Does nursing change you into an angry person? - page 4

I read a lot of posts and my aunt who has been an LPN for over twenty years has told me to stay far away from nursing. She works in LTC, I believe, mostly nursing homes. I don't think I have ever... Read More

  1. by   stellaj89
    I graduated nursing school a little over a year ago....and I think there are days where you can definitely get frustrated...but most the time I feel happy to be a nurse. Every once in a while you will get that one patient who makes you realize why you chose your profession. They will tell you how much it means to them to have a nice like you taking care of them and anytime you can make that poor sick person smile you will feel like a great person and an awesome nurse!!
  2. by   CrissiQ
    Well, I can only give you my thoughts...

    I also came from little and worked my way up. Started as a bedmaker (not sure they even have them anymore), then a CNA , to an LPN , onto an (ASN) RN, now a (BSN) RN looking into and masters program to become an APRN. A whole lot of experience was gained along the one. The advise I can give is YES, nursing will make you angry, sorrowful, ashamed, confused and sometimes even hateful. However, it is capable of giving you the most joy, happiness, satisfaction and fill you with wonder about life and the human spirit. Some days you will be proud, and some days you will be humbled. That will depend on you. You will need a support system of good understanding friends and family. Or like me, you will hopefully, find them along your journey. If you can hear the calling you are obligated to answer...Asking these questions, in particular, has the makings of a good nurse already!

    God bless and Good luck
  3. by   kcmartin97
    I agree LTC is tough to do, but after being a nurse for about 20 yrs, I am not bitter or and angry person, but it is like any other job you have good days and bad days!
  4. by   springsong
    I like yourcareer plan. I believe that in our profession we have to move up instead ofgetting stagnant in one level of profession. That is why it is crucial toalways make a plan about our career. We have to make a short term and long termgoal. Planning for one's career is crucial so you will know how you progress.Many professional gets stock in one position because of lack of careerplanning. I consider nursing to be a humble position. To love your profession,you have to be passionate about it and like it. Nursing is a very challengingcareer and it requires patience to be around with high stress environment. I don'tbelieve that nurses area hateful people. If you observe bullying in the workplacethat is part of nursing or maybe that the staffs are burned-out.
  5. by   multi10
    Does nursing change you into an angry person? No. Nursing made me a happy person. It depends upon where you work and your colleagues. My first med-surg job after my BSN graduation was horrible. I had committed to a year, and the day after the year anniversary, I quit. I went to a nursing agency and started working the next day. I worked ICU/CCU/SICU for the next 8 years in various hospitals. I learned so much and was fortunate enough to love my job. But I didn't work for the hospitals- I worked for the agency.

    It was great. I made my own hours, the pay was fantastic and, the most important thing, I usually stayed at each hospital for at least six (6) months, sometimes 3 years. I was part of brilliant teams of physicians and nurses (I almost always worked in teaching hospitals). I loved going to work because every day was a learning experience. I helped save lives every day.

