I've got another student who thinks she is pregnant. I can counsel until I go blue in the face- this is the second pregnancy scare for her this year. She's only in 9th grade. I don't use this term loosely, but she's dumb as a brick (both book smarts and common sense). There is a family history of a genetic problem that she is a carrier for, and if she even realizes how serious it is, she doesn't care. She can barely take care of herself, much less a child, even less a child with a genetic problem.
Family doesn't care. Mom's too high to care, and Dad doesn't think there is a problem and "she doesn't need birth control". They've finally made her an appointment to confirm pregnancy. It's not fair.
I just went to a workshop on teen pregnancy. They said in a significant percentage of pregnancies in the very young moms (14 and younger), is a result of incest. They said to always ask who the father is.
I am absolutely horrified. I think I am going to throw up about the incest and as far as the mother knowing details about her daughter cycle that is really strange. Why does she have to keep track of her daughter's cycle so closely. Maybe she should know more about her daughter and who she is hanging out with rather than checking to see if she starts her cycle = pregnancy. Or maybe even stranger, Bergren could be right about incest and the mother is making sure her husband is not getting the girl pregnant.
I can't believe I just wrote that, it sounds sooo sick. I have a 9 year daughter and can't even imagine. My son will be 13 next month and his school goes from 7-12th grades. They give out condoms at the students request regardless of age. I saw one girl that was pregnant, turns out she is a ninth grader. Apparently, there are about 6 girls in the school that are pregnant. Unbeleivable. We live in a big city and where we live is pretty nice but the farther south you go the its not so great. I agree that it has a lot to with socioeconomic factors.
I just went to a workshop on teen pregnancy. They said in a significant percentage of pregnancies in the very young moms (14 and younger), is a result of incest. They said to always ask who the father is.
I know. I worried about this with the hx of abuse in the family (as far as I know, none is sexual, but she said her Dad had said no to birth control and that "she didn't need it". That was a red flag for me, and CPS is aware.
Aneroo and Bergren,
I am absolutely horrified. I think I am going to throw up about the incest and as far as the mother knowing details about her daughter cycle that is really strange. Why does she have to keep track of her daughter's cycle so closely. Maybe she should know more about her daughter and who she is hanging out with rather than checking to see if she starts her cycle = pregnancy. Or maybe even stranger, Bergren could be right about incest and the mother is making sure her husband is not getting the girl pregnant.
I can't believe I just wrote that, it sounds sooo sick. I have a 9 year daughter and can't even imagine. My son will be 13 next month and his school goes from 7-12th grades. They give out condoms at the students request regardless of age. I saw one girl that was pregnant, turns out she is a ninth grader. Apparently, there are about 6 girls in the school that are pregnant. Unbeleivable. We live in a big city and where we live is pretty nice but the farther south you go the its not so great. I agree that it has a lot to with socioeconomic factors.
What is this World coming to.....
Scary, huh?
I have 800 at my high school. 14 are parents or are pregnant. One is on her second pregnancy (she's 15- cultural differences though). I had two others but one terminated and one had a miscarriage.
PS: We're an abstinence only state. Their last year of getting sex ed. is in 9th grade. I don't have any pregnant 9th graders. They all start in 10th grade. I think this is more than chance.
ETA- I don't have a middle school, but several of our middle schools also have kids that are pregnant.
When I had our youngest at the age of 32 at my hospital, the girls told me that they fight over who gets the "old and married" couples. Unfortunately, teen moms are anything but unusual at my hospital. When I had DS, they had one there who was fifteen and on her third baby, three different dads, only knew who was whose dad b/c of DNA testing. It's a sad sad state of affairs.
It's not fair.
bergren
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I just went to a workshop on teen pregnancy. They said in a significant percentage of pregnancies in the very young moms (14 and younger), is a result of incest. They said to always ask who the father is.