Just talked to a nurse- I feel so down & anxious

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I haven't been able to post much recently, but lurk when I have the chance.

Today, I scheduled a lot of my school-required medical tests and appointments and was excited to start the day because, as unpleasant as the dentist and getting shots are, it's one step closer to school.

I'm sitting in the car after my second Hep B vaccine crying. Not because it hurt (it did, a little!) but because of the nurse I had.

After years of prereqs, applying to schools, visits, decisions, soul-searching and number crunching, I'm about to begin apply for hefty private loans- as a second degree student I don't qualify for a lot of federal aid- and borrow a huge chunk of money to realize my dream and start my program this summer.

When I handed the nurse who administered the shot my school form to sign, she said, "Uh-oh. I hope you get a job when you graduate." I smiled and said, "Me too." She continued on and on about how there's a shortage, but no one's hiring to fill the shortage and when they do hire they want someone with experience- but not too much. She said something along the lines of "They won't take grads right out of school. They want people with a year or two of experience under their belt. And then, you won't be making much money."

She mentioned she'd been out of nursing for 11 years (I didn't ask, but I assume raising a family) and that the Urgent Care center where I went was the only place that would hire, despite her extensive experience in hospitals/the ER. She's now making just $25 v. $35, etc., etc., etc.

I chose nursing because I want to help people and make enough money to pay off my loans and live. I'm not going into it hoping and believing I can lease a Mercedes when I get my first job.

I hope what I was dealing with was someone who is bitter about her own situation, but she also may have given me a healthy (but kind of rude) dose of how it really is out there in the job market now.

But, her comments suddenly made me question every single decision I've made in the past year. I know that no one can predict the future, but I'm suddenly extremely anxious about financing five zeros worth of school.

I'm sure there are tons of posts on this topic, so I'm sorry if this is a repeat. I'll go through them when I'm less emotional, but any words of wisdom, courage or advice?

Am I about to make a huge mistake?

Specializes in Geriatrics.

samianquazi:

ooooh I like your straight forward no beat around the bush step up to the plate grow a thick skin and don't let anyone detour from what you really want in life answer!!!!!!! :D

Specializes in Orthopaedic Nursing; Geriatrics.

It sounds like you just met a real life Debbie Downer! Maybe that is the real reason she couldn't find a better paying job? Forget about her and follow your dream!

Specializes in RN. Med/Surg.

Job availability will vary with your location; When I got my LPN I needed to work a year before I went into my ADN program. The only jobs available (in Southern Illinois) for LPNs were LTC, clinics and giving flu injections. At our local hospitals the only LPNs that were hired were those who were already employed there (CNA, tech) or were able to get into an LPN/RN bridge program. Since the hospitals were in the process of going to all-RN staffing, their existing LPNs got the choice of get an ADN or retire by a deadline. Needless to say, not a lot of jobs there.

Last year I graduated with my ADN, passed my NCLEX-RN and had to remain in the LTC I had worked at part-time during ADN. I've received a couple interviews at the hospitals, with no luck. In fact, two of the women I graduated from LPN classes got hired. They had failed out of some classes the previous year and graduated in my ADN class, while I went straight through ADN and passed my NCLEX-RN, first try, minimum questions. Still... good for them! One even offered to be a reference for me on my next application. Still, they're good people and they'll be good nurses. At my LTC I'm not in the work situation I really wanted (getting much more med/surg experience), but I'm enjoying the residents I care for, and they seem to enjoy my work. I'll bet there will be a job out there for you, even if it's not what you originally visualized. Besides, getting that LPN or RN license will certainly keep your mind occupied for a while. If you want to care for people, go for it. It wasn't my prime motivation (sorry, I needed job security), but I really have been enjoying what I'm doing. Besides, I'm planning to keep submitting applications to the hospitals until I wear them down or they plead with me to stop. j

Well, I just started nursing school and one thing that I have learned you are not to discuss your personal life with your patient its not about her she made it seem about herself because she even spoke about how much she gets payed. I would not care if they payed me 15 dollars an hour as long as im doing what I love because at the end of the day you really have to love nursing to be a nurse it takes a special kind of person and that nurse might have been having a bad day and tried to transfer her bad energy to you..which worked so like everyone else said shake it off and move on if you really want to be a nurse her words will be gone with the wind..

For OP: Feeling anxious, worried, etc. --->> just all part of life. At the end of the day, what really matters is --> What makes one happy! It takes a while for people to realize this. Eventually, it happens though. Life has so many distractions, it's so easy to get confused. I sooo wish I'd known this when I was 20! I think life would've been different for me. Not that I'm complaining, but I definitely would've done things so differently!

Hey OP, the nurse u talked to was just venting. She can't be that miserable everyday... and you can't be that anxious everyday either? If nursing is what u really want, then do it. Just be prepared to move to wherever u can get a nursing job afterwards. By the way, I like ur name McFarland?? -- is it from "Will & Grace"? I would've gone with Anastasia Beaverhausen myself! Remember Karen Walker? lol.

Specializes in School, LTC, OB, LNC, Instructor, etc.

Hello,

Dry those tears and don't listen to that person. As a new Grad you will start in Med Surg in a hospital so you can get a good solid foundation for your future. They do have jobs there, they might be part time or everyone hires Per diem. Per diem is that they call you when they need help. Just get your foot in the door. 35 years ago we had a nursing shortage and and it will continue as long as there are people on this earth. Hiring goes up and down as people move around to go into specialites etc.

Where you went to school should have directed you to financial aid for returning students going into Nursing. There are outside grants and I thought money from the Tabacco lawsuits were going to educate Nurses. Ask you local state representative about that. Good luck, have patience and don't settle for a job that will make you unhappy.

Specializes in Occupational Health.

I graduated with my BSN in April of 2010, got hired in May 2010. I had a previous degree so figured getting the Bachelors in Nursing would be quick since all my core curriculum was done. Because of the pre-requisites for the nursing program, it still took me 4 years of school. I could have easily done an ADN program and been working 2 years sooner. In my area the pay rate is not any different for a BSN vs. ADN. Spending 39k on nursing school to me is absurd. We all have to pass the same NCLEX, no matter where we go to school.

The unit I work on now is mostly ADNs. LPNs do get paid less, but do the same job we RNs do. The only thing LPNs aren't allowed to do where I work is hang blood or touch central lines.

Unfortunately, a lot of hospitals need nurses but aren't hiring them because of the economy. The nurses on my unit are spread thin, working mandatory overtime and taking call 3 days a pay period. Doesn't give us much time for a life.

Specializes in hospice, pediatric oncology.

i completed an rn refresher course in 10/09. i have over ten years of experience in pediatric oncology and home hospice care. i took 12 years off to raise my 5 children. i have applied for over 500 jobs, had 8 interviews, no job. i graduated with highest honors, i'm dedicated and my patients/families loved me. no one will give me a chance because i don't have recent experience and need the job to get it. i have offered to work for free for a week to show what kind of nurse i am. i just want to work. people die the same way now as they did 12 years ago. all the jobs i applied for, refuse new grads also. you should probably go into physical therapy. it is not a female dominated profession, you'll be treated more fairly. every person i interviewed with was a nurse, female. it used to be a plus to stay home with your kids, no longer the case. not one nurse will give me a chance. i wasted 4 years getting a bachelor's degree i can't use.

There WILL be a large influx of baby boomers getting sick and needing care. This is a fact.
And I whoop with laughter every time I read this statement. There is also a large group of baby boomers training to become nurses, and they have excellent health, keen minds, years of work experience and transferable skills, and probably will not be entering any health care facility soon unless it's as an employee. At the factories and chemical plants where I worked, we had 64 and 65-year old men hoofing it around as well as the 30-yr olds. My parents are both 82, and aside from a couple of surgeries each, they are totally physically and mentally capable, and could have worked until their mid-70s in their chosen occupations, and could still hold desk jobs now.

One trend I have been made aware of is the subtle push to hire part time nurses and not pay benefits, kind of what the dental hygiene profession has been dealing with for years. So long as they keep the hourly pay rated up there, and keep paying the OT, those who do not have huge bills or families to support can still do well.

Specializes in hospice, pediatric oncology.

It was suggested that I offer to work and forego benefits. Would the nurse recruiter? I take care of sick people and I should pay for my own health care???

I hate to keep bumping this up by thanking you all when there are other hot topics, but thank you so much for your support & advice. :redbeathe It's been refreshing to read all of your perspectives.

I'm the type of person who weighs all the options, many times, and has pro/con lists taped to the wall. This is probably the biggest change I've ever made in my life- moving far away from family & friends and starting something completely new and I can't believe I let someone I'll never see again get to me in that way.

I've learned from you all that I need to get as much experience as I can while in school, be flexible upon graduation, lower expectations, work hard and pull my thick skin out of the closet.

And to answer your question about my name, yes it is from 'W&G'- when Jack decided surfing wasn't his life's passion & went on to be a nursing student- and graduated in under a season as top of his class! I thought about Anastasia too, but it just doesn't have that nursing theme.

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By the way, I like ur name McFarland?? -- is it from "Will & Grace"? I would've gone with Anastasia Beaverhausen myself! Remember Karen Walker? lol.

Specializes in School, LTC, OB, LNC, Instructor, etc.

Hi MC F

you are going to be just fine. Good thought process. I like the way you ponder the pros and cons. Keep the faith.

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