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This thread has reminded me of something that happened with one of my labors and something I always wondered, I don't want to make a new thread so I will just ask it here. I had a terrible L&D Exp. with my third son, not with the hospital but with family. To sum it up, my step mom is the only mom I consider to have, she is my best friend, we are super close, my husbands mother who is a wretched evil woman and my BIO mom who could be her twin sister, are very jealous over the relationship I have with my step mom. With all my children their are 2 people I wanted in the room when I actually had my children was my step mom and my husband. My step mom was the only person there wit my eldest, I wasn't with my husband yet and I was 16 and left an abusive B/F when I was still pregnant to go back and live at home. So anyway, with Son#2 I allowed MIL to be in the room as long as she wasn't DOWN there. I am a very modest person, even when pushing a kid out, which apparently is unheard of.
Well it wasn't until after I had him that MIL truly showed what a vile wench she was so obviously I did not want her in the room when it came time to have my third son. She could come in after and see him, I just didn't want her in DURING the pushing and stuff and when I was exposed. Same with my BIO mom who all of a sudden wanted to be involved after many years.
So my labor was not going very well because they were being total witches and being mean and rude to me and my step mom AT the hospital. I couldn't focus on labor because I was so upset and stressed over them. I handle pain well and do my breathing and stuff but I was making no progress and they had to stop the pitocin because it caused D Cells everytime they did it. My Dr. was sure it was because of all the stress and insisted I get an epidural, after I got one my labor progressed pretty fast. THANKFULLY when the guy came in to do my Epidural he made everyone leave but one person. I had my step mom stay and there were some of my L&D nurses in the room. My husband was mad at me that I didn't want his mom in the room and yea we almost got a divorce that day. So when they did the Epi, and everyone stepped outside I bursted out crying and told my mom and the nurses I didn't want anyone in the room when it came time to push but my step mom and husband. I was only allowing him in there because it's not like his childs birth is something he can get back.
I made this very clear, I mean I was sobbing uncontrollably because it finally all caught up to me and I know this wonderful expierance was being forever ruined by all this nonsense and drama. I had a 2 year old son at the time and NONE of the family was willing to watch him because they all felt they had a RIGHT to be in the room with me. My step mom would have but she is the one person I NEEDED with me. It was seriously a nightmare. So the the anastesiologist told me to calm down and consoled me and said I was the patient and if I didn't want anyone in the room to speak up and the nurses will handle it. They were standing right there. So I said, I only want my step mom and husband in the room when it's time to start pushing. They said ok.
So within 45 mins of getting the epi I dialated 5 cm and it was time, we were waiting for my Doc to get there and I looked at the nurses with a worried look waiting for them to ask everyone to leave because they wouldn't listen to me. My mom yelled at them to get out but they jumped up with "this baby is my blood and I have a right to be here more than you do" we couldn't wait any longer, the baby was coming so my mom yelled that all of them better get over in the corner and she held the sheet down to my knees so no one could see anything and I sat there crying in between pushes. So when I had my son, not only was my mom and step mom in the room, my MIL, My BIo mom and her B/F that I had met maybe Twice and my SIL and BIL were all in the room as well. Thankfully my step mom did a good job at keeping them from seeing anything but I am crying right now thinking about it all over again because it makes me so mad. After when everyone left to go fight in the hallway the nurses looked at me and said they were sorry but they have no right to ask anyone to leave. That they aren't allowed to.
The anastesologist in front of them clearly said that what I wanted in regards to visitors had to be followed.
So which is true??? Can RN's make visitors leave if it's what the PATIENT wants?