Honors Breakfast indigestion

[SunDazed, BSN, RN]

Went to a breakfast at work to honor all the 5 year, 10 year, 15 year, etc. It was an odd one. We have more than 100 employees but less than 200. It is a hospice company in a rural area. Many of the nurses have gone to nursing school together (one junior college ASN and one BSN program locally). Or worked at other hospitals or facilities together. 

We all expect hugs and such. Praises and good cheer. This time, it happened that at least one of the 15 year, 10 year, and 5 year nurse honorees all seem to reveal they were part of a big work 'clique'? And it also included the presenter/head of nursing. 

I was not aware of all of their 'deep' connections. One even confessed calling the other to talk smack. WTH? 

I think it was probably the first time some of the non-nurses finally had the spotlight of nursing politics shine right in their faces.

Myself, I was at a table of other well respected nurses who are not in the clique, but who show up every day to take care of the patients and families. And maybe have all also been sidelined in one way or another by the dynamics of the dominant group? We all choose our battles.

It was quite shocking. Still glad I am not part of the clique. I just love my work. 

Anyone else surprised when they found out there were cliques they were not part of? And did it impact your work? Or wanting to work at the place?

 

 

[subee, MSN, CRNA]

No.  Glad to do a good job mostly alone.  It doesn't mean that you have a job with no friends.  This is junior high worries.  

 

 

[toomuchbaloney]

Some people need a social connection at work more than others.  Do your own thing.  Don't assume that people are treating others unfairly because of social contact. 

[abbnurse]

That kind of thing never bothers me.  Perhaps when I was younger...but I am a member of the COB ( Crusty Old Bat)  club at Allnurses !  I am much happier to NOT be part of the clique, and in fact , I actively avoid it.

At my workplace, my nurse manager and three of the other nurses went to nursing school together.  There's a  mother  - and daughter - in law, there are sisters, cousins , childhood best friends, and other various connections between co - workers.  I still discover new connections now and then.   😉          

 

[SunDazed, BSN, RN]

subee said:

No.  Glad to do a good job mostly alone.  It doesn't mean that you have a job with no friends.  This is junior high worries.  

 

 

I am glad to do my job. If there was another hospice company that opened up here, I would probably go check it out. I guess I should have said that they were directing thinly veiled smack at me at the awards breakfast. So when others figured it out, my name was said loud enough by someone from the other side of the conference room that I heard it. And the CEO was a bit sheepish when I greeted her on my way out. Sheepish is not a word I would have ever used to describe her in the past. 

abbnurse said:

That kind of thing never bothers me.  Perhaps when I was younger...but I am a member of the COB ( Crusty Old Bat)  club at Allnurses !  I am much happier to NOT be part of the clique, and in fact , I actively avoid it.

At my workplace, my nurse manager and three of the other nurses went to nursing school together.  There's a  mother  - and daughter - in law, there are sisters, cousins , childhood best friends, and other various connections between co - workers.  I still discover new connections now and then.   😉          

 

It is the "oh" moments when I figure out the deeper connections. Just sends me to the market to buy more lottery tickets. Would quit nursing in a flash if I had the  means.

 

[abbnurse]

SunDazed said:

I am glad to do my job. If there was another hospice company that opened up here, I would probably go check it out. I guess I should have said that they were directing thinly veiled smack at me at the awards breakfast. So when others figured it out, my name was said loud enough by someone from the other side of the conference room that I heard it. And the CEO was a bit sheepish when I greeted her on my way out. Sheepish is not a word I would have ever used to describe her in the past. 

It is the "oh" moments when I figure out the deeper connections. Just sends me to the market to buy more lottery tickets. Would quit nursing in a flash if I had the  means.

 

  It's such a shame that grown people still do the " mean girl"  ( or "mean guy" ) routine.  It's so tiresome and so childish.  I have had co-workers like that, so I really feel for you.   

And I'm 100%  with you - although I love the work that I do ( substance use disorder recovery center), I would quit in a flash , too, if I ever got the winning lottery ticket !     Keep your head up and rise above those ....witches ( because I don't want to violate the Terms of Service, LOL ).