I missed the whole day of school today...burn out.

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Hey guys, now I need your support and advice. I missed the whole day of school today, and I feel sooo awful about it.

A. Haven't slept for two nights in a row.

B. Studied (as usual)

C. Had 2 pts yesterday in clinical (as oppose to one), oh and that was my first "real" - practical clinical. LOVED IT THOUGH!

D. Came home, cooked supper, was excited about my quiet productive day, (got appreciation from pts and their nurse and "thank you" from the team coordinator nurse)

E. Husband came over, had a HUUUGE fight before he even said "Hi". As a matter of fact he didn't say "hi" or "how are you". He is not interested.

F. Cryed my eyes out, took care of the sick baby all night long.

This morning - couldn't get up from bed. I break into tears and start hyperventilating...... I need to fix it pronto.... How?

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You poor thing! You need to take 5 minutes for yourself and do something that you like. You will be so worn out by the time your done with school if you keep going at that rate! How much longer in the program d you have? Are you talking to people to vent? That's one really important thing that is getting me through, venting and knowing that other people in school are going through the same stuff. Keep your head up and try not to put so much pressure on yourself!

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Originally posted by hrjqtpie

You poor thing! You need to take 5 minutes for yourself and do something that you like. You will be so worn out by the time your done with school if you keep going at that rate! How much longer in the program d you have? Are you talking to people to vent? That's one really important thing that is getting me through, venting and knowing that other people in school are going through the same stuff. Keep your head up and try not to put so much pressure on yourself!

Thanks for the reply. The thing is this situation can not be changed by me. I am doing what is necessary I can not drop anything that I have right noe: I can not drop school (priority#1!), I can not drop my kids..... the only thing I can do is to give up on the relationship with my husband.

I have 2,5 years to go. Presently I am not talking to anyone about my problems (except here) I guess I don't want to look like I am whining and victimizing myself, as well as involve others in my problems. Most of the people I know in my school are either kids and/or husband free, or more supported by their mates.

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Seriously though, you can't allow yourself to do EVERYTHING by yourself. I'm sure there are counselors or even a teacher you can talk to, even if it's just to complain about the weather. Nobody will think your a whiner, and if they do, screw em!

I'm in a similiar situation as you, I'm a single mother and I'm trying to do it by myself. No doubt it's hard, and I'm sure it will only get harder, but if I don't take care of myself now, I will not make it to the end, and you won't either if you burn out too fast! How old are your kids? Maybe they can help out around the house or something? And about your husband, don't focus your energy on him. If he doesn't want to be nice to you, do the same back to him!! You'll pull through this all!

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I hear you. Remember you are human and have limits. School shouldn't be your number 1 priority-- YOU should be your number 1 priority.

Marital strife is consider one of the greatest stresses in life, up there with the death of a parent. It sounds like you are trying to go it alone. If you can talk to us on the board about your marital problems, can you at least talk to a friend, close family member, hair dresser, therapist about it? Talking about it helps. I am having marital troubles & it has taken it's toll on my mental health. While I don't know how to solve the problems, I do talk about them. I can't imagine bottling up the pain... I'd explode.

Good luck & remember you are not alone. Missing one day of school may feel like a terrible thing, but you did what you had to do. Treat yourself like you would a friend... with compassion and kindness.

Hugs and heartfelt empathy.

Caroline

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Don't sweat missing a day of class. I am married, no kids yet. About every 6-8 weeks I take a "mental health day" from school. I make sure it's not close to a test or anything I would miss points from, and I catch up on all of the things I need to do--clean house, get groceries, REST, etc. It sounds like you need these too.

Hang in there!

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

one day at at time....

one day at at time.....

you have a full plate. taking a mental health break is not a bad thing.

it will get better.

i know, btdt...graduated when son was 4. it does get better. believe it. chin up, hot bath, scented candles.....some chocolate. self-love is what you need, hon. take care.

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chin up, hot bath, scented candles.....some chocolate. self-love is what you need, hon. take care. [/b]

I second this prescription...

Take care and don't be to hard on yourself for taking a much needed day off.

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I woke up today completely regenerated. Went to school, took care of kids (they are 6yo and 18 months). And, HEY, it's Halloween today!!!! Chocolate....lots of chocolate!!! Thanks guys, it is so great that THERE IS those who understand! :kiss

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Originally posted by NICU Newbie

Don't sweat missing a day of class. I am married, no kids yet. About every 6-8 weeks I take a "mental health day" from school. I make sure it's not close to a test or anything I would miss points from, and I catch up on all of the things I need to do--clean house, get groceries, REST, etc. It sounds like you need these too.

Hang in there!

Me too! I've been doing this for years and it works beautifully. I feel refreshed and better able to concentrate during class, more energized in labs.

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Every now and then you just have to take a day off! I know that going to school has put a lot of stress on myself and my family, because even when I'm home, I'm in my room studying! I went to school all day yesterday, pulled up at my night class last night, heard on the radio that they still had tickets for 3 Doors Down in Pensacola, so I skipped night class (first thing I've done fun since fall semester began) and had a blast at the concert! :D Now I'm ready to get back to work. Don't feel guilty when you have to stop for a day, hey, at least you got back up and are determined to stick it out! If it weren't for those days that you take for yourself, you might end up quitting all together. Good luck! I have 3 more semesters!

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You absolutely need to take time for yourself! I went out on halloween to the CHER concert. I so needed it! I went by myself (everyone told me I was nuts!) and had the most incredible night in so long! It completely re-charged my batteries and I feel much better!

Hugs to you! And try not to feel so bad about missing a day here and there. :kiss

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