Hello all! I am new the the forum. I apologize if this is the wrong place to post a topic such as this.
First, some background. Me and my girlfriend are both 20, and we are both full time students in college. She is going into nursing, and I am going for a bachelor in exercise science.
She will be starting the nursing program in January 2016. I have been researching what being a nurse entails, and what it takes to get through nursing school. I've read about how stressful it is, how hard the long, emotionally taxing shifts are, and how time consuming the nursing program is. Before I go any further, let me just say that you guys are amazing. I simply don't believe I would have the strength to do what you guys do. God bless all of you.
Okay, moving on... The reason I came hear is because I want to support her to the absolute best of my abilities. The problem is, I have no understanding of what nursing school is truly like. Sure, I've read a few blog posts about it, but so what? What I would like from you preferably experienced female nurses, is some advice on what I, as her boyfriend, can do to help her get through what sounds like a very hard challenge.
What is it like?
What kind of stresses will she be going through?
What, if anything, can I do to relieve those stresses, even if only a little?
Obviously since I am not in the nursing profession, I lack perspective on what it's truly like. Is there any way I can get a hint of understanding? Of the program, and of nursing in general?
An optional second question: I hear that nursing is an extremely high-stress job. What with the enormous responsibility that comes with essentially holding someone's life in your hands, and the attachment that comes with caring fro your patients. Combined with long hours, large workloads, etc. If it turns out that God has in His plans for us to get married, what can I do to support and help her through these aspects of her career?
and lastly....i see 1 or 2 of you saying or implying that i had or have a dislike for females. MAYBE i'm reading that wrong, im not sure. But if what the words look like, are what was actually being implied/ meant....then that's another illogical, ridiculous thing to be said. If i'm reading it wrong, then my apologies. However, I love and respect women (especially as a heterosexual male). There is no man that's more of a GENTLEMAN then me. But i also tolerate ZERO Bulls**....zero. And i also hate bullying, victimizing, and undeserved mistreatment. I also have the utmost respect for Female nurses, since i have worked in healthcare for approx 8 years now, 1st starting in Physical and Occupational Therapy, and then into home healthcare, and now starting my Journey into Nursing.
But yes i did say "female".....yall are FEMALES, of what ages I have no clue, so to say "women" could very well be inaccurate. Half of you could be elderly and the other half could be 19 to 21 year olds, who knows. "Female" is a very respectful, inclusive term to cover and refer to all XX chromosome'd humans. What you didnt hear me say is, "chicks", "babes" "Dames", "broads", "B***s" or whatever other derogatory or unpleasant name you can think of lol.
And then if some of the responders who didn't like what i said....were not females, but GAY MALES...then they REALLY shouldn't have said a word about this topic to begin with (which would be another problem, because theyre perspective would not help the OP, obviously, would only confuse things more, giving bad, innacurate, irrelevant advice, and would only serve as 1 more voice/ person that's attacking, insulting, belittling and bullying him), sense it has nothing to do with them, and especially because they have no clue about it/ the topic at hand. Which also mean's they shouldn't have had any problem OR thought about what i said. But of course, since REAL, straight, masculine men are scarce and rare in this entire field (which would translate into them/ us being rare and scarce on this entire website, which i see to be true the more i look into this site), when one comes, and has the guts and balls to stand up to Bull***, to have the guts and balls to say whats honest and real even when he knows it wont be popular or well received, and the balls to do it in hostile territory, and speak LIKE an actual MAN.....that, to you all, seems SO "crazy" and foreign. That is an example of even greater problem that I wont even bother touching on right now.
