I'm taking microbiology this summer as well as a&p 1. My family doesn't understand how demanding these classes are. My dad is working 600 miles away for the next few months, so he can't help me with housework. My mom thinks she shouldn't have to do much since she works. The problem is, there are 13 animals in my house that I have to take care of almost by myself. 12 cats and 1 dog. I have to scoop 4 litter boxes three times a day, sweep the whole house every day and mop every other day, do dishes, do laundry, refill food bowls and water bowls, get in the mail, take out the trash, etc. When my mom comes home, she sends me to get her cigarettes, energy drinks, food, etc. I'm also in the process of applying to a university first the actual nursing program in January. Then my boyfriend also wants to spend a lot of time with me. None of them get how much time and effort needs to go into my classes. They all seem to think I don't really do much when I'm actually completely wiped out. How do I get them all to understand?
Those classes are not only a whole different animal, but nursing school is an entirely new planet. If you don't put your foot down firmly, you'll never make it through. One hint, after classes or clinical, go strict to the library and do most of your studying there. If you're not home, you can't be asked to do anything. Besides, you'll study much more effectively in that environment - zero distractions.
Honestly you are so right. Ive had to leave the house before. Its just easier if you remive yourseof from thr problem. Not trying to say famoly is a problem, but lets face it. It does make the issues you're mentioning a lot less problematic
As long as you're accepting the ongoing financial support of your parents, you're pretty much obligated to fulfill household responsibilities that they've assigned to you. But it may be a good idea to establish clear guidelines and attempt to reach a compromise when possible. For instance, could the mopping frequency be reduced? Is there a pressing need to scoop litter boxes 3X a day? Actually, as a mom - I fail to see that the chores you have listed are 'overwhelming', especially if you take the time to quantify your labor in terms of the cost of your room and board.
As for the BF? I have no ideas... if he's miffed about being neglected now, it's probably going to become a huge issue when you begin your clinical classes.
Hi
Your list of chores sounds daunting to me but that's because I'd never have an indoor cat but if I did . . . it would only be one cat and one litter box. That's just too many cats in one house and too many litter boxes.
I'm wondering how old you are? It might not be a good time for a boyfriend right now. But "dating" is for finding out if you are compatible so if he isn't supportive of your choice to get a nursing degree or if he complains about you not spending time with him or he doesn't help you out maybe with the chores at your home, that will tell you whether you and he are going to make a good fit.
I certainly would never go buy my mom cigarettes - I'm very anti-smoking and I'm not going to help someone with a bad habit like that PLUS . . .that is not your responsibility!
Staying in your parents home does mean you shouldn't be respectful and helpful and maybe even contribute financially if you can but I'm with the other posters who think it is a good idea for you to move and I'm glad that will happen in January.
In the meantime, have a talk with your family about what you are coming to us about. You are a grown-up now and should be able to set limits in a respectful manner. Depending on the family of course; some are simply dysfunctional. So, there is no magic formula for working with families who don't listen or respect you.
I wish you the best!
You know, i had clinicals at a place where you arent allowed to be hired or attend clinical if you were a smoker. They nicotine test you for safety of pts with pulmonary problems. Honestly,
NeoNatMom
1 Article; 676 Posts
Honestly you are so right. Ive had to leave the house before. Its just easier if you remive yourseof from thr problem. Not trying to say famoly is a problem, but lets face it. It does make the issues you're mentioning a lot less problematic