yesterday,when i was changing the patient he suddenly become aggressive and hit me on my nose's bridge which caused my eyeglasses broken in half. i was shocked and frightened because i'm just worried that my nose is going to be broking or something. but i was able to hold in my tears while doing my round. later when i'm charting my adl the nurse supervisor passed by and asked me "why are your eyes red?" i said, "nothing". he then asked "if nothing why are you crying?". i still said, "nothing." at that moment my eyes just turned red but my tear didn't come out yet. he then told me "if you don't tell me then i'll write you up forthree days suspensions." i know he was just kidding because he was a nice nurse and supervisor. he also told me "i'm your supervisor i can help you solve the problem." i couldn't hold in my emotion no more so i broke down in tear. when this happened there are some nurses and other cnas around. i told them that when i was changing the patient he suddenly hit my nose's bridge and it make the eyeglasses broken. at this moment i cried more because i couldn't control it because i'm just too concerned about my nose that it might be broking. they told me my nose's bridge is turned bluish now and it slightly swollen. one cna gave me ice to put on it. and the supervisor and nurses told me to stay and not to go home yet so that they can do the incident report and so that the facility is going to replace me with new eyeglasses. i cried because i worried about my nose not the eyeglasses because i have an extra pair at home i can use. when my family came to pick me up and even until now i don't even tell them about this becaus i don't want them to know that i cried at work and also don't want my parents to worry about me. today i called in and asked if i can stay home for two days because my nose's bridge needs time for healing. and the next following two days are my days off so i'll have 4 days to rest. i'm not going to work today so my parents though they cancelled me and the rest of the day i just staying in my room. thanks god that my nose is not broking but i do feel so embarrassing now because many people saw me cried. i hope i can handle this better since i'm already 25 i feel like i ruined my reputation and i don't know what to do when i come back to work... how am i able to look at these people? i feel like i have no more face because i embarrassed myself at work especially in front of the supervisor,nurses and others cnas. can you please honestly tell me is it embarrassing to cry at work? how am i able to face these people again when i return back to work? i'm worry that these people going to look down at me after they saw me cried in front of them. i really need your advice, thanks!
Relax anyone who hasn't cried at work has most likely wanted to at one time or another. I'm sure that everyone else has already forgotten about it and I would really hope that your family wouldn't give you a hard time about it either. Maybe you should tell them what happened, at least you can let go of some of the worry. Your making yourself sick over this by making it into a much bigger deal than it is, I understand it's a big deal to you but I doubt anyone else sees it that way. Take a deep breath, relax, and move on...it could be so much worse. I hope you feel better :)[/quote']
I have never seen other cried at work before that why I feel uncomfortable when they saw me broke down in front of them. I really hope that everyone at work forgotten about this incident already so that it would make me feel better. I still don't know how to say it to my parents so I just keep it silent for now. This crying incident really bother me because when I got home that night I coudn't sleep at all because I kept thinking how am I going to get back to work after this thing happened. I feel so embarrassed and feel like I don't want to get back to work anymore! But I do feel a lot better now after reading your advice, thanks so much béla&jackson's mom.
I know it's too easy to say "don't be embarrassed" and you'll still feel badly, but seriously - don't be embarrassed. I assume you haven't been beaten often at work? Next time it won't be quite so shocking and you'll be able to control your emotions much better.
I'm the same way. I can hold back the tears, but as soon as anyone shows me any sincere concern and I open my mouth to tell them what's wrong the waterworks will probably come.
Glad your nose isn't broken, and walk back into work with your head held high! It's perfectly ok to be human.
I know that it is easy to say than done. I think this is the most embarrassing moment in my life... I guess it would be hard for me to forget that easy. I have been kicked on the stomach, scratched, bitten, hit, and slapped by the residents before but never get beaten so hard like this time. It was a surprise hit to me so it is hard to make a quick move. Before I never cry when I get harm by the residents but this time I was scared b/c I though my nose is broken so the tears came out. Afterall, I'm happy that my nose is normal. And hopefully I can have the courage to get back to work and face eveyone. Thanks very much Stephalump for your encouragement.
i'd cry too if i got hit in the face! and i'd really cry over my glasses being broken because glasses are expensive! seriously, everyone cries at work sooner or later -- even my six foot tall, martial arts instructor husband. he cried at work when someone expressed sympathy over the death of our dog. i work with a former navy seal, a big, burly, bald guy who looks exactly like someone you wouldn't want to meet in a dark alley, when he heard about my breast cancer diagnosis, he sat down and cried with me, right at the nurse's station.
and for irisheyesrsmilin: is there someone who does have the right to hit you? outside the martial arts dojo or boxing ring?
that day i wasn't crying over my glasses but it was my nose b/c i was worried that my nose is going to be broken and the scariest thing to have is surgery. and i'm glad to hear that i'm not the only one that cried at work before so it does make me feel somewhat better too. thanks so much ruby vee for letting me know that!
You will never get over crying but since you mentioned that you supervisor is a male let me tell you something. when we male ask question we a seeking knowledge. We ask direct questions we want a direct answers. We aren't complicated creatures. The supervisor knew you were crying, and he wanted to know why. He didn't want to delve into your soul. He just wanted to know why you were crying. The worst answer in the world is "Nothing" Then he has to9 continue to ask the same question. It is so frustrating. My wife is the same way. Her answer to my question, "What time is it?" has always been "Why?"
That day I tried hard not to cry in front of everyone. The reason I said nothing is b/c I don't want to tell them about it b/c I know if I tell them I wouldn't be able to hold back my emotion. I guess at that moment if my supervisor didn't passed by and saw me with red eyes and kept questioning me why am I crying then I wouldn't broke down to tears. Other people passed by and didn't notice that I'm about to cry but why do he have to discovered this and even noticed that I have bluish color on my nose's bridge. He have such a good eyes. I really hope that day no one discovered that I want to cry at all so that I woudn't broke down and cried in front of them. Aaaahhhhh!!!! Now it happened and I'm still embarrassed.
Don't feel bad!! When I was a CNA, I was on the verge of tears once after being assaulted by a patient as well (didn't get anything broken but it took me by surprise) & I was embarrassed too b/c I almost cried in front of a hospice nurse who was just performing her weekly visits. I bet everyone gets a little emotional at work, and I understand how painful it is to get hit in the nose...talk about pain:crying2: Feel better, and take these days off to just relax your mind. Go back to work refreshed & ready to go :)
Thank you so much Nurse2bKimberly for comforting me!!!
Am sorry, not to be crass, but is this a real thread?
Do you think that I have nothing to do and make up a story like this just to waste my value time? To answer your question, yes, this is a 100% real story/thread.
Thank you very much for those of you taking your time to read my long post and gave me your advices. I am very appreciated!! I feel ton times better now after reading all your helpful posts. I hope that I wouldn't get embarrass when I face everyone at work tomorrow. I'll let you all know how it go tomorrow!! Thanks again everyone.!!!!
It is a shock the first time you ever get hit by a patient.
It will likely happen again, unfortunately, but know that it happens.
And there is something about being hit in the face that is just so humiliating... hit me in the arm, hit me in the leg, hit me in the butt... but the face is so personal.
I get it.
You sound new and you sound like you were afraid to report this.
Were you afraid of getting into trouble?
Don't think that.
Next time (or even this time, if it's not too late) fill out an incident report.
You should have been able to report it and maybe even sent to the ER to get your nose checked out (at the expense of the facility).
Also, it is important for these behaviors to be reported so they can be addressed.
This is a tough tough job you chose and I encourage you to take care of yourself!
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