husband begrudgingly supportive

[RN_Pursuit2b]

He vascillates; when he's not trying to talk me out of pursuing a career in nursing he's saying he's not for it, but will support me. He goes so far as to tell me he doesn't think I can do it, which affects my self-esteem. Does anyone here have a suggestion for my future in dealing with nursing school and my husband?

[RN_Pursuit2b]

he is going to support me.

[User123456]

i really hope things work out for you. and if you need anymore pep talk we're all here for you!!!

[RN_Pursuit2b]

Thank you Trendy, that means a lot in this day in age. I'm currently still working in the corporate jungle, and it's a rotten, back-biting rat-race. I'm looking forward to a profession where there is support for each other. I always knew nurses were compassionate, but now there's an emphasis on the "passionate" in my mind!

[fmrnicumom]

Glad to hear your talk went well! :) I can understand being in a moment and feeling let down and discouraged. Sometimes when that happens we need a way to release it, and you posted here. Taken out of context, a single conversation can (at times) make a relationship seem horrible, when in fact it is not. I think there was a great deal of concern expressed because, if that was the every day reality of your marriage, then there is legitimate fear that it could head downhill - and fast.

Best of luck to you! I hope everything works out and you are able to realize your dream.

Tiffany

[RN_Pursuit2b]

Nope, it sure isn't like that on a daily basis....I was just crushed that day....and getting into a school is so difficult in Northern NV I was also very frustrated. I think my hubby was also hoping his comment would make me mad and determined. It was a good talk and I don't think we'll be having problems with that anymore. Thank you very much for your support!!:thankya:

[buddiage]

When we talked about it calmly, he apologized for the way he said it, re-phrased himself, and gave me some constructive criticism. We reached compromises; I would be more proactive, and he would then see that I was serious and support me, and even believe that I could do it. He ended the conversation by saying, "you know...I really think you're gonna make it."

I'm so glad I had all of you to go to in this issue, you inspire me all that much more to become a nurse.

Calm helps.

And I'm sure that "sticking to your feelings" in a logical manner helped him understand the likelihood of you "sticking to nursing school" and helped him understand that you are indeed serious about doing it or die trying. I'm sure that captured his attention and helped him go along your plan to succeed.

I'm so glad you are encouraged. I wish the best for you.

[Hellllllo Nurse, BSN, RN]

Thank you Trendy, that means a lot in this day in age. I'm currently still working in the corporate jungle, and it's a rotten, back-biting rat-race. I'm looking forward to a profession where there is support for each other. I always knew nurses were compassionate, but now there's an emphasis on the "passionate" in my mind!

Sometimes nursing and even nursing school can be very back-biting and rotten. Sometimes, they can be great.

I'm glad your husband has changed his tune.

Browsing this board is a good way to get a feel for what nurses go through.

[RN_Pursuit2b]

That's a good point. I got a small taste of that when I was in CPR class with a couple of nursing students. Thank you for your post!