I'm trying to settle a feud.

I would like to ask the nurses here a question about testicular cancer. Input from oncology nurses would be most appreciated:

My dad and my boyfriend Chris are caught up in a huge feud. Chris has had testicular cancer for a year, but my dad thinks he's lying. My dad isn't willing to talk to him, and my boyfriend doesn't feel he has anything to prove to my dad and won't talk to my dad either. Its ridiculous!

What's worse is that my boyfriends "condition" is suspicious, and he keeps me in the dark about a lot of it. What he does tell me is that:

- his testicle hurts

- there's a lump in one testicle (I've felt a lump)

- he's had a couple of biopsies

- it hurts to pee and masturbate.

AND he isn't willing to prove my dad wrong on any of it, which only makes my dad SOOOOO much more certain that he's lying. So what I want to know is:

1) Is it possible to have testicular cancer for more than a year?

2) Is a "wait and see" approach to cancer treatment common? My dad has been calling and talking to doctors and nurses who say that not only is that not a common approach, but my boyfriend's story is highly improbable.

3) My boyfriend claims to not have the money to pay the rest of his insurance, and therefore can't start any serious treatment, like major surgery or radiation therapy. Which I think he CAN. Right? No hospital is going to let someone just HAVE cancer.

4) How, after all this time, do I confront my boyfriend that I think he's lying about this whole thing? The way he describes it, it sounds more like he has a prostate infection or gonorrhea!