I had the honor today as an aide to make my resident as comfortable as possible. His granddaughter and husband came in the room asking questions as to how his appetite has been, his medications which I'm not allowed to know and just general concern cause he is going down hill. I didn't know what to tell them. But I did let her feed him breakfast and the husband read the bible to him. I feel it's important for family to be involved in the care. Especially if their towards the end. That might be the last time they see them and want to spend time with them. But how do I say, I don't think paps going to be around much longer, cause only god knows that. ???? It's aweful I've been an aide for amonth and read the death notices in the paper and think I know that person and I cared for them. And niow they're gone
Jul 4, '04
I agree with above posts. A couple of things come to mind in reading your post. Something that you can do is to ask the family about what his life has been like. They usually recall the good times they've had with him. Nothing wrong with a comment such as, "he's lived a productive life." Or "He's really lived a special life, hasn't he?" It just brings back good memories and helps the family to remember how special their time with him has been.
Another comment you made:
"and then they're gone." I really look at it as if they went home. If a person has any spirituality, the feeling is that the life here on earth is temporary. We will meet again.
There is a book called, "Healing Conversations: What to say when you don't know what to say." Author: Nance Guilmartin. Very good. I saw the author speak and really enjoyed her.
You sound like a very caring person. Thanks for all you do. You can take care of me any time! (I'm headed for the Alzheimers Unit any day now!
Last edit by Audreyfay on Jul 4, '04
: Reason: because I forgot to put in any punctuation. Alzheimers...here I come.