Have you ever felt defeated?

[Destiny12]

Hello all,

have you ever felt defeated? if so when and what lead you to feel defeated. Also how did you overcome feeling defeated? I can honestly say I feel defeated. I have no fight left in me. Both my professional and personal life is currently taking a beating. I do not know what direction to go. I am in the long process of job hunting and so far every opportunity is either too far or the hours are not do able. I have always tried to live a good life, this is my second career. It's really hard right now. I really need encouragement, my faith in really being tested. I feel really confused when it comes to spirituality what role dose God play in my life?

[springybaybee]

Well there is only one direction to go and that is up. If you start to bury yourself in a hole, it is very dificult to get out. And like a lot of people have replied to you overall, what does not kill you often makes u stronger..so whatever you are going through try to think of the positives and not the negatives associated with it because that will only bring you down

[Penelope_Pitstop, BSN, RN]

I can't answer as to what role God plays in your life. I do know that I heard a phrase once - "feel distant from God? Guess who moved!" And that's all I'm going to say about that.

But anyway, I felt defeated this morning. I have developed a great deal of patience in the 6 years I've worked in the hospital (plus the time I spent as a waitress and secretary), but this morning my patience was shot with a patient. I wasn't mean, but I was abrasive and harsh. She needed to have limits set, but I didn't have to react the way I did. I feel defeated when I let a patient get to me in that way - to the point that my mood is effected.

[Escape5]

I've been lurking for a while on these boards but felt the need to de-lurk to reply to your post. I have been spirituality-confused as well due to many reasons (mostly personal issues, nothing major just some unwanted life changes). I have an RN job which I like most of the time but is no longer challenging me....combined w/ the personal stuff, I am just definitely needing a change of environment...wishing I felt content and stable in at least one area of life!

Anyways, won't go into my whole story but I definitely felt like I relate to the things you've said and I wanted to let you know that you're not alone. Life throws curve balls, and as much as I don't undestand why, it is simply not fair at times. I still think the easiest way I find comfort is in the conviction that there is a reason for the suffering you are going through. You may not know it for a while, but going through rough times is changing your life in ways that allow you to get to better places.

Hang in there and keep holding on to the hope you have that things will get better, even if it's just a small amount of hope. Life WILL get better and time will demonstrate there is something great out there for you...perhaps something so great that you simplycan't imagine it now.

[jjnmrsmom]

one of my patients gave me this passage from a book to read. it touched my heart and hopefully it will touch yours. :heartbeat

you need not fear the future, for i am already there. your future is in my hands; i release it to you day by day, moment by moment. therefore, do not worry about tomorrow. each day of life is a glorious gift, but so few people know how to live within the confines of today. much of their energy for abundant living spills over the time line into tomorrow's worries or past regrets. their remaining energy is sufficient only for limping through the day, not for living it to the full.

[determined2doit]

Defeated? Yes sometimes I feel defeated. But here's what I did when I was searching for a job, (this is a second career for me also). I had a congrats party for getting a job. I invited all my friends, had plenty of food( Love to cook and eat!) and all my friends were asking me so where did you get the job at? I said oh this is an advance praise party, cuz I know God is going to open the doors! Multiple offers came...after sometime. DONT be discouraged, I know it is tough, especially for NG's, but don't give up. Keep praying, keep praising, and watch what God will do! God bless and I'm prayin for ya!