I was bullied out of my job

Nurses Nurse Beth

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She made up stories about me and accused me of being unsafe. My manager believed these stories, wrote me up, and put a performance plan in place, even though I told her that I could prove with documentation that the accusations were not true. I went to the Director of Nursing and asked her to look into the situation, but she never did, and instead sided with the manager. I ended up quitting the job at the last minute because I was terrified of being fired.

I managed to secure another job, and eventually worked my way into the Cardiac ICU. I have been a nurse for 6 years, with 4 of them in the ICU. I have never had one complaint about safety or my nursing practice since. I have received excellent reviews, am a charge nurse, and was elected as the Coordinating Council representative for my unit.

Unfortunately I am also burned out and am seeking a change of pace. My job options would be significantly increased if I could work for my first employer again, however I sent in a resume and they have told me that I am not eligible for rehire. Is there any way to dispute this matter, and clear my name-- even after all this time?


Dear Bullied,

There are always two sides to a situation, and I'm going to base my answer on the assumption that what you say is accurate- that you had no legitimate performance concerns. Your work history for the past six years speaks to that assumption, although something triggered the nurse manager's friend, who started all this.

What you don't offer is an explanation for the unprovoked attack on you by the nurse manager's friend. Did you inadvertently offend her/him? Do you think she/he felt

threatened in some way by you?

You received a write-up for unfounded accusations and then appealed to the DON, who sided with the manager. Lesson: it rarely works out well to go above your manager's head, especially when you are new.

It sounds like this nurse wanted to affect your future employment- and she/he did. Bad behavior, but enough about her/him. Let's talk about you.

Unfortunately, you do not have recourse (legal or otherwise), for reversing an ineligible for rehire status. It's entirely up to the facility, (in this case, the inexperienced, new manager) as to when they can stamp ineligible for rehire” on an employee's termination papers.

You can always write a letter of explanation, and request that it be placed in your file, which may or may not help-but can't hurt.

The other thing you can do is try to get back in through personal referral. Do you have contacts within the facility? If this manager is as bad as you say, after 6 years, she has burned some bridges and showed her true colors, assuming she even kept her job. Contact your contacts, and ask for referrals.

Hopefully there has been a changing of the guards” in your favor. If not, trust that other opportunities will present themselves for you and your great skill sets.

Best wishes,

Nurse Beth

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Make a fresh start. It will be hard. Really, you need to try to resolve the record if they will tell another employer you are a "Do Not Rehire."I won't say i was bullied, I was unwilling to work in service of a narcissist. A new "Golden Girl" manager was hired who was all and only about her. She liked a certain look and type of nurse. She wanted young,pretty, submissive, and very green. The unit became all about her mission trips and a conduit for her "image." She was very attractive, but a sneaky liar. We collected many surplus items from deliveries and C.Sections to send "on the Missions," but she usually "forgot" to take them. She took an idea I sent her and presented it to pediatricians as if it were exclusively hers. Unfortunately, because she wasn't careful enough, the protocols and order sets associated were not correct. When I talked to peds about it, they realized she was not the source of the idea. How embarrassing for a narcissist who is never wrong. I think that really made her hate me! Plus, I do not look like Barbie or swoon for anyone. This woman also wrote an article, published on a national website, and used the real first names of staff and described them in a derogatory way. Who is that stupid? (Small hospital in a small town-not hard to figure out who they are). My most favourite "___ism" was the test she "made" for staff because we were so deficient. When googling an answer, one of my coworkers found that the test was from a 100 level OB class at a state college in another state-VERBATIM!

I spent at third of my life at this place (16 of 48 years). Finally two+ years later and after she was "let go," I am over it. She was replaced by an equally toxic former staff person, who she hired as a sidekick (also thin and attractive). This person turned on her and ran to administration every time she cleared her throat apparently. I do believe they look in the mirror and see each other's face staring back at them! The only way I would ever go back is if they cleaned house and another institution took over. Don't waste your time. Go somewhere else. Let yourself be open to other possibilities and move on. It is really difficult, but it will be for the best. I do not know all of the ins and outs of your story, but going where you are "not wanted" is not a good solution. What if this happens again? There are some really horrible people in healthcare and generally in some workplaces. You, it seems, were in such a place. Even if you are not totally "happy," it is better to be safe from another incident. This assumes they would even take you back. That may not even be possible. I got copies of all of my evals from HR and I kept them in case they would ever dare give me a bad reference. In many states you are able to view your HR record and perhaps obtain a copy. Good luck!

