It took 4 years for BRN of CA to start my probation after my wet and reckless arrest in 2020. I worked the judicial & DMV's 5+ mandated programs for years. Then, the BRN finally caught up and started my probation program at the start of 2024.
Short story, I drank/drove after a severely heartbreaking 3rd miscarriage, not an excuse, but it was my last chance at pregnancy (I'm 41yo w/ endometriosis+adenomyosis).
The BRN's high-stress probation program, coupled with the daily reminder of miscarriage, took an unbearable toll on my health and well-being. With great thought, counseling, and family support, I finally surrendered my license in April due to mental health reasons.
Ever since, I have a near stress-free and balanced healthy life. All of my friends/family say my demeanor has improved 1M%! It took my mind and body months to recover from chronic high stress, but now I am overfilled with joy and positivity. My future is bright again!
My story does not serve to encourage others to 'quit' nursing. It is my story alone. I miss helping people in nursing, but my new career will also allow me to help our dear communities without sacrificing my well-being. I am blessed and excited to continue a beautiful life.
I welcome all comments, questions, and personal messages. Staying connected and supporting each other is vital and nourishing to our souls.
Also, I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I know how devastating that can be. I work with women every day that experience miscarriages or are having difficulty getting/maintaining pregnancy. It's very heartbreaking as a nurse to watch. I wish you the best in real estate. I think that real estate is a very exciting career. Best wishes to you.
Very glad you are doing well, healing and moving forward after all you have been through.
I think the majority of nurses would leave the profession if they had other options or felt they had other options.
I have been an EN since 1990. Healthcare has changed, both for the good and the bad, since then but nursing has become more..abusive for lack of a better word. I'm not talking about some a-hole patient or family member or even the occassional crusty co-worker, I'm talking overall now. Nurses seem to be expected to dedicate their lives to their jobs first and family/friends/personal life way second. I know there are nurses who are happy to do that or feel they were "born" to be a nurse..that was never me.
My situation is different in that I have no sustained the loss you did or have gone through answering to the BON for an issue, but I did just recently (this week in fact) resign from a job that was making the mental health issues I struggle with way worse. I accepted a position that will be less stress and unfortunately much less money but it will allow me some breathing room & the ability to have an income without all the additional stress.
I understand your statement that you are living better because you gave up. I gave up trying to make the job I resigned from "fit", I gave up feeling guilt about not being able to hang in there w/it..all of. I gave up trying to control everything and when the much lesser paying job came up, I took it - it's a leap of faith and a lot of prayer for me that it will at least cover my bills, but I know I can always find a second job or cut expenses and for a better quality of life, like you, it will more than be worth it.
Hello, curious about this story, so you got a wet reckless. Was this first time offense with a BAC below 0.08? Also, your saying you did all the DUI classes and renewed your license and only after all that did the BRN notify you about probation?
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Also, I am so sorry about your miscarriage. I know how devastating that can be. I work with women every day that experience miscarriages or are having difficulty getting/maintaining pregnancy. It's very heartbreaking as a nurse to watch. I wish you the best in real estate. I think that real estate is a very exciting career. Best wishes to you.