If Love Could Have Saved Them

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Hi to all,

I will be going on my second tour to Iraq in 5 weeks and again away from those that I love the most. I've had some issues with my daughter, and felt that if I would have loved her more, she would not have made some of the mistakes that she has made.

Since we are quickly approaching a new year, was there or is there someone in your life that you felt that if you loved them more, things maybe would have turned out better.

I am very greatful for this wonderful community. I will look forward to reading your posts now and when I am back in the desert. Happy New Year.:nurse:

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Just the fact you want to love more proves that you are an awsome Mom, I know it sounds kinda trite but I bet someday she'll see what you did and be in awe.. Thank you so much for your service.. Thanks seems hardly enough but I honestly hope the best for you and your family..

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I don't think that you can love more or less. Love just is.

It can't be fixed or forced. And you cannot prevent the mistakes of other folks.

As moms...we try to keep our kids from making mistakes....but really our job is to show them how to live. And give them the tools to make things right on their own.

Advice I have....solutions I lack. But I believe the biggest best gift we can give to them is to let them know that they are loved....no matter how near...or far we are....and that mistakes are inevitable....and we should do our very best to avoid them....but we should also know how to make them right the best most sincere way we can.

God bless in your journey. God bless your daughter.

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i don't think it has anything to do with whether you love your dtr enough.

but when our kids lives are interrupted w/significant challenge, i think it's natural for us parents to question ourselves.

i agree that the most cherished gift we can give our kids, is for them to know how much they are loved and valued.

a close 2nd, would be for them to grow up with a healthy self-esteem and sense of self.

this teaches them security and self-respect.

i hope your you and your dtr can work this out.

give her an extra hug, and extra 1:1 if able.

and yes, thank you military girl, for all you do.

God be with you.

leslie

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Specializes in Infusion Nursing, Home Health Infusion.

Godspeed to you on your next tour. I am a divorced mom and my daughters father abandoned her after I asked him to leave. I never wanted this for her,but that is the way it turned out!!!! All moms can do sometimes is to move forward....learn from their mistakes and love their children. It has not been an easy road for us but I know in my heart my daughter will be better off this way and I consider it his loss. He is missing out on this wonderful beautiful child we made and he will have to live with any guilt that comes his way. I and my nuclear family will never do this to her and I am grateful she has known the love of my parents. That is my resolution for the new year....to do the best I can with my resources and be grateful for it.

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Specializes in A myriad of specialties.

Oh gosh yes I have regrets about not having demonstrated MORE love (rather than being so strict) when our girls were growing up. We tried to lead by example to guide them to be hard workers, tried to incorporate good morals but their friends, husbands, etc all had a greater influence on them than we had on them...and they've turned out to be very irresponsible. I fear that our grandchildren may follow in their footsteps. It's incredibly sad...but you do the best that you know how to at that time in your life and that's what we did.

Thank you for your military service. May God bless and keep you safe during this next tour.

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