I have never ever had a conflict with females in my years of healthcare experience, not 1.....but it's stuff like this, that seriously deter me from entering nursing. Stuff, "catty" BS, bullying, etc that i see among female pretty much every day, stuff that never happens to me, but is stuff that i know i could very well fall into, even though I havent yet in 8+ years. It, (along with 1 other problem that I, and all other straight, masculine men who even CONSIDER entering nursing, have a concern about) still deters and concerns me. BUT...as of right now, I won't let it deter me, I will continue on. Especially when i have never experienced this stuff offline in the real world, since i'm always loved and respected, which is very much so mutual, and i suspect I will continue to not experience it, since 1- i know how to handle BS of all shapes and fowms. 2- This type of subject likely wouldnt come up in the real world at work, and if it did, the females present might not feel so free to attack, in that professional setting, so...more reasons for why this wouldn't really happen in this way, offline......so I will continue on. #FutureRN #FuturePMHNP #FuturePsyD
Take care.............and to the OP, IM WITH YOU MAN, keep up the good work, you're doing the right thing, trust me. These women, once older, after running away the 1 or 2 good men that God sent them (YES ladies, you only get a chance with 1, 2, MAYBE 3 good men in life), and caring more about work and career and degrees than finding a good man...once older and alone, they will then cry and wish they got with a man like you. TRUST ME. I see it every day and have seen it 100s of thousands of times now. Case Closed.
MikeEverette
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and lastly....i see 1 or 2 of you saying or implying that i had or have a dislike for females. MAYBE i'm reading that wrong, im not sure. But if what the words look like, are what was actually being implied/ meant....then that's another illogical, ridiculous thing to be said. If i'm reading it wrong, then my apologies. However, I love and respect women (especially as a heterosexual male). There is no man that's more of a GENTLEMAN then me. But i also tolerate ZERO Bulls**....zero. And i also hate bullying, victimizing, and undeserved mistreatment. I also have the utmost respect for Female nurses, since i have worked in healthcare for approx 8 years now, 1st starting in Physical and Occupational Therapy, and then into home healthcare, and now starting my Journey into Nursing.
But yes i did say "female".....yall are FEMALES, of what ages I have no clue, so to say "women" could very well be inaccurate. Half of you could be elderly and the other half could be 19 to 21 year olds, who knows. "Female" is a very respectful, inclusive term to cover and refer to all XX chromosome'd humans. What you didnt hear me say is, "chicks", "babes" "Dames", "broads", "B***s" or whatever other derogatory or unpleasant name you can think of lol.
And then if some of the responders who didn't like what i said....were not females, but GAY MALES...then they REALLY shouldn't have said a word about this topic to begin with (which would be another problem, because theyre perspective would not help the OP, obviously, would only confuse things more, giving bad, innacurate, irrelevant advice, and would only serve as 1 more voice/ person that's attacking, insulting, belittling and bullying him), sense it has nothing to do with them, and especially because they have no clue about it/ the topic at hand. Which also mean's they shouldn't have had any problem OR thought about what i said. But of course, since REAL, straight, masculine men are scarce and rare in this entire field (which would translate into them/ us being rare and scarce on this entire website, which i see to be true the more i look into this site), when one comes, and has the guts and balls to stand up to Bull***, to have the guts and balls to say whats honest and real even when he knows it wont be popular or well received, and the balls to do it in hostile territory, and speak LIKE an actual MAN.....that, to you all, seems SO "crazy" and foreign. That is an example of even greater problem that I wont even bother touching on right now.
I have never ever had a conflict with females in my years of healthcare experience, not 1.....but it's stuff like this, that seriously deter me from entering nursing. Stuff, "catty" BS, bullying, etc that i see among female pretty much every day, stuff that never happens to me, but is stuff that i know i could very well fall into, even though I havent yet in 8+ years. It, (along with 1 other problem that I, and all other straight, masculine men who even CONSIDER entering nursing, have a concern about) still deters and concerns me. BUT...as of right now, I won't let it deter me, I will continue on. Especially when i have never experienced this stuff offline in the real world, since i'm always loved and respected, which is very much so mutual, and i suspect I will continue to not experience it, since 1- i know how to handle BS of all shapes and fowms. 2- This type of subject likely wouldnt come up in the real world at work, and if it did, the females present might not feel so free to attack, in that professional setting, so...more reasons for why this wouldn't really happen in this way, offline......so I will continue on. #FutureRN #FuturePMHNP #FuturePsyD
Take care.............and to the OP, IM WITH YOU MAN, keep up the good work, you're doing the right thing, trust me. These women, once older, after running away the 1 or 2 good men that God sent them (YES ladies, you only get a chance with 1, 2, MAYBE 3 good men in life), and caring more about work and career and degrees than finding a good man...once older and alone, they will then cry and wish they got with a man like you. TRUST ME. I see it every day and have seen it 100s of thousands of times now. Case Closed.