Having a melt down

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I didn't know where else to post this but here goes. It seems that life is again trying to sabatoge my plans. I start back to school and everything seems to be falling apart. Lets see where do I begin. My oldest daughter has to have tubes put in here ears again, now my youngest has to have her tonsils out, and if that isn't good enough I have two lumps in my breast and they want to you guessed it find out if it is cancer. Why can't all this stuff wait until Dec. when the term is over and I am not in the middle of 15 credits. I am having a meltdown and life seems to be biting me in the textbook. I have already dropped one class so that I don't feel like I am drowning. Am I ever going to get to be a nurse?

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First, take a deep breath and let it out slowly

Repeat.

Now, know that life will always throw things at us. It is how react that proves what kind of person we are.

You daughters will be ok, neither condition is life threatening. Surgery is scary, but try to take comfort in the positives. Lots of children have tubes put in their ears and have their tonsils taken out, so they will most likely get through these things ok. Use your time in the waiting room (while they are in surgery/recovery) to study and take your mind off things.

You could also use the time they are sleeping (which will be a lot) to study.

Now, for the lumps in your breasts. Try to remember that you are young. More than likely your Dr. is just being overly cautious (which is a good thing, IMO). Letting this distract you from your studies will do no good. Worrying won't change anything. You have done what you can for now. All that is left is to wait for biopsy results. Then take it from there.

Taking life one step at a time and trying to focus on the facts, not the what-ifs, is the best advice I can offer.

Good luck with everything! I hope all goes well for you and your daughters. :icon_hug:

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Specializes in PICU/Pedi.

Sorry...I don't think I have anything to tell you that would make you feel better. I can't imagine the stress you are under right now. I just couldn't read this and not pass on some hugs. I wish you the best. :icon_hug:

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I sure hope everything goes ok for you. Like DA314 said, take a deep breath. I have always been told "Life is what happens when you make other plans", geesh isnt that the truth. I wish you the best of luck.

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So sorry you are dealing with all this!!!

If it's any comfort, 75 to 80% of all breast biopsies are negative for cancer. And that's a National Cancer Institute statistic. I've been through 3 of them myself, so I know how stressful they are!

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I just what to say besides I'm sorry about everything that seems to be going wrong. Just wanted to wish you the best--remember that if it's meant to be it will happen. I know that is cliche and not what you want to hear but, it really is true.

Not that this is comparable to your situation but, I know many people who have been forced to retake pre-reqs over and over. The point is that they stuck to it. If this is something you really want, you've got to look yourself in the mirror and remind yourself that you are a nurse. Try not to look at anything with a set plan. Between our plans, life happens. If you cannot handle 15 credits, take 12. It's better to graduate in 5 or 6 years than not at all. As for you and your family, I wish you all good health.

Best of luck to you.

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Specializes in Hospice/Palliative Nursing.

I'm sorry about your situation and especially the health concerns for your family. {{{{HUGS}}}}

Just remember this:

Brick walls are there for a reason. They let us prove how badly we want to be a nurse. :nurse:

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I just wanted to thank everyone for all the wonderful words of encouragement. I have gotten some good news my oldest daughter (9 yrs old) doesn't have to have surgery they are taking a wait and see if the meds help look at it. So I am so thankful for that. My youngest does have to have surgery but she will be okay I know that in my heart. As for myself, I am going to take a medical withdrawl this term and go back next term. They are going to schedule an appointment for me to have the mass removed and check it for cancer. I know that no matter what I will go back and become a nurse I haven't wanted anything more in my whole life other then my children. I can't thank everyone enough for the kind words and support thank you for the bottom of my heart.

Kimberly

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That is good news that your oldest daughter does not have to have surgery at this time. Everything will work its course and you will get through it. I wish you and your family the best of health and I hope your outcome is of good health also! :icon_hug:

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I'm sure you made the right decision for you and your family. And I'm so glad your one daughter won't need surgery!

Please let us know how everything goes and come back here often. We can give you support and keep you in the nursing student frame of mind. :)

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