How to stop crying on the job?

Okay, the doing the mental math is a great idea... you do what you gotta do to reign in those tears.

The yawning, on the other hand... not so much.

Think about how it would look to you, as a patient, to see the person-- to whom you are pouring your heart out to-- is yawning.

Not very therapeutic.

I can't say that I've been on the verge of tears.

I guess I'm good at compartmentalizing and I don't cry easily.

I'm curious to see other's suggestions.

I just wanted to suggest that yawning may not be the best method.

Also, the longer you are exposed to these types of stories, I wonder if you won't be able to handle it better as time goes on.

I'm not saying you'll become heartless, but perhaps these stories won't reduce you to tears so readily.

It shows you're very empathetic, which is a great quality for a nurse. One way to stave off the tears is to look up just by rolling your eyes upward, briefly. Just be careful you don't look like you're rolling your eyes at what is being said. I think after you've heard enough sad stories, you'll be a bit toughened. Then you can express caring and empathy without getting drawn into the sadness. Good luck!

I can really appreciate a Psych Tech who's going into Nursing. Good front line experience. I also appreciate the fact that you're Researching the Field, for example, by reading through the Threads on the Psych Nursing Forum. Good for you, dokhtarshirazi!

There's both good and bad in being a sensitive Individual in the Nursing Field. It's good that if we can empathize with our Patients. Empathy is an understanding of another's feelings, which is a positive attribute when assisting the Patient toward a Threrapeutic Goal.

However, sympathy means to share in that feeling, and that can be very Taxing to Our Own Emotional Health. I sense there is sympathizing going on here.

Okay. If I were experiencing Emotional Upsettedness whenever I spoke to a Patient about an upsettng situation, I'd have to find the Root Cause. I would seek Professional Services to identify, and deal with, that Root Cause

There's a Reason why an Emotional Situation another Individual is experiencing, with whom we have a Professional Relationship with, results in triggering a highly Emotional State in us.

Unresolved Issues, or Current Personal Problems could be a Root Cause. In other words, if we are inappropriately experiencing or feeling another's Emotional Pain, it's because we aren't dealing with our own Emotional Pain as well as we should.

The Hospital where I work has an EAP (Employee Assistance Program) and I have sought the Services of a Therapist PRN. Even when I don't have Problems or Issues to work out, I still see the Therapist a couple of times a year for a so-called "15 Thousand Mile Check Up".

Good Luck and Best Wishes to you, dokhtarshirazi!

Thank you Hygiene Queen! :) How long have you been a nurse? Did it get easier to control your emotions with time?

I began as a CNA in a nursing home about 25 years ago. I coped with difficulties by sternly reminding myself that "this is what I signed up for" and to "suck it up". I guess I'm pretty brutal with myself, but that's what worked for me. I really wanted to display the professionalism that I admired in others and that meant learning The Poker Face. In other words, I nipped it in the bud early on.

I was a psych tech for about 7 years. I made it a point to keep myself focused on the task at hand and I was very conscious of my own affect (which is very important). If something does start to tug a bit at my heartstrings (like I hate seeing a child put in restraints!) I try to focus more on the task at hand and not thinking about emotions.

I have been a nurse for almost 3 years (still in psych).

Oh, boy! I guess what I'm saying makes me sound hard and cold. I'm not!

Hygiene Queen, Thank you again. And no! You do not sound hard and cold. You sound very professional which is exactly what I want to be. I look up to you and really want to follow your path. Three years as a psych nurse, what is your favorite part of being a psych nurse? Do you think you will stay in psych for a long time?

I'm fascinated by personality disorders, I love observing people and I love medication teaching.

I do work on a very challenging unit (geri-psych) but it's good combination of psych and medical and I've learned so much.

You cannot ever ever ever talk me into working in a medical hospital, so Psych is where I'll stay.