If you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans

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I have been a nurse for a year, I was lucky enough to find a job straight out of school. After 9 months at my mediocre first job, I was lucky enough to land my dream job... overnights in the ED of a very busy level II hospital not too far from my house!!! I can't even believe how lucky I am that the director of the emergency room decided to give me a chance. I am on my second week of orientation and will starting out on the floor on Monday... I am so excited!!! I am the mother of 2 young girls and this schedule will work out fantastically with their school, and me being home more.

So what's the problem you might say???? Well, I just found out I'm pregnant... (let me just preface this whole thing by saying that I AM happy I am going to have another baby.. all children are blessing, and I can't wait to meet my new little one).. I can't even believe that I am writing those words. I can't say that I didn't want to have another child, but the timing, is really just so off!! I can't even believe that after working at this new job for 9 months, 5 months on my own, I will have to go on maternity leave. To be honest I feel like an idiot... This job is the perfect opportunity for me, they hired me with only my associates degree, and they have magnet status!! I can't help but feel dread when thinking about telling my manager that I'm pregnant. And who knows if my job will be there after I am done with maternity leave. I am just in shock, and I don't know what to do... The only thing I can think of is that saying that goes "if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans".

Are there any mothers who have had a similar experience?? Any advice on how to make the ED and motherhood x3 work???? I am just thinking about a newborn, and working overnights, and being up all night, and not being able to sleep during the day. And my manager, this woman is amazing, and so smart and really giving me a chance by giving me a job, I almost feel like I'm going to disappoint her!!!

And I really just needed to vent to some anonymous people who will maybe offer some advice. I have been listening to my husband tell me for 3 days that everything is going to be ok, and I KNOW it is.. but I don't think you can really understand if you're not living the nurse life.

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.

A lot of nurses get pregnant! It is gonna be OK! Listen to dear hubby, and congratulations. You will have enough time to prove yourself at work before you take off, I'm sure you will have job waiting for you. You might put in for different shift by then. I'm sure others who've gone before you have done it. You could pump your milk when you go in and maybe switch to every weekend if you need off thru the week nights.

God knows what he's doing. Just sit back and enjoy it. It's like a rose unfolding when he does it....fragrant and delicate and beautiful all by itself. When we get ourselves in the mix of trying to pull the rose open, why it falls apart and it isn't the same. Trust in Him and your hubby.

You speak of an awesome manager, I think she'll be fine with working with you. I would maybe wait to tell her though! ;)

Best wishes!

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Specializes in Emergency Department; Neonatal ICU.

Unbeknownst to me, I was pregnant with my second when I went to my NICU job as a new grad. Everything was fine :). My manager and coworkers were wonderful about it. I waited until after 12 weeks to tell them - I wanted them to know me (and my work ethic) better. I even went to work in labor (it took the nurse I was trying to get report from to tell me that - lol). Congratulations!

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You r blessed, The Lord who gave u that growing child will make a way for everything. Do me a favor, have two sits place Ur bible in one and sit in the other, talk to God tell him what u want and have faith for God will do it for u. That job will wait for u & will not stress u. In Jesus name I pray.. Amen.. Good luck

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Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

I'm not an ED nurse but came across this thread. Congratulations on the baby and the new job!!

I had been working per diem in an LTACH which I really didn't love...SUCH hard work and SO sick people. I interviewed for my current job and got pregnant w/ my youngest before getting the offer. I did tell the manager as soon as she made it clear the offer was mine, because I wanted to negotiate a 12-week leave if I could. My husband always says "Once you say 'Yes,' all negotiating is off the table." :cool:

It wasn't/isn't easy. I had 4 at home--3 in school, 1 toddler. My mother-in-law watched them for me during the week. I did cut down to half-time when I went back because 5 kids and full-time work is overwhelming to say the least. I honestly don't think I could do even half time without a daycare arrangement, although I do stay up all day and watch them myself after my last shift of the week. But I'm completely in love with my job and didn't want to quit. Actually my husband asked if I wanted to quit when I was in those post-partum crying jags, and i started bawling "Noooo!" :roflmao: It'll work out! You'll figure out what works for you and your family.

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Thank you all for responding. Honestly I've been so overwhelmed, and I teared up when I read all the kind words and telling me that it is doable. I have had such a hard time with the "mothers guilt".. Why is it as women, that everything has to be a compromise? If I'm a great nurse, then my family is lacking because I'm woking too much/too tired/working crazy hours/going to school/getting another degree. And if I'm being a fantastic mother, then I'm not paying enough attention to work/not working enough/not doing good enough in school/not researching things I don't know, that I should. I just keep waiting for things to fall into place, and I am confident that they will, but it just seems that more things keep getting piled on top of the things I already have. And I forgot to mention that part of my agreement with my hospital for my hire was that I will be in a BSN program in the fall. So just add school work into the mix. :nailbiting:

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Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.

Purdue Calumet does online classes for BSN. One class at a time, each class last 5 weeks and one week off in between the total tuition is around 11,000. I think it takes around 15 months....And it includes your books. You pay for one class at a time. Don't look at the big whole picture ok?

Just do what's in front of you...slowly it will unfold with God's Grace. It's God's plan anyways.

If He brought you to it, He will encourage, equip and empower you through it. Just Praise Him through it all! God bless you.?

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