ok - listen - First this is a second career for me and- Two, Cosmetolgy was my first for many years.
I am so accustomed to the world of beauty as I know it with glamourous hair and well manicured nails and such and I feel like I am always this plain Jane all the time. I just wanna run out and get a nice french manicure, french pedicure and stick my foot in a sexy shoe, not some danskos -you know? I am sick of this dog gone pulled back look and or ponytail. I just feel so un-sexy all the time and it starting to affect my self esteem. Not that any of that makes you, but it has been a part of me for so looooong. You know how it is when you get done up and you get an instant bit of swagger in your walk. I'm having some trouble adjusting sometimes. I don't feel like this most days at all but when I do - boy do I feel it. When off the clock, I'm too tired to even care about sexy. It's so sad, because all I do is find some more unsexy clothes like sweats when off the clock- so I am constantly in a state of unsexy.
Past about college age, dressing in tight pants and short skirts with a bunch of make-up starts to get kind of pathetic. It screams I'm easy and haven't figured out what being a real adult is like. As one's looks fade it gets even more pathetic. Big nails and hairdos scream that a person doesn't have anything more important to do than fritter their good money away.
I've never understood how people equate a hairdo and make-up and certain clothes with " sexy." For that matter, all the make-up on the world won't give you what you either never had or has long faded. That kind of charisma is either there or it isn't. For most of us, it isn't, I don't care how you think you look. As for compliments and whistles, any old broad can get those, there's always some lowlife who can be turned on by that, but there are probably as many rolling eyes and snickers. I know from seeing my mother-in-law that this is true.
Does your mother in law read in here, just curious.
For me, I definitely work out at least 4x a day. I add pilates or yoga at least two times weekly to ease my mind and tone those muscles.
Also if your thinking more along the physical lines, for me I find different ways to wear my ponytail. I fix it so it's down low. I change my part from side to middle..or i'll tease the back of my hair..I'll wear different color headbands! I'll put it in a cute bun.. And to me scrubs are sexy!! But that's just me!
And I just use good posture all the time! Gives me some confidence! Oh and I smile a lot!! Sometimes too much! I hope it's not annoying!
To me anyway sexy is not about the body or looks..its about a certain attitude and confidence you feel!
Does your mother in law read in here, just curious.
I'm 26 and way beyond college years,and I still wear tight pants and tight tank tops (not heavy make up or short skirts) and I dont think that this is pathetic at all!:)
I'm 26 and way beyond college years,and I still wear tight pants and tight tank tops (not heavy make up or short skirts) and I dont think that this is pathetic at all!:)
I don't think they were referring to young ladies, such as yourself.
I'll assume that at 26 you still have elasticity to your skin, boobs still in their proper place, no age spots and are not trying to sport a Depends under your Daisy Dukes.
I judge my coworkers on how good they are nurse wise and how sexy they are, having one is good, having both is a blessing. And sorry, I do laugh at the ones who wear way to much make-up or have a can of spray in their hair. Ohh and also the ones who are a bit thick around the middle or on the bottom and wear scrubs that look like they were made for my tall, lanky, stick-thin 14 year old son. The other posters are right, sexy comes naturally, either you have it or you don't, and I prefer to surround myself with eye candy as much as possible, if you are finding youself trying too hard-your not sexy. And by the way, super tight scrubs are REALLY sexy on big, buff men!!
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It answer to "I'm 26" Not right now, but in five to ten years it will be.......there comes a time when every women has to stop doing things.....think about it.
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