Hello all,
I wanted to get some input on letting young children into your critical care units to see their dying moms or dads, especially if the children are at an age when they would normally not be allowed in the unit.
I recently had a very sick patient who was unlikely to survive. Our ICU requires children to be 12 and older in order to visit but I got permission from the house supervisor to let this patient's young kids come in with an adult to say goodbye. The younger ones (around the age of 5) looked confused or numb with shock, the older ones understood and were very, very stricken with grief. Needless to say, it was very emotional.
My coworkers were very conflicted. One person said it was very selfish of the adults to expect their kids to see their parent all gray, jaundiced, bleeding and terribly swollen. I, on the other hand, feel it was my duty to respect the family's wish to have the kids say goodbye.
Maybe the kids will be traumatized, maybe they will not. It is not my place to determine what their kids can and should handle. Then again, I am not a mom.
What do you think? I look forward to hearing your input and experiences!