i really do not get why in the world some nurses have to be so mean to other co-workers.
i beleived that all of us as rn one common goal is to take care of patients, and of course to do a good job at it. but when i get reminders of what people do to me, or telling something i did or tried to the management team behind my back is not a good thing.
now i know why there was such a shortage of nurses.
i am definitely not going to encourage anyone ever into being a nurse.
I agree that the tone for the floor is set by the NM. There will be "mean girls" in any place that you work. Some just love to tattle, ***** and backbite. It sounds as though this job may not be a good fit for you attitude wise. Try a different area/ facility. You may be surprised how you feel about nursing when you work in a more positive environment.
Some people just need to take their "medication" PLEASE! before coming to work or start taking something! Please take something!
LOL, I agree... natural herb don't hurt no one. Haha (as if)! Nah... for me, I just drink coffee. It makes me feel better everytime... I'm a little addicted to Mcdonald's Iced mocha and delicious frappuccinos!! Yay!
People just need to chill, control what you can control and let the other stuff go (usually the little things anyway).
B*tc*y people are everywhere, they have as much right to exist in this planet like we do. So, we might as well get over it and move on.
That is honestly a really good suggestion. I was physically and emotionally abused as a young child by the woman who my mom paid to raise me..... and when people are mean to me, I cry because I don't know how else to cope besides just spending time with myself alone. I feel like when I am alone and away from the person who is hurting my feelings I feel better. Thanks very much for the great suggestion.
That woman ought to be shot, lol. That's ashame, sorry to hear that. Bi*ch* people are everywhere, they have a right to exist as we do. There's a lot of reasons why people are mean and no one deserves to put up with that. People who are mean have a lot of garbage they carry around. So, they walk around with their garbage and always looking for someone/something to dump them in.
Don't worry or let this people ruin your day, night, week or whatever. Chances are, if you only knew what kind of "garbage" they carry with them -- you will most likely feel a little sorry for them (for about a minute or so).
So, the next time someone is mean to you -- remember about the "Garbage People." These are the ones who walk amongst us, looking for places or people to dump their garbage on/in.
If you can, dump their garbage right back at them :) (at least you'll feel better). You probably have a better life than they do.
Talking with the "manager" could actually be a destructive situation. The manager is responsible for the mess, has set up the dynamics and has created the situation you find yourself in. She has her own agenda. That agenda may be known or unknown to her on a conscious level. She makes a mess and sets up someone else to take the fall for it. That makes the manager one very mean person. She could be very manipulative even though her management skills and knowledge base are probably poor at best. I would not meet with her at all.
Yes, I agree. Often when you have a toxic situation like that, it trickles down from management. Or the "mean girls" could be in good with the boss. However, usually if you try to take this to a union or HR, they will ask if you've brought it to your manager's attention. So, speaking to the NM is sometimes a necessary evil to follow the proper progression.
I went through something similar and finally ended up taking it to the union and HR-things did improve.
Hmm, I wonder if there's an HR, Union, psych help for extended family members' cr*p? And a manual on 'how to get them out?'
"House guests (actually 'visiting' extended family members) WHO SHOULD HAVE left on the day they arrived!" ----> Anyone got a book like that? OR "People who just decide to move in with you, just BECAUSE you are related" book?
OR maybe, a book that's titled: "People you haven't seen for OVER 20 years and decide to just move in with you indefinitely" OR a book that says, "Just because we are related, does NOT mean I want to live with you!"
People suck. To the OP: Just be glad that you are having problems AT WORK and not at home. Consider yourself lucky!
or start taking something!
Please take something! 
OR "People who just decide to move in with you, just BECAUSE you are related" book?
To the OP: Just be glad that you are having problems AT WORK and not at home. Consider yourself lucky!
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I agree that the tone for the floor is set by the NM. There will be "mean girls" in any place that you work. Some just love to tattle, ***** and backbite. It sounds as though this job may not be a good fit for you attitude wise. Try a different area/ facility. You may be surprised how you feel about nursing when you work in a more positive environment.