I've never been in a position where I had to manage interactions with mean girls until this class. I tolerated it for as long as I possibly could, then blew up at all of them. Now we're ignoring each other with them believing they are in the right because how I reacted is somehow worse than all the jokes, attempt to humiliate me, name calling, saying that I'm a fake person simply because I don't really participate in their unprofessional behavior in a school atmosphere and so forth.
Its just overwhelming being assaulted with comments about yourself that you know in your heart of hearts isn't true.
Just curious how you handle people like this? How about when they gang up on you and you're completely on your own?
May I suggest that you read a book called, "Crucial Conversations and Crucial Confrontations". I am socially awkward and had some trouble in school, but I also made like minded friends. You have to stop caring about what the bullies say and put all your time and effort into learning how to be a good nurse.
Things will get way better when you are out of school. However, there is often people like this in the work place as well. Surround yourself with like minded people and you will be fine.
I think what bothers me most is that I lashed out and dont feel sorry that I lashed out. Objectively there are better ways to handle this. My grades are high. I speak a certain way. I make an active effort to be kind and friendly to everyone. I just keep my personal life private and separate and I keep to myself. One of the girls called me fake and said she made an effort inviting me places. The reality was every single invite I got seemed contrived and rooted in problems. I would say no majority of the time. I didnt trust them. I had no problem with them but I did not trust them. And now in hindsight learning all the research they did on me, I see my instincts were correct
I guess it bothers me of being called something I'm not. I feel ok with being called names based on them disliking me but I do hate accusations of inauthenticity
That said, I learned alot in this thread. I imagine work might be easier because when youre working youre not in a group setting for hours on end with a group of people who dislike you and find petty ways to make your lives miserable with a smile on their face. That or I can switch jobs. I'm sure I'm underestimating work but I can't imagine anything more insufferable than having to go to class with these girls for a whole year.
I am sorry that your administration has not done anything to improve the situation. It also sounds like everyone involved is very young and extremely immature. None of you are in high school anymore, so please stop acting like it, no matter how much you want to wail and kick your feet like a child.
Once you get into the working world, you will encounter mean nurses of all ages, grumpy and demanding patients, and you will not have the "luxury" of talking back like a haughty teenager. "Clean your side of the street," as the saying goes. I recommend you take some courses on communication and conflict resolution. People who try and bully are not worth anyone's time, most certainly not yours.
OMG MY class mate and I were just talking about this what i can'nt understand is how the hell can someone talk when they already fail out of on nursing program and still are bullsh*ting Nursing is a professional career and should be taken very serious.
A couple girl in my class are so childish it's crazy.
bgxyrnf, MSN, RN
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Honestly, just ignore them. Interact as you must but keep the interactions professional.
And get the high scores on the tests... and know your stuff in clinicals.
And find an ally because clinicals are tough to pull off if you're flying solo.