I dont want to do this anymore!!!

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I dont know where to begin. I just do not want to be a nurse anymore. I really never did, since 2nd year of nsg school, but I didn't want to quit such a big commitment,I graduated. I have no desire to be a med surg nurse, in fact I would probably stink at it. I cant imagine being a med surge nurse. Thats why I went into ER right out of school, left that, did pedi home health for a while, now I am in the OR. I liked that for the first few weeks, now I hate that too. I dont know if its nursing, me, or I just cant hack it. The problem is I need this job I have for the benefits, and my salary. Plus my husband will *flip out* if I quit another job again. But I truely believe I shouldnt be in such a profession as nursing if my heart isn't in it..but.what else can I do? Is there anything you guys can suggest career/husband wise????? I have been telling him I love this new job, everythings going great, and actually it is, except that I am a nervous wreck inside, and I am counting the hours til lunch, break, and quitting time. I actually think he might divorce me if I quit!!! (or at the least be very very bitter towards me) I dont know whats bothering me more: the fact that I dont want to be a nurse, or the fact that I will dissapoint my family. Help......any advice will be appreciated.........:o

Dear God! I am seriously getting discouraged by this thread. What about nursing is so bad? I am not afraid of hard work and I love and am interested in how the human body works. Each and every time I have been in the hospital, I was so intrigued by chatting with the nurses and each one I told that I considering nursing encouraged me. I would really like to know what is so bad--i mean REAL examples so that I can make a more informed decision. Is there a lot of poo? Not too scared of poo...Not too scared of being yelled at because I didn't get everything done when I know darn well my supervisor knows I couldn't. What is the problem, please give me real examples as to why you hate your job--PLEASE SAVE ME from making a stupid decision!

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Your post made me laugh, Renee;) I understand what you're saying, but unfortunatly I don't think anyone can explain it to us, it is something we have to experience on our own.

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jenni82104 said:
Your post made me laugh, Renee;) I understand what you're saying, but unfortunatly I don't think anyone can explain it to us, it is something we have to experience on our own.

I was recently at a job fair for some soon-to-be graduate nurses. My company is non-clinical, and I tried to impress upon them to at least take our cards so that they will have a contact in the future.

Some people are VERY HAPPY at the bedside, and I respect that. Likewise, some people would rather practice elsewhere, and I respect that, too. Nursing isn't dichotomous and you have lots of options available to you.

I think if anything, just don't think of nursing as shift work in a hospital. It is that and so much more. I think if more people knew of all of the options you have with a license to practice nursing we'd have more people attracted to our field. I am so passionate about this that I wish I and others could provide some kind of seminar or something to nursing schools about all of the non-clinical nursing options out there!

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

The great thing about nursing is there are so many options! Don't feel discouraged about hating your job. ( I realize you think that is easy for me to say) There are desk jobs out there for those who never have liked or get burned out on the patient care situations. As others have mentioned before me, there are jobs in insurance companies, assisted living and nursing homes for example. I have an office job in a nursing home, which I have been doing for two years now and I absolutely love it. I have never enjoyed being on my feet for 12 hour shifts. The office job is just an 8 hour day Monday thru Friday. Don't give up your nursing career, just look for other options. With the experience you have, someone will give you a chance. Life is awful when you hate your job and dread going in every day and way too short to have to deal with that. You put so much time into your education, it would be a shame to continue to be so unhappy. Your marriage will also be happier if you are happier. Good Luck!

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jenni82104 said:
Your post made me laugh, Renee;) I understand what you're saying, but unfortunatly I don't think anyone can explain it to us, it is something we have to experience on our own.

well, I am for real here! LOL...I have enough concerns about me being smart enough to go back to college at 32 years old, I don't want to be wasting my time.

Also, how hard is it to go back to get my BSN later on if I went to a good college with pre-reqs in the first place? Is it another 2 years of school or what? I am already planning on 3 years for my ASN.

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Specializes in NICU, ER, OR.

Hello everyone.....

the husband said something, the other day, while we were discussing my "issue".he said "why is everybody else handling it, why cant you?" I dont know what to say, it sounds like hes saying I am a quitter. He knows (or thinks) I am a really good nurse, and tries at every turn to encourage me to work as one, but how does he really know if I am a good nurse... Plus, if I am, I am out of fear of making a mistake, not because I love it!!! I am still going to work, for now, trying to make the best of it, hoping it will just click one day, and I will be at a place in my mind where I can NOT almost get a panic attack over working a regular day......Just wanted to check in, and thanks again for all the words of encouragement, advice....commiserating.....BTW.I applied online for a "nurse reviewer" position for a major health insurance carrier.hoping to get a call.......

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Good luck to you, I hope you can get a job that you enjoy.

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RNOTODAY said:
Hello everyone.....

the husband said something, the other day, while we were discussing my "issue".he said "why is everybody else handling it, why cant you?" I dont know what to say, it sounds like hes saying I am a quitter. He knows (or thinks) I am a really good nurse, and tries at every turn to encourage me to work as one, but how does he really know if I am a good nurse... Plus, if I am, I am out of fear of making a mistake, not because I love it! I am still going to work, for now, trying to make the best of it, hoping it will just click one day, and I will be at a place in my mind where I can NOT almost get a panic attack over working a regular day......Just wanted to check in, and thanks again for all the words of encouragement, advice....commiserating.....BTW.I applied online for a "nurse reviewer" position for a major health insurance carrier.hoping to get a call.......

You should print this out and show it to him. Maybe seeing is believing for him??

I hope you get the job!

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Renee73 said:
Dear God! I am seriously getting discouraged by this thread. What about nursing is so bad? I am not afraid of hard work and I love and am interested in how the human body works. Each and every time I have been in the hospital, I was so intrigued by chatting with the nurses and each one I told that I considering nursing encouraged me. I would really like to know what is so bad--I mean REAL examples so that I can make a more informed decision. Is there a lot of poo? Not too scared of poo...Not too scared of being yelled at because I didn't get everything done when I know darn well my supervisor knows I couldn't. What is the problem, please give me real examples as to why you hate your job--PLEASE SAVE ME from making a stupid decision!

Hmm, what made it so bad for me at my first nursing job (in a newborn nursery) wasn't the actual work itself. I loved the work, I loved my co-workers, and I loved working with the mom's and babies. But the reality of being short-staffed almost always really sucked. Getting an assigment of 8 babies (6 was what we were supposed to get) was tough ...... trying to assess each one, keep up with their vitals every few hours, feedings every few hours, and monitoring for any complications, along with teaching and helping the mom's with the baby's care, AND getting new admits. It was non-stop ..... ALL night long.

Then there were the nights (especially during the holidays) when it was extremely short staffed. I remember a night when there were 24 babies and just 2 nurses (me and the charge nurse). Insane! How do you safely keep up with that? And administration didn't give a damn. They don't ask your input for anything.

I ended up leaving that job because administration wanted us to go to couplet care (our rooms weren't conducive to a couplet care setting). That was when I realized administration and all the top hot shots really don't care what the nurses want. All they care about is saving money. Who cares if the nurses have to work non-stop all night long, with no break or lunch.

The work itself wasn't so bad, I actually LOVED the patient contact and the actual nursing work. But the politcal crap that came along with it made it unpleasant.

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Did you get a better job Raindreamer?

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keep the faith

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Hi What is your job entail? Utilization? And what state do you do it in?? JW

thanks :)

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