horrible attitudes

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Specializes in Tele.

there is a particular individual that always has an attitude in the morning when she is given report to. every morning is the same thing, always with a horrible mean look on her face, not one 'hi' or 'goodmorning'...... sometimes I feel incompetent next to her.. anyways, I casually had a converstation about her, that I dislike giving report to her about the attitude--- and one person in the group who I was talking to brought it to the manager. this morning after doing report, I was sent to the managers office, with the clinical nurse specialist, manager and charge nurse--- They were asking me, why I like floating to other units, and then they said, is it a particular person, and mention the nurses name who gives me attitude in the morning-- and there I am telling them, that i don't hate her, I just dislike the attitude-- and I like floating to other units to see different kinds of patients.

I feel very upset over the situation, to the fact that i could not sleep tranquilly at all when I came home. I feel that it is so petty of the management team to come to me about something I said so casually in a conversation and did not meant it to be a big deal. I happen to give report to this particular nurse every week-- this particular nurse knows I dislike this nurse, but i end up giving report to her--- never have i asked to have the assignment changed for my liking. since I like floating, they offered me to 'look into' possibly me going to the float pool. which is something that i do not want to do, because most of my coworkers are very cool and i like them.

just venting! needed to get it out!

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Specializes in telemetry, long-term care, oncology.

Dear busy Bee. so many of us know how you feel. How can a great job be spoiled. so much love and caring you do all shift and then there is the report time. yuck. and why the questions and nastiness. yep we know how you feel. how many times I've dreaded reporting to some nurses. keep your chin up and your attitude pleasant. hang in there...and be a part of the good vibes on your unit.

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Specializes in ED, ICU, MS/MT, PCU, CM, House Sup, Frontline mgr.

they are thinking of sending you to float pool...? it sounds like they may have been looking for an excuse to transfer you and this is the reason they will use to do so. in the future, do not express your feelings about your unit or other nurses to anyone outside of maybe your spouse (assuming your spouse does not have a big mouth) and those of us on here since we do not know of you in person. this kind of drama (tit for tat) or misunderstanding happens when you express an opinion (even casually) and it is misinterpreted or poorly represented by others either on purpose or by accident.:twocents:

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Specializes in Peds Hem, Onc, Med/Surg.

Agree with the poster above. Its not your fault! We all think we have buddies as coworkers which we might but not as buddies that we can say working stuff too. One slip up and like you, end up in the managers office which to me is stupid. What are we, 6? I have been burned the short time I have been on the floor, and it was a nurse that I really really look up to and really trusted.

Especially if the person you said something against is their fav nurse or a very good nurse, they are going to do everything possible to get rid of whoever is causing the issue. I don't complain about my floor ever when I am working with them or hanging out with them. I come on here and do it. :D

Sending good waves your way! Don't let it get you down!

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Specializes in neurotrauma ICU.

Were they getting on to you about saying bad things about the other nurse? Because I can see how maybe they were just trying to get your opinion and then use it against her...like calling her in and saying something like "your attitude is so bad that other nurses would rather float than give report to you" (hopefully without using your name!).

Either way, I hope it works out for you and you don't have to put up with her attitude any longer.

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Bottom line, when you're in a professional environment don't say anything about anybody that you wouldn't want repeated in front of that person. A huge percentage of the posts on this site are related to issues where people are saying things, repeating things, gossipping about things, etc etc. If you have a legitimate issue, document everything and take it to the proper superior. If you're not willing to document, keep it to yourself. People have to realize that when you work in an institutional environment with a lot of employees, you will ALWAYS have poeple issues. People are poeple, they are not perfect, some are moody, some are angry, many have issues. Just do your job. Also, if people challenge you when you give report, do they have a valid point? One of my biggest pet peeves in the institution that I work in is no one holds anyone accountable for anything. When I used to work in ICU the oncoming nurse would inspect your patinet head to toe and eveything better be right. Nowdays, when I'm doing QA, I find undated IV's, unlabeled tubing, unchanged dressings, etc etc, and I hear, well, that's the way it was when I started my shift. Well, why did you not hold the person accountable that gave you report?

I don't know what kind of environment you work in, but maybe this crabby nurse gets tired of things being left undone. I always personally chanllenged myself to try to make sure that the oncoming nurses could not find ANYTHING that I had left undone. It made me a much better nurse.

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Specializes in Community Health, Med-Surg, Home Health.

I understand how you feel, there are some people that can sour an entire unit. I also agree with accessqueen, however, to keep comments to yourself or you may encounter some unpleasentness before you are ready. We never know who is connected to whom, even those that act as though they don't know each other.

One thing to look into...did you really float because you liked the experience of dealing with different sorts of patients or was it to avoid this nurse? Because, if you really like floating, then, maybe this is better for you. Or, try to deal with this nurse, if she is the only thorn on your side that comes along with working in a pleasent place. And, maybe take sourpuss to the side and ask her if she has any personal issues with you, then ask how can they be resolved.

There was this one nurse that was known to have a HORRIBLE attitude. Everyone walked eggshells around her, and I didn't experience much of it because I normally worked the late clinic. Eventually, she was assigned to work late with me, and the first day, I came out and asked her what the deal was. I said to her that I would rather hear from her mouth what makes her this way and allow me to make my own decisions rather than to listen to the others. She opened up and shared alot! And, from then, we became best friends, almost. She used to make sure I got a ride home each night, shared her nursing experiences and would pull my coat tail before I got into hot water. Everyone still talks about her, but, I love her. She is still mean to many of them, but, while I still believe she can be better towards them, I know her differently.

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Specializes in Tele.

thank you to all your responses!!!

never I again will make this mistake ever again. I do enjoy being a nurse, and wish to stay on the floor.

I wrote that to my manager a few mins ago to see what she will say. Eventually I will leave that place.........

so frustrating.

anyways, thanks again for all your great thoughts. i will definitely vent here and not to anyone else!!

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