So I have to rant a little. I am in my 5th week of NS, and I am actually doing well. I have taken 3 tests, and got high 90% on all. The trouble I am having is all the people in my life (besides my hubby,thank god) who don't get it that NS is my priority. For instance my in-laws, who are great except, they keep planning stuff including me when I really cant participate. Not to mention my Aunt coming into town and wanting to stay at my house,and my close friend giving me a guilt trip about going to their housewarming party. Then there are the birthday parties that my kids friends want me to take them to. I even opted out of a week long camping trip with my family (in-laws), but I am still expected to plan/shop for the food, and pack...
I think NS school would be cake if everyone else would stop and think "Oh yah, she is trying to study and actually change her life -- lets not expect her to take on extra stuff".
I know that I sound like an ingrate, I know that the old me (pre -NS me) would have no problem with any of this. Now though I feel resentful toward those I love for wanting me to do anything more than what I have to. I also feel really guilty for resenting them, cause I know that they just want to include me.
I dont know how to get through the next 13 months without blowing up at someone. I dont want to sound like a selfish bit**. It is true that I feel like this is my time, and f them all if they dont get that I am puting me first for once...but I cant say that. What to do, what to do?
Things are much better now. I am more direct about saying NO now, and my friends/family have adjusted. I even delayed my sons birthday party by 1 month and he was fine with it. I guess it took time to adjust for everyone. I am sure they will need reminders here and there, but overall they have adapted to the new me.
I totally understand exactly what you are talking about. I started NS a week ago and I still have to train my family. I have a two year old and she is going to be the hardest to train because she loves her mom!:heartbeat
Before I started NS my boyfriend was all up for helping me study and keeping the baby out of the way but not he know that it's easier said than done. He helps but he didn't know I would need this much time to study. It is so hectic in my house!
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I'm trying to gear myself up for school all over again. I don't want to turn into a maniacal psychopath foaming at the mouth, spitting with eyes bulging and veins sticking out of everywhere while studying so I constantly stress to everybody as a disclaimer and plea to leave me alone during "quiet time" or else they'll feel the WRATH OF MY POWER. Which I take out 3 - 4 hours of my evening for myself. Even though I haven't started yet, so far family has let off and it's going smoothly. *lol* I'm not saying threatening your family is the way to go ... I just thought I'd share my input and comical relief. :)
But on a honest note:
Make sure everyone knows how important this school is to you and I'm sure everyone will adjust. There's always going to be a few days of adjustment to new stress levels anyway!
Gen2Nurse
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Thank you all!!
Things are much better now. I am more direct about saying NO now, and my friends/family have adjusted. I even delayed my sons birthday party by 1 month and he was fine with it. I guess it took time to adjust for everyone. I am sure they will need reminders here and there, but overall they have adapted to the new me.