I graduated in 2008. Got a job in SNF, LTC, WOUND CARE AND NOW HOME HEALTH NURSING. I REALLY WANT TO BE aN L&D NURSE BUT SO TIRED anD DISAPOINTED WITH BEING TURNED DOWN FOR JOBS that ivwant so bad. I recently went through some personal issues with my family and church. The pastor told me I was a bad mom and he was better than me and I'm pathetic...the list goes on. He really wanted to parent my kids which he started doing and turned them against me. My oldest son married his oldest dtr and they had their first child four months ago. Long story short pstr said I was causing dissention in the church just bc I didn't agree with him. A lot of what he said was his opinion. Ex...he said ppl who fall asleep in church look at Media....stupid...that's not even Biblical. Maybe they tired from working all flippin day and his sermons are boring...just saying....So I was kicked out of the church bc I was told I had to apologize in front of the entire church. .most ofppl didnt even know what going on. It was rediculous. So i said i needed more time to think about what to say. He said I had to apologize that morning or leave the church right then. My kids chose to agree with him. My oldest will barely talk to me and we used to be so close until this pastor came along and he married his dtr. I rarely get to see my gd because my dil said I'm bitter and she doesn't want her dtr around me. Tovtop it off my job is very disorganized and stressful. They always want more from us. I love nurs. Its what makes me happy. But, I had to take a loa because I was in a very dark place and very anxious plus I got extremely depressed. I have been on loa since november. THEN I got pna, sepsis, acute MI. My husband and dtr found me in bed turning blue. By the time EMT'S got their i had stopped breathing. Several weeks after going home I was dx with PE. I initially didn't even know I was sick. To top it off they found a mass on my right lung and may have had a stroke bc my vision and memory were affected.
Let me just add I am onlyv44yo. I consider my self a hard working...loving...compassionate nurse. My niece and dtr are beci ming nurses because of me.
So I was talking to my husband yesterday and he said maybe I can't handle the stress of nursing. I love nursing so much. The jobs I have gotten I don't really like but ive learned from them...so I don't see it as all bad. Can snyone tell me how you know if nursing isn't for you? I don't feel that way at all. I talk about my stressv to him but it doesn't mean I hate nursing. I'm so discouraged from wh as t he said.....any comment hopefully appriated...
Specializes in Gerontology RN-BC and FNP MSN student.
God is gentle and not the least bit boastful or condemning....your pastor is not representing the true spirit of God. God is Love. Don't even go around him. Christians know the true accuser of the brethren is of Satan. True Christian brothers and sisters will lift you up in prayer, encourage you and support you.
You physical health sounds like the priority here. You can seek God with or without being in a church... yes maybe right now working is too stressful. But it can change...take care of you. Read Gods word and pray without ceasing... Is my advice- I am in Love with Christ. And I know He will see you through.
Mental health can manifest in physical symptoms and it sounds like your added stress has brought a lot if undue grief on to your well being. No well God serving pastor would shame someone in front of a community.
Find yourself a good counselor, say Heck with that Pastor and go where you are celebrated!
Nursing is hard work but we can not fully care for others if we are not in the best shape ourselves. Please don't turn your back on nursing, find comfort in your faith in your own way-not that alleged pastor and take care of yourself.
Maybe you could get into a different avenue of mother/baby and become a CLC or IBCLC? Maybe take the course that teaches you how to teach the 20 hr breastfeeding course or find out how to be a birthing instructor? That might help you get in at a hospital. Maybe you would enjoy working at a birthing center? I hope your son comes around eventually and that you are able to forgive him. Best of luck to you!
Specializes in Pediatrics, High-Risk L&D, Antepartum, L.
Maybe you could get into a different avenue of mother/baby and become a CLC or IBCLC? Maybe take the course that teaches you how to teach the 20 hr breastfeeding course or find out how to be a birthing instructor? That might help you get in at a hospital. Maybe you would enjoy working at a birthing center? I hope your son comes around eventually and that you are able to forgive him. Best of luck to you!
A CLC wouldn't get her in to L&D or close...that's a week long class my 14 year old son is qualified to take. An IBCLC takes a while to get the hours of hands on and ed hours...it isn't something you just go and do. I don't think either of these are things that would help in the here and now.
OP you need to get yourself some help so you can work through all these issues in your personal life. If you try to move on without dealing with this...you won't get far. Take card of your mental health...take the break and then move forward.
Irish...I am getting help. I am having a hard time...nothingbi won't get over. But through it all I got bilat PEs then found outbi had a stroke but healing fast...then founnd out I haveca pulmonary arteiailvenous malformation. I need advice.there are lots of nurses that stary out in L&D without prior experience. I know I can do it. I have nursing experience since 2008...about a month afyer passing the NCLEX. it is very discouraging. I preceptored in I t. I spent a summer working an externship in it. Then the hospitals stopped hiring. Oi am 45yo but look younger...and I know I can do this..not over cocky..I have a lot to learn. Are there any nurse managgers that can advise me after I get over my physical illnesse
HappyWife77, BSN, RN
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God is gentle and not the least bit boastful or condemning....your pastor is not representing the true spirit of God. God is Love. Don't even go around him. Christians know the true accuser of the brethren is of Satan. True Christian brothers and sisters will lift you up in prayer, encourage you and support you.
You physical health sounds like the priority here. You can seek God with or without being in a church... yes maybe right now working is too stressful. But it can change...take care of you. Read Gods word and pray without ceasing... Is my advice- I am in Love with Christ. And I know He will see you through.