    Now, one time I did get angry. Through the agency I worked on a psych ward for a week with the same patient. I had established trust with him, but I was walking him and he suddenly put his hands around my neck and tried to strangle me.
  6. by   gonzo1
    I've been a nurse for ten years. I still love it. It can be very hard, but it is very rewarding. You will meet all kinds.
  7. by   BBarton
    Agree with HS20/20RN!! That's my mission
  8. by   NursingLove4all
    Honestly, being a nurse has made me a better listener, made me sharper mentally, made me happy emotionally as I realize how lucky I am not to have those problems, and gives me fulfillment. This profession is my everything and I went in it for all the right reasons. I absolutely love being a nurse and even my patients say that I deliver such amazing care and they always compliment me to management If you love what you do, it will show. I appreciate everything my profession has done for me and I enjoy being there for people in times of needs. Don't get me wrong, there are days I get frustrated but I don't let it get to me.
  9. by   jadelpn
    Nothing can make you an angry, bitter person without your consent, a nurse or not.
    Nursing has made me perhaps be a "you can't tell me anything I haven't heard before" kind of a person, but that is good or bad depending on the circumstamces.
    It is frustrating at times for those of us who have been nurses for a bit to balance caring for patients, and the goals and objectives of the actual facilitiy's business. Depending on the facility, that could seemingly take precedence over patients.
    You can only do what you do in your own practice. As you advance in your career, you can only try to make the atmosphere on your unit as positive as you can.
    In my opinion, it is people who start at the begining that can make real changes and good working conditions when all is said and done.
    Best of luck in your endevours.
  10. by   Amnesty
    I agree with the poster who said you just have to build up a wall and not let the bad stuff get through it to harm you. Sometimes it will, and you have your breakdown and you go right on about your life. It makes you stronger. I've worked a lot of crappy jobs, and I don't think that I could've survived them without that kind of mentality.
  11. by   KRSLPN
    I wouldn't say it turns you into a mean person, but there is a certain level of frustration from caring for the people who have never worked a day in their entire life, who live on public assistance then come into the health care facility and begin demanding "star" treatment.
    It's also very difficult to deal with the totally non compliant patient, the one who disregards all doctors' orders then shows up at the health care facility and expect to be "fixed".
    Those are the things, to me, add up to frustration in the job, which in turn changes once good, caring nurses into detatched med passing machines.
  12. by   TheMediaLies
    The first 1-5 years after graduating? No. Afterwards you get tired of the bs and go back to school to be an RN where you encounter more bs.
  13. by   LadyFree28
    Quote from hindsight2020RN
    My feeling is this (and I have worked LTC as an RN almost 7 yrs). Your job can not turn you into anything. We all cope and deal with interpersonal, environmental and situational stress in different ways. Seems nursing somehow brings out either the best, or the worst in those of us who have chosen this path. CHOSE being the key word. Just as we have chosen this profession. We also make daily, hourly decisions and choices regarding how we deal with and react to our co-workers, mgmt, patients, families, MD's etc. I go into work each day making a very conscious choice to be pleasant, respectful and positive. Nothing, or no one can MAKE me be anything other than what I chose to be. Sure, circumstances arise that can challenge my outlook/attitude on any number of things. But allowing myself to become negative and nasty is completely counterproductive. The patient's pick up on the negativity, be sure of that. Think about it. Sometimes you, the professional nurse (and staff) might be the only human interaction our patient's have on a consistent basis. Especially those poor older folks who don't have loving families that come to visit. WE are all they have. It is SO NOT FAIR to the very prople who count on us to have to be exposed to our negativity. Plenty of nurses are hateful and negative with one another and then put on the phoney sweet smile for the matter of minutes they spend with a patient. Well maybe if the nurse wasn't so caught up in her/his own negative (bs). They just might spend an extra minute or two to be genuinely interested and concerned for the patient. Not just slap on a smile and get in and out of their room asap. Although compassion is not "cost effective", and even though we nurses are only human who can so easily let low staffing ratios, sub par mgmt, certain co-workers who may rub us the wrong way and so on... get under our skin so much so that it effects our professionalism, not to mention our productivity and what we project outwardly to others. Subconsciously those NURSES who DON'T strive everyday to make the right CHOICE to make the best out of resources (however limeted), to truly try and give our co-workers and our patients the benefit of the doubt, to make lemonade when lemons are being thrown at us from all directions. After so long it becomes increasing difficult to remain positive and it seems the stressors of just being a nurse in this day and age does effect some nurses who choose not to make a concerted, conscious effort EVERYDAY to stay positive, remain calm and not to start, or buy into the backstabbing and gossip that is running rampent in this profession. I don't know about others. I can only speak for myself. But in the grand scheme of things; I have found being pleasant and positive certainly makes my day better as well as those around me. I would rather go find another profession if I were really so unhappy and hateful in my position as a nurse whether RN, or LPN. My day, my attitude and what I project to others are a direct reflection of my desire and true essence of the nurse that I am. The nurse that I AM makes choices to remain consistently positive. When challenging situations are presented to me during my daily routine. I stop, take a deep breath. Remember the oath I took 7 years ago, which in turn inspires me to dig deep if I must and take a negative, then somehow, someway extract the positive and use it constructively if at all possible. If not, then learn valuable lessons from it in order to react to similar circumstances differently when they arise in the future. Bottom line is... and as I have stated all along. NOTHING and NO ONE can MAKE me be hateful and unhappy as much as it is how I decide to deal with and process things. Heck no! It is not always the easiest path at the time. In the long run though. It helps me keep my sanity and lets the patients who are entrusted to my care know that I am interested, invested and easy to approach with any concerns they may have. For most of these patient's, this is the roughest thing they have had to deal with in their lifves. I owe it to myself, to my patient's and to my employer to make good choices. I chose positive, compassionate care and am darn proud of it!!!
    ^I second THIS.

    I have learned on this wild ride of nursing to have a CHOICE...I have learned to make lemons out of lemonade with subpar to no supplies, advocate and be firm even when the pt or their family believes the sky is falling and form respectful bonds that have produced thousands more favorable rather than unfavorable nurse-pt relationships, and scale back on hours when it may be getting to be too much. I have left places when I felt they were not having the pt's best interest or attempting to interfere with nursing and never looked back.

    After all these years, I still enjoy the challenges frustration and investigative adventure of nursing. I enjoy when my nursing goals are able to get met ...I still do a goofy happy dance if a pt needs to pee or poop, lol...or if they are taking steps or regaining sensation from a spinal cord injury, or defying odds as a special needs patient. Those are the things I focus on as a nurse; helping to maximize and empower my patients as humanely possible within that time frame. I then clock out an enjoy my life on my time.