what am I missing here?

[cafenurse1112]

Ok, I work in an ER where everyone talks about everyone. There is one nurse in particular that everyone knows everything about her for the past 4 years, her old marriage, new marriage, baby coming etc. She rams it down people's throats until theyare sick. She is nurse #1. One girl stood up, nurse #2,went to this woman as a friend and told her to stop.

She is still being the butt of jokes. I was at work last night and after hearing the nasty stuff, I went in the back and called nurse #2 and told her she may need to have another talk with nurse #1. The response? nurse #2 thought I was gossipping, called nurse #1 who then called and screamed at me at work. I hung up on her. Nurse #1 then spend the rest of the night text messaging our secretary to the point where charge told her to shut off her phone.

So my quandry? Why is it when you try to help people you get your hand slapped? Why is it I am expected to "keep my nose out of it", sit there and listen to them trash this girl to keep myself out of the drama? Why is it when I called nurse #2 today ( we have been friends for years)she was short with me on the phone, accused me of being as bad as everyone else in the ER and told me she wants no part of the Drama ( that she helped create?) why, after she admitted I would never intentionally hurt anyone, did she call this girl after I got done speaking with her if she really thought I was just gossipping? What point am I missing here?:imbar

[MzMouse]

This is a perfect example why you have to be very careful of what you share of your personal life at work.

I used to work with gal who shared everything with everyone. Work a shift with her and you knew everything about her and her boyfriend. When things with this relationship went sour she became upset because "everyone was talking about her." For the most part it was actually just concern more than gossip. But it's hard to go back once you over share. You really set yourself up for a mess.

I agree it's best to stay out of it as best you can. I am in the process right now of trying to distance myself from the drama that has seemed to permeate my workplace thanks to several of my coworkers. But now I have been told I am distant and people are worried about me. You can't win sometimes.

[Vito Andolini]

You know, I thought about that. I worked the other night and I was surprised at how many other nurses have issues with nurse #1 and nurse #2. If nurse #1 does go to HR, I will be calling in all the nurses that saw her sleeping on duty, the fact that she appears affected by the ambien cr, neurontin, lortab and all the other drugs she is on, that she goes while on duty for sonograms of her baby at 3am, the disappearing with the doppler for upwards of an hour listening for fetal heart tones etc.... She will be buried!!!!!!!!! In the mean time, i do have other friends that are keeping out ears for me. lets see what comes of this.

Are you guys getting any work done? :chuckle What's going on with the patients there?