I am a 58 yr old nurse who worked on a busy med/surg tele floor for 10 years. The last 3-4 years the company has been hurting financially due to many patients with no health insurance. They brought in a new BSN nurse administrator from a hospital that closed. She had her nurses come over from that hospital 9 favoritism) and started harassing the nurses that had years there. She made false accusations and said snide remarks... they let her go after a year, The next supervisor was a cardiac cath lab RN ex military. Brand new MSN supervisor who was even worse. He stopped our self scheduling .. put us on fri, sat, sun, mon.. 12 hrs. He had favoritism for his younger nurses who worked 2 fulltime jobs... He said he prefers "younger more moldable nurses as to older nurses set in their ways.. I watched at least 3 nurses over 50 get fired... and then me... he claims a Dr asked for something during the discharge that wasn't done. the Dr. was famous for not computer charting but putting it on paper... I read all my orders on the computer. this was not in it.. Long story short. they put me on probation one week without pay. They never told me why. My union rep said I need to resign. I said I wont. And 49 days later they sent me termination paperwork. I feel it is age discrimination. And sadly try to go against a huge corporation. I feel that I no longer want to give a company my full loyalty since I was back stabbed, And being 58 I don't care if I had a Phd. chances of my being hired are slim ... they look at age on every application

Specializes in Orthopedics, Med-Surg.

I feel your pain. You didn't work for Tenet, by any chance? In any case, your story is a familiar one to their employees.

Healthcare can be a very 'unhealthy' place and sometimes lead to 'un-healing' experiences. (Imagine how these folks treat some patients? Yikes.) You use the term narcissist and there do seem to be a share of people with personality disorder who are attracted to healthcare as a profession.

At the end of the day: The only person we can change in the equation is ourselves. (Or the setting of where we choose to work.)

Also realize that some settings are truly toxic and most normal people cannot cope with them. Nobody should have to contort themselves into a pretzel to 'fit in'.

Please read this article on Strategies to cope with Bullying.

http://www.drlc4.com/Articles/files/304.pdf

Cheryl Dellsega is a PhD prepared nurse at Penn State Hershey Med Center. She has written several books about nurse-nurse and woman to woman lateral violence. I read When Nurses Hurt Nurses: Overcoming the Cycle of Nurse Bullying and would highly recommend this book.

Setting someone up in the way described is a form of workplace bullying.

It is sad that nursing has become an environment of survival of the best or most talented socially self-protected.

I've wondered of late if some nurses are so hate and anger filled because of the overwhelming stress of impossible workloads and expectations that they joy in hurting other nurses who are not in the IN....you know the old...anger indirect

Some of this behavior is like one would expect to see in the 13 year old girlfriend click group....just plain vicious.

I think all nurses should be forced to adhere to diversity paradigms (need strict diversity paradigms within nursing NOW!)

I also have been terminated wrongfully....however, in my case there was a DOH investigation, which was fortunate for me, because not only was I cleared, but the mal-intent came out clearly and the facility GOT THEIRS!

I would never want to work for that management again. I recognized how pathetic their own lack of ability in oversight caused them to attempt a scapegoat on me.

At some point we need to start calling this type of behavior what it is....and that is just plain evil, immoral, and unbecoming to nursing and nurses. I am so ashamed and embarrassed by behavior of this type. I do not think them clever...just a complete embarassment to nursing.

Specializes in Long Term Acute Care, TCU.

You burnt that bridge when you quit without notice. You do not deserve to get that job back.

Likely, you neither did an exit interview nor did you bring the matter up with Human Resources. Never quit a job. Give a two week notice and let them fire you.

Two week notices should always go through Human Resources first. Let them know the exact reason you are leaving and how it has become a hostile environment.

Age discrimination is rampant. Most new Managers/Supervisors have little to no floor experience and are more concerned with making friends with the "cool" kids than they are with running a professional unit. I will only work at facilities where most of the management is close to my age. A lot of youth in authority positions is a bad sign.

At the time the incident happened, you should have got your union involved if your manager was harassing and bullying you. It might be a little too late to make changes at your facility where you worked 6 years ago. In my personal experience, a quick call to the union and HR about managers harassing and bullying you for no apparent reason will settle things. Key is to do it close to when the situation occurred. Good luck.

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