'd hear from her in a couple of days and if two weeks went by and I had not heard from her, to please call or email her and she gave me her card. I came straight home and wrote a thank you note and put it in the mail....

I'm so nervous now. I feel that mentioning my pregnancy messed up my chance at this job I really want. .. but I'm showing and I didn't want to be dishonest and give her or the staff a bad impression of me. What do you all think? Do you think I have a chance at this place based on what I just told you? I'm just getting really discouraged and being a new grad, stopping the job search until after baby isn't going to look good on my resume. I don't have any real paid experience as it is...Thanks in advance!!!

UPDATE!!!!!

I called HR at the facility headquarters (I guess?? I live in VA and this lady is in PA) to see if I could get an interview with the facility in a different location. She just called to let me know that the DON at the place I want emailed her to let her know that she's checking my references and if they're all positive then she'll extend an offer!!!!! OMG I'm so nervous now!!! I'm really ready to hear a yes or no soon (but I'm really hoping yes!!) Pray for mr please everyone!!!!!! I will update again whichever way it turns out!!!

Specializes in Critical Care, Education.

I hope everything works out well for you.

Just an FYI - In the US, it is a violation of FEDERAL employment law to ask a job applicant anything about her/his personal circumstances. This includes marital status, children, dependents, religion, etc. They can only ask things like "would you have any problem working the ____ shift?" or "do you have any health issues that would prevent you from performing all of the job duties?" But, if you 'volunteer' the information, it's OK for them to ask follow-up questions. Bottom line... never offer any personal information in a job interview.

Best of luck & congrats on your impending offspring #2!

thanks HouTx!! if my tummy wasn't so round I would've stayed quiet till I got an offer but I got nervous that she'd see it, assume I'm lazy or further along and send me swiftly on my way. I wanted her to see how determined and ambitious I am having another child only makes me want to work more. I really want this. Next time, if there has to be a next time (I really hope I get the good call), I probably won't be so forthcoming with the good news...

Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.

I have all my fingers and toes crossed and sending positive thoughts and prayers....((HUGS))

Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.
I have all my fingers and toes crossed and sending positive thoughts and prayers....((HUGS))

Me too!

Thanks so much CrunchED and Esme12!!!! I will definitely keep you all posted:)

I'm sorry I meant CrunchRN

It's ILLEGAL to discriminate against a pregnant woman or a woman with children.

Any employer should know that those issues should not be addressed .. EVER.. especially in an interview.

Leaves me to wonder the caliber of these facilities.

Good luck, but next time look them in the eye and tell them "these interview questions aren't legal".

It's ILLEGAL to discriminate against a pregnant woman or a woman with children.Any employer should know that those issues should not be addressed .. EVER.. especially in an interview.Leaves me to wonder the caliber of these facilities.Good luck, but next time look them in the eye and tell them "these interview questions aren't legal".
Oh no she didn't ask if I was pregnant, I volunteered the information thinking she'd notice anyway and I didn't want it to look like a deliberate omission. This is somewhere that I'd like to stay long term if I'm offered the position and I'd want her to know who she's hiring, as much as she can during the interview. This also gives her more time to figure out what she'll need to do to prepare for my brief absence over the summer (if I'm hired).... it's probably a dumb move on my part and I'll learn my lesson soon enough I'm guessing. .. but I hate lying about something that will have an affect on my attendance in the next 5 months. I'm hoping she appreciates my open and honest approach to the interview. The only question she did ask me (after I disclosed my pregnancy and told her my plans as far as work) was if I thought I'd be able to keep up with the pace of the facility... I'm not offended by it, I guess she could ask me that even if I wasn't pregnant? Idk... I think hiring professionals should pick employees based on skills and attitude at the time of the interview. But it's still a wild card process even that way. She could skip over me and go for the non pregnant nurse who graduated before me who's got a more solid skills base but is willing to take the same pay. Then that person could start working, and be a drug seeker, or avoid their tasks or be dishonest or mean to the patients or staff... With my approach I would hope she saw that I would not be that way, that I'm a team player and I put patient care at a very high standard. So many people get into nursing for the wrong reasons: they need a job and this is a quick fix, there's that "shortage" (that can't possibly still exist otherwise I wouldn't be worried, I'd be working), and they think nurses make bank (it can be done but an LPN fresh out of school will not be rich instantly and there are tons of careers that pay more). I really want to help people with medical issues and I want to be apart of the difference that's made when someone comes into your life who really cares and they know that person doesn't have to, but they can tell that they WANT to. I'm not sure she got all that in a 40 minute chat with me but learning all that about me would definitely take time and I never want her to think she invested in a dishonest person or someone who lacks the confidence (even though I definitely don't feel it right now),assertiveness, determination and ambition it takes to succeed. I'm praying she picks me. I'm also really sorry I left such a long comment haha I'm sorry Been there Done that :) It is illegal to discriminate but it happens more often than not and even if she decided now that I don't deserve the job simply because I'm pregnant, she could say anything and I'd have no evidence of this discrimination. It's the knowledge of this unspoken discrimination that's discouraging me at this time. I know she shouldn't, no one should. But she could definitely do it and others do it all the time:(
Specializes in Clinical Research, Outpt Women's Health.

You are better being honest.

The thing is people just never mention the pregnancy and then do not hire because of it. That way no one can prove anything.... That is how it works in reality.

However, like I said, if you are seen as a good candidate the pregnancy is not that big an issue for the right hiring person.

Specializes in Geriatrics, Telemetry, Med-Surg.

I got hired on a med-surg floor at 6.5 months along. I was obviously pregnant. However, my employer did not take me back after my maternity leave. Now I'm labeled as a 'job hopper' because I had 3 nursing jobs in one year. Sigh. Best of luck to you.

OMG that's awful lilsnfrn!!! I hope that doesn't happen to me:( I can't even get a call back though so I may just lose my skills hoping someone hires me. I had that one interview and have not heard from anyone about anything. The HR lady who was so friendly and helpful last week is nowhere to be found... I'm thinking she may be on vacation?? So far, I don't think any of my references have been contacted. I checked with my current and previous employer once I found out the DON at this new place was gonna make some calls. My current employer said she would give a reference when she gets a call, my previous employer said company policy is that she can't say anything at all and that I'm supposed to give her the info for HR. So I emailed the DON about this change and I haven't heard anything back. I'm starting to lose hope... I just really want to work and be a nurse and I'm getting so sad that no one's even giving me a first look, much less a second.... how long does it take to contact employers anyway. This new director said that I should call or email her if I haven't heard anything back in two weeks (one week now) am I worrying too much? She still has a week before I should expect a response, but she assured me before I left that I would hear from her much sooner:(

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