job relocation not working out

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i relocated temporarily for a job to gain experience but due to some serious health issues of one of my children who now lives 2 hrs from me back at my house with me husband. i'm finding the stress of the relocation very difficult. i'm home a day or maybe 2 every week but the stress of the constant care involved is difficult on my husband. I am currently the sole income for our family so it's not like i can leave my job then look for a new one.

Since I'm applying with a current job of 3 months should I address this issue in a cover letter? or let it be. And if I should address what would be the proper explanation. I'm sure they don't want or need my family saga.

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Wow, you're dealing with a very tough issue. Obviously, as the sole income provider, you can't jeopardize your job. Since your husband is not working right now, is it possible for him & the kids to live with you for a while? This is one of those times when hubby needs to step up & be the primary childcare person... just like you would if the situation was reversed. He is just as capable even though he may do it differently.

At any rate, I would NOT provide any personal explanations in a cover letter. This would only raise some red flags for a future employer... that your family situation is unstable & this may affect your job performance. Never offer any personal information that is not absolutely pertinent to a job. If you open the door by introducing a personal situation, they can pursue the issue without any fear of violating the "do not ask" rules... cause you volunteered the info. Just don't go there ever.

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Hubby is working at some consulting jobs bring in some income just nothing like the past. He is totally stepping up and taking care of my daughter. It's just very stressful for me because she has a chronic illness since age seven and now has been diagnosed with a mental illness that is still not stable with meds.

They can't live with me as we own a house and have 2 dogs. I live in a rented room.

As you have explained I see that it would be a misstep on my part to give any personal information. Thanks for the insight and I just keep applying back home and hope something takes hold.

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If you are carrying the insurance benefits...I would have to weigh leaving very carefully for there is always a waiting period for benefits.

It's a tough decision.....I pray that your daughter begins to feel better....((HUGS))

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I am sorry this is happening in your family.

I would keep on applying, see if your daughter can get some state/government benefits, make sure she has a strong IEP in school, and if it may be a thought to have her stabilized in a residential treatment facility--OF course if her mental illness is severe.

I would look for outside support where ever you can. It is exceedingly difficult to take care of a chronically ill child. Everyone needs support. It is not a character defect of your daughter or of you and your husband's parenting style.

I would not get into any of your personal situation other than you need to be located at home as opposed to commuting. That is reasonable for many people. Just be sure your supports are in place for your daughter to be successful. Get as much on an IEP as you can. Get as much outside help as you can.

Best wishes for success for you and your family.

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If you are carrying the insurance benefits...I would have to weigh leaving very carefully for there is always a waiting period for benefits.

It's a tough decision.....I pray that your daughter begins to feel better....((HUGS))

Fortunately, my kids that are on my insurance all have state medicaid because they have chronic illnesses and my when they first one was diagnosed the hospital social worker pushed me to sign up. So, they always have insurance; well at least through college. My hubby and I have paid for catastrophic health insurance for us for the last 2 years so if I have to I'll get that again for us.

I am sorry this is happening in your family.

I would keep on applying, see if your daughter can get some state/government benefits, make sure she has a strong IEP in school, and if it may be a thought to have her stabilized in a residential treatment facility--OF course if her mental illness is severe.

I would look for outside support where ever you can. It is exceedingly difficult to take care of a chronically ill child. Everyone needs support. It is not a character defect of your daughter or of you and your husband's parenting style.

I would not get into any of your personal situation other than you need to be located at home as opposed to commuting. That is reasonable for many people. Just be sure your supports are in place for your daughter to be successful. Get as much on an IEP as you can. Get as much outside help as you can.

Best wishes for success for you and your family.

My daughter is trying to do school work at home with a tutor because she is basically on medical leave from her school; which is private church school so no IEP available. Next year she will be headed to pubic school so if she is unable to attend due to her health issues she will have an IEP/506 in place. She fortunately isn't so bad she needs inpatient treatment.

My oldest had a similar mental health issue at the same age so I'm fortunate I understand the ups and downs and know that it isn't related to me personally.

Thanks for the well wishes.

I am continuing to look for work back home no luck yet but, I'll just keep trying until something comes through.

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I did find something back in my home area